Can you help with Loving a DR women

[Lwoodall]

I met a very pretty woman on the internet from Santo Domingo. I am from the United States. We chatted for about 3 months and then I had to go see her. She is beautiful. She, and her family, are very poor. I know the traps, however, I have fallen in love with her. When we were in Santo Domingo, her mother stayed with us constantly, which makes me think, she is a good women. We have not had sex, she says she thinks, we should be married, first. I am 54 and divorced and she is 28 and single, with no children. I am thinking about marriage, seriuosly and living in the DR with her. I need some advice, is my head on straight or crooked? I am at the point in my life, I want someone to be with until I die. I have looked in her eyes and I see love, which I THINK, I am a good judge of good and bad people. The problem is , my heart is as big as the moon, which hs gotten me in trouble, thru out my life, but I still chase my heart's dreams to try to be happy on this earth.
from, Helpless, but not really helpless.

[Chris]

I'm moving this to Mars and Venus.

[Rafael Rothschild]

My suggestion would be for you to go to DR for a few months and get to know her and her family on a daily basis.
Is it possible for the relationship to work? My answer would be a cautious "yes"
Discuss with her every possible subject, find out what her beliefs and expectations are, tell her what yours are as well.
Remember your big heart could get you in trouble if it does not work simultaneously with your brain.

Discuss with her some of the following themes:

1.-We have the "obligation" to pursue happiness and be happy, for otherwise,
we will tend to make live miserable for all those around us.
2.-Refuse to live in a "valley of Tears"
3.-Face personal and family tragedy only if and when it occurs.
4.-Do not depend excessively on others.
5.-Have or create your own space and respect that of others as well.
6.-Don't be possessive with others and don't let others be possessive with
you.
7.-You don't need 100 umbrellas for a "rainy day"
8.-Life is too short to live it in fear.
9.-Remember (or learn about) our insignificant size and importance within
the known universe. If you don't, you are already paying too high of a
price.
10.-Life, and its interpretation, is not according to you or me.
11.-Learn about other cultures, you don't have to adopt them, but be
tolerant.

And finally, remember: you are the only creator and/or master of your own destiny.

Best of luck

[marliejaneca]

I need some advice, is my head on straight or crooked?

Crooked.

Don't be surprised if this thread is moved to another forum called "Men are from Mars...etc."

Please read all the posts in that forum, and then go back and read them again!

Tell me, would you date a woman half your age with no money and living in the slums of the US? Ask yourself why such a "beautiful woman" of 28 years would still be single? Of course, she wants to wait for marriage, that way, you will pop the question a lot sooner and then her and her families monetary problems will finally go away.

Please, please be careful. Also, don't be surprised -you are going to get an earful and sometimes not all that pleasant - but we are all just giving you good, knowledgable advice. If you don't want to hear it - then we can't help you. Simple as that.

Marlie

[shadInToronto]

Originally Posted by Lwoodall

I met a very pretty woman on the internet from Santo Domingo. I am from the United States. We chatted for about 3 months and then I had to go see her. She is beautiful. She, and her family, are very poor. I know the traps, however, I have fallen in love with her. When we were in Santo Domingo, her mother stayed with us constantly, which makes me think, she is a good women. .... How many? We have not had sex, she says she thinks, we should be married, first. I am 54 and divorced and she is 28 and single, with no children. I am thinking about marriage, seriuosly and living in the DR with her. I need some advice, is my head on straight or crooked? I am at the point in my life, I want someone to be with until I die. I have looked in her eyes and I see love, which I THINK, I am a good judge of good and bad people. The problem is , my heart is as big as the moon, which hs gotten me in trouble, thru out my life, but I still chase my heart's dreams to try to be happy on this earth.
from, Helpless, but not really helpless.

You asked, don't be offended, please .... IMO CROOKED and more than a few cells missing!!! She looked at you and saw $$$$$$$$$$$$. Chase your heart's dreams and get your a$$ burned

Btw, IMO this is all made up

[AnnaC]

Thinking out loud here but if you found her on the internet that tells me she owns a computer or works in a place where she has the use of one?

And of course we know that on the internet you can only meet and talk to one person right?

Of course you're in lust errr I mean love but search out all the info on the DR and ask yourself why is a 28 year old Dominicana not married yet?

Even girls that are going through to be doctors and lawyers and are not "legally married" have a husband.

Ok that's generalizing but you all know what I'm saying.

[cdi_747]

Originally Posted by Lwoodall

I met a very pretty woman on the internet from Santo Domingo. I am from the United States. We chatted for about 3 months and then I had to go see her. She is beautiful. She, and her family, are very poor. I know the traps, however, I have fallen in love with her. When we were in Santo Domingo, her mother stayed with us constantly, which makes me think, she is a good women. We have not had sex, she says she thinks, we should be married, first. I am 54 and divorced and she is 28 and single, with no children. I am thinking about marriage, seriuosly and living in the DR with her. I need some advice, is my head on straight or crooked? I am at the point in my life, I want someone to be with until I die. I have looked in her eyes and I see love, which I THINK, I am a good judge of good and bad people. The problem is , my heart is as big as the moon, which hs gotten me in trouble, thru out my life, but I still chase my heart's dreams to try to be happy on this earth.
from, Helpless, but not really helpless.

Kind gent,

keep in mind that she may really like you but to her she may be thinking that she will benefit from your headstart of experience and situation ie. your money and living in the states. if you feel like you see the love there nothing we can say here will detour you from pursuing her. i would tell her (even if you have no intentions of doing so) that since she wants to wait on sex until marriage then you would rather just give everything up here and move there. and make her think her living conditions wont change if she's with you. and hopefully the two of you will be happy there together.

good luck
cdi.

[miguel]

This thread, written by a 58 y/o man is so RIDICULOUS that even I (if you guys can believe it) am in a "loss for words".

Pure insanity!!.

[AnnaC]

He's only 54 not 58

[Lwoodall]

Thanks a lot for the imput. I have thought a lot about this and I think I have done some overkill when it comes to worrying. You gave me some good key points to think about.