Would you date...

[laurapasinifan]

well when you meet someone and the attraction urge is driving...you dont think about next week...or next year...you dont think about some of those criteria you offered....you go with the flow and if any of those criteria rise up and rain on your party...then thats the way it is....you find out when the time is right to find out.....who falls in love by checking off items on a list?

maybe if you have several people you are seeing.. and you are getting to a point where you want to decide which one to take it to another level, that you are not at yet...and you want to leave the other behind....then you take stock in those items you mentioned...

I really dont know how you can fall in LOVE with someone who you cant speak with...ie one of you at least doesnt know both languages.

The answers really can be all over the place....a guy who heads a company or a big dept in a company with future goals of climbing the corporate ladder....may think about his future spouse beyond the limits of love...he may think...will she hold me back?..will she be an embarrasment?

maybe at a certain age others have a level of success already and wouldnt not worry about that stuff...

who cant be taught to use a computer in no time at all????????

if your 7 year old can be a wizz by the time he is 12...why cant an adult be that same wiz in half the time?

a computer isnt needed to live!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...just like a TV or radio isnt needed....

a child or CHILDREN could have a huge effect on some ...if a girl i wanted to date had a child like my niece does...I would lay rubber leaving.....

life is too dynamic to answer...each person is a case unto themselves with all their "possibilities"

bob

[margaret]

Originally Posted by jrf

Someone with only a highschool equivalent education?

I would give them a chance as in see a movie, go for dinner but they would have to be well-read and self-dirrected learner of some sort or studying at night for me to be interested in them for anything more serious. I could be friends with anyone but I'm a well-educated woman with many interests of my own. Some men are threatened by women with more education. I met one man who is a restauranteur with ambition and drive, a good heart. He would discuss some deep subjects using the education he got in his family and his life experience. And he impressed me more than some very well-educated people I know. He had a lot of integrity. But he had a coaseness and informality about him that I would find embarrassing. I would only want to change him if I got involved with him. I don't want to play the role of Dr. Doolittle. No thanks. I think a man can do that more easily with a woman, but a woman can't do that with a man, in my opinion. Male pride? I don't know. Women have to be proud of their men.

Someone with a child?

No problem. If they are a dead beat, no thanks. It's true though that you take on the time and financial demands of someone with children.

Someone that does not speak english or your native tongue?

How would you communicate!? That non-verbal communication can only take you so far! If they were intermediate level, yes. It depends on the couple, English is not rocket science.

Someone that may not even know how to use a computer?

It's not rocket science, but it's one form of literacy. I guess I would have to set up a LAN and switch to DSL. Better to find a handy man who will renovate instead.

What exceptions are you willing to make in terms of 'choosing' or 'selecting' a mate?

Depends. No liars, no cheaters. They have to be exceptions you can live with, you can't look at men with the eye to changing and reforming them.

I'd wait almost a full year before deciding on a real commitment.

Yes, good idea.

What would you do? Or what has your experience been?

I would live with the person first before making a real commitment (i.e. marriage).

I know this is/may be old stuff but humour me)

Did I make your eyes glaze over? LOL

[AstonVila]

Originally Posted by jrf

Someone with only a highschool equivalent education?
Someone with a child?
Someone that does not speak english or your native tongue?
Someone that may not even know how to use a computer?

What exceptions are you willing to make in terms of 'choosing' or 'selecting' a mate?

I'd wait almost a full year before deciding on a real commitment.
What would you do? Or what has your experience been?

(I know this is/may be old stuff but humour me)

High School Education - Could probably be accepted
Child - No
No ingles - Ok, do you speak Dominican spanish? Probably not.
No Computer skills - What do you mean? Some American can't use a computer.

I think the kid and lack of communication are the biggest obstacles. I would not bend the rules for that.

[badpiece33]

Originally Posted by jrf

Someone with only a highschool equivalent education?
Someone with a child?
Someone that does not speak english or your native tongue?
Someone that may not even know how to use a computer?

What exceptions are you willing to make in terms of 'choosing' or 'selecting' a mate?

I'd wait almost a full year before deciding on a real commitment.
What would you do? Or what has your experience been?

(I know this is/may be old stuff but humour me)

This girl really got you freaked out, my advise is come with me to DR in Febuary and I will get you straightened out.

[jrf]

'Bob' great response. I guess the 'computer' issue was an analogy (sp) in regards to the level of education someone may have.
Yes, you can be so picky since there are many, and I believe, good women in the RD (just not at clasico of course).
And I agree about the language-you really do need to be able to converse.
It can get hairy enough even if you know some of the language. It gets pretty interesting when you are just not sure what was said. lol

Margaret,

'gay questions'? lol
I agree as well with all you said. I don't have a problem if they have a child already and am not sure why the other men here are afraid of that.

Yo Badpiece if that is an invitation groovy!

[shadInToronto]

Originally Posted by badpiece33

This girl really got you freaked out, my advise is come with me to DR in Febuary and I will get you straightened out.

Is there a cure for that ... how??? Maggie didn't mean he was and needed straightening out.

[bhale]

I have a friend with high school only. He has been in business for himself since he was 30 and nets over 1/4 million US dollars a year. Has under 5 employees Pretty smart SOB.

[suitelady79]

There are several men on the Forbes 400 (richest americans) who have only a high school or lower education and they are billionaires...so a HS education is not a paramount. It's about your motivation level. You don't have to have a degree or a diploma to make it or to be a successful person in life.

[shadInToronto]

Originally Posted by suitelady79

.... You don't have to have a degree or a diploma to make it or to be a successful person in life.

It helps one recognize when bovine scuzz is spewed at you.

[AZB]

Originally Posted by suitelady79

There are several men on the Forbes 400 (richest americans) who have only a high school or lower education and they are billionaires...so a HS education is not a paramount. It's about your motivation level. You don't have to have a degree or a diploma to make it or to be a successful person in life.

For every one highschool drop-out who is a millionaire, there are thousands who are flat broke and total losers. A highschool drop-out from DR has zero chances of getting ahead in life unless he is a good baseball player or a drug dealer.
AZB