DR relationship. When to pull the plug....?

[enos234]

I met a nice Dominican girl 2 years ago...met her on the beach at a resort. She was with a half-brother from the US and she had her little girl with her. Never thought I'd hear from her again but...sure enough she called and after some rapid Spanish learning on my part (she doesn't speak English)we've been in constant contact ever since.

I've been reading many threads with interest and have gone back and forth from being positive to extremely disappointed. I never expected this whole thing to work out so I'm not going to feel wripped off or anything and I'm pretty sure what the general answer will be but I need to know what to do.

I've been to visit several times, and I've been to her home town to meet her parents (I think its called Guayubin but I can't find it on a map) and I have also met her extended family. In fact, the brothers trucked me around all day meeting cousins and such which was interesting because only my girlfriend can understand my crappy Spanish.

Any who things seemed to go very well. Yes, I did send some cash now and then but I was rarely if ever asked to. I did on my own accord. And yes, she was keen on getting maried prior to knowing me well (we only had one quick date during my first visit) which has always concerned me. She seemed to be very sincere and wanted a loyal man that didn't have 3 girlfriends which she explained was common in the DR. I wanted to get married and have her and her daughter come live with me but prior to signing a contract with gov't to repay and potential social assistance for 3 years I wanted to get her a visitor visa to meet my folks and she if she'd like it here. Well, I spent time and effort on trying to get one and I'm not even sure she applied the first time but the second time was this fall and she was declined. Very disappointing...! I've lost some hope of proceeding since but have lots of time and feelings invested and don't want to be negative from one or two set backs.

I want to start a family and have good intentions but don't want to take a leap with someone whom I've only spent several weeks at time with mostly on a beautiful resort setting. What should I do?

Secondly, and maybe more important starting about 5 weeks ago I can't get ahold of her often (has a sankie feeling to it). She's never had a job while we've been together but now has and says she works all day and can only talk on Sunday's. Apparently her boss won't allow any calls. This latter question seems very sankie like but she says she gets her daughter off to school, then to work and then is home at 11 PM and goes to bed. Until recently we spoke almost everyday and she says she wants to spend Christmas with me at the resort but I don't know what to do. I know she's had a lot of problems with her phone but she used to get upset with me if I didn't talk to her every day and then all of sudden...nothing for 3 weeks, and then only once a week after that. Says she loves when we talk and she has nothing going on but...??. Maybe its reading these postings, but I'm losing faith both in being able to proceed without a visa and in her truthfulness. Is this true about working in a store? 8am-11pm (I don't see it).

[gary short]

She dumped you cause she found a another mark.......good luck..

[Rocky]

You need to find out exactly where that town is located, and/or it's actual name, and ask someone to go over there and find out what's going on.
Pay someone, if you have to.

[AnnaC]

My very simple answer is, dump her.

No explanation necessary if you've read everything here.

[vince1956]

Flick the main switch not pull out the plug delete the western union phone no out of your mob

[vince1956]

She was with a half-brother was with a half-brother

[vince1956]

Originally Posted by Rocky

You need to find out exactly where that town is located, and/or it's actual name, and ask someone to go over there and find out what's going on.
Pay someone, if you have to.

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[cobraboy]

Originally Posted by vince1956

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[Victor Laszlo]

For what it's worth, Guayubin is in Monte Cristi Province about 25 miles northeast of Mao. It's on route 31, about 5 miles south off Highway 1.

[enos234]

So that's crap about the work thing? She's working at a store in Santiago apparently. Wants to come to the resort when's she's done work on the 19th or 20th and she probably won't go back to work since she has a back injury from a car accident.

Seems weird cuz she's ask for money a couple of times in the last two years but not much. I've brought lots of gifts for kids and her alike but she seemed to understand that I couldn't do that all the time. I could call absolutely any time until recently.

I have met her entire family in at least 3 different cities and they are all super nice. I get along with her sisters really well but there's a bit of a language barrier to a certain extent. I talk to her mother all the time.

Until just recently it seems pretty good with the exception of one bad visit last May where she was una perra (apparently women problems...).

Is there no good stories to be had here? It doesn't sound like the odds are very good? Is maybe cuz the people with success are not on-line here?

Been a good experience all-in-all even if it is over. Got to see lot's of the country, meet nice people...kinda hard of the pocket book but it also forced me outside a comfort zone and made me more adventureos....AND...it is only money.

Funny....I didn't need to read these post to be suspect on the whole thing, but I wish that I'd read them sooner. I love the DR and the women are maybe the best part but I would've played the field a bit more maybe???? I would've sent no cash what-so-ever....then you'd know what's up...maybe???