Can you help with Loving a DR women

[Nyeden]

Originally Posted by AnnaC

Thinking out loud here but if you found her on the internet that tells me she owns a computer or works in a place where she has the use of one?

And of course we know that on the internet you can only meet and talk to one person right?

Of course you're in lust errr I mean love but search out all the info on the DR and ask yourself why is a 28 year old Dominicana not married yet?

Even girls that are going through to be doctors and lawyers and are not "legally married" have a husband.

Ok that's generalizing but you all know what I'm saying.

Lwoodall,

I have to agree with Anna, its is very rare that a 28 year old woman is single in D.R especially if she comes from a very poor family, and if she is very poor how can she afford to spend all the time in a computer ? chatting with you or other possible men? I think she is is seeing $$$ Just Beware.......

[miguel]

Originally Posted by cobraboy

What, in your opinion, is a good age difference between a couple, one of whom is Dominican? Maybe minimum/maximum?

ALL members here know how I feel about guys dating and marrying girls young enough to be their daughters. It's old news.

My opinion means NOTHING because no matter what my opinion is, everybody is different.

ALL I can tell you is that I will never date anybody younger than my daughter. It makes ME (NOTE: "ME") feel like a dirty, perverted and desperate old man.

Now, I will say that I have NEVER, EVER, heard, on this site or anywhere, an old man saying:

"I am 70 and my wife is 30 and even if it has worked for us, don't do it".

They ALLLLLLLL say the same thing: "it works for me, so go for it".

Of course, what else are they going to say when they marry someone old enough to be their daughters or granddaughters. There's no reason to be unhappy.

"Lucky" devils, haha!.

Anna, to answer your question:

IN MY OPINION, the old guys are to blame. Why?, because he should know better than to trust that "fresh" meat.

See, they should know what's the real reason "fresh meat" is after them for.

But, what do I know, I am only "96"!.

[chuckuindy]

Originally Posted by miguel

58, 54, 50, it's still rididulous.

Oh the insanity...

Next "victim", please.......

What the F do you know about love?

Chuckuindy

[chuckuindy]

Originally Posted by AnnaC

I have a suggestion for a new topic.

Who's to blame?

is it the old guys that lose their minds when fresh meat is offered to them or should the blame go to the fresh meat that hangs around the butcher shop looking for victims?

Neither, it is just a natural phenomenon that happens millions of times a day all around the world.

Chuckuindy

[AnnaC]

And then again what the heck, if a guy is 60 how many good years does he have left? Even if he knows he's being used that's up to him to do what he wants with his life and money right?

That goes for women as well as far as I'm concerned.

We are just here to tell you the stove is hot just in case. We are like parents telling children of all ages the dangers or the world and the big bad wolf and boogiemen/women so you'll know if and when you run into one.

What you actually do with your life and money is up to you as long as you go with eyes open and have the knowledge to know when you are stepping head first into crap

Peace

[chuckuindy]

Originally Posted by AnnaC

And then again what the heck, if a guy is 60 how many good years does he have left? Even if he knows he's being used that's up to him to do what he wants with his life and money right?

That goes for women as well as far as I'm concerned.

We are just here to tell you the stove is hot just in case. We are like parents telling children of all ages the dangers or the world and the big bad wolf and boogiemen/women so you'll know if and when you run into one.

What you actually do with your life and money is up to you as long as you go with eyes open and have the knowledge to know when you are stepping head first into crap

Peace

LISTEN!!!!!!!

This is the best advice you will ever hear from anyone.

Good job, Anna

Chuckuindy

[twincactus]

Originally Posted by Nyeden

Lwoodall,

I have to agree with Anna, its is very rare that a 28 year old woman is single in D.R especially if she comes from a very poor family, and if she is very poor how can she afford to spend all the time in a computer ? chatting with you or other possible men? I think she is is seeing $$$ Just Beware.......

The fact that she is 28 and single *may* be a good sign. My wife and I have been married for 2 1/2 years. I am 45. She is 19. I could never find a more wonderful woman anywhere on the face of the Earth. She has been in the States for about 7 months now and is exactly the same as she was when we met. She is an angel pure and simple.

Now for a few comments. Most of the people here are correct. Your chances of getting a good one in your situation are very low, but some of the things you said make me think you may have found one. When I was dating my wife, it was the same way. Decent Dominican families closely guard their daughters and instill the fear of God in them about sleeping around. believe it or not there are some decent girls left on the island, albeit very few. I was not allowed to take her out all night and most times one of her sisters was sent along with us. Decent Dominican families will do exactly what you said, mom will hang close to make sure you don't "spoil" her daughter. I am not saying this is the case, but it sounds like it could be.

I also met my wife online and she was very upfront with me about the other guys she was talking with. As soon as we got serious she cut off all ties with any of the others. You CAN meet a good person on the internet but as some people here have said, be very very careful. Watch for the signs. Don't let your guard down even when things are going great. You might just end up with a winner like I did. I run a website, Dominicans to the USA and we have several guys there who have had relationships with Dominican ladies. We have some who got scammed and are still on the board, and some that have gotten married and brought their spouse to the USA. It runs about 50-50. I invite you to stop by and ask the question on our forum too. People will be brutally honest with you, but they are not trying to be mean, just trying to help you. Good luck in your quest.

-Tim

[twincactus]

Originally Posted by chuckuindy

Neither, it is just a natural phenomenon that happens millions of times a day all around the world.

Chuckuindy

....And I'll add in most places in the world it is considered normal, even desirable. Young women in those countries are taught that older men are more stable financially, are good providers, and are usually done "sowing their wild oats". Only in the US is it considered "perverted". What a shame.

-Tim

[Nyeden]

Originally Posted by twincactus

The fact that she is 28 and single *may* be a good sign. My wife and I have been married for 2 1/2 years. I am 45. She is 19. I could never find a more wonderful woman anywhere on the face of the Earth. She has been in the States for about 7 months now and is exactly the same as she was when we met. She is an angel pure and simple.

Now for a few comments. Most of the people here are correct. Your chances of getting a good one in your situation are very low, but some of the things you said make me think you may have found one. When I was dating my wife, it was the same way. Decent Dominican families closely guard their daughters and instill the fear of God in them about sleeping around. believe it or not there are some decent girls left on the island, albeit very few. I was not allowed to take her out all night and most times one of her sisters was sent along with us. Decent Dominican families will do exactly what you said, mom will hang close to make sure you don't "spoil" her daughter. I am not saying this is the case, but it sounds like it could be.

I also met my wife online and she was very upfront with me about the other guys she was talking with. As soon as we got serious she cut off all ties with any of the others. You CAN meet a good person on the internet but as some people here have said, be very very careful. Watch for the signs. Don't let your guard down even when things are going great. You might just end up with a winner like I did. I run a website, Dominicans to the USA and we have several guys there who have had relationships with Dominican ladies. We have some who got scammed and are still on the board, and some that have gotten married and brought their spouse to the USA. It runs about 50-50. I invite you to stop by and ask the question on our forum too. People will be brutally honest with you, but they are not trying to be mean, just trying to help you. Good luck in your quest.

-Tim

OK, Tim but your wife is 19 now so I assume that she was still 16 1/2 when you started talking or met. Any parent in their right mind will guard a 16 1/2 daughter of theirs going out with a 40 year old something man, not just " Dominican families" That's still a child in my eyes. LWOODALL's gal is 28 almost 30.

[twincactus]

Originally Posted by Nyeden

OK, Tim but your wife is 19 now so I assume that she was still 16 1/2 when you started talking or met. Any parent in their right mind will guard a 16 1/2 daughter of theirs going out with a 40 year old something man, not just " Dominican families" That's still a child in my eyes. LWOODALL's gal is 28 almost 30.

That is exactly the problem with the USA attitude on this. It's a cultural thing. Actually she was 17 almost 18, in fact I forgot she just had a birthday at the end of November so she is 20, sorry Anyway the point I am trying to make is that traditional Dominican families 1) don't see a problem with the age or the age difference if they approve of the man. 2) will protect their daughters no matter what their age is. Her sister is 23 and her mom is the same with her. She is not married and is very pretty (hint guys).

-Tim