Would you date...

[jrf]

Someone with only a highschool equivalent education?
Someone with a child?
Someone that does not speak english or your native tongue?
Someone that may not even know how to use a computer?

What exceptions are you willing to make in terms of 'choosing' or 'selecting' a mate?

I'd wait almost a full year before deciding on a real commitment.
What would you do? Or what has your experience been?

(I know this is/may be old stuff but humour me)

[tk toronto]

Originally Posted by jrf

Someone with only a highschool equivalent education?
Someone with a child?
Someone that does not speak english or your native tongue?
Someone that may not even know how to use a computer?

What exceptions are you willing to make in terms of 'choosing' or 'selecting' a mate?

I'd wait almost a full year before deciding on a real commitment.
What would you do? Or what has your experience been?

(I know this is/may be old stuff but humour me)

Someone with a high school equivalent education?

>possibly, if they have a good job and could support themselves substantially. There have been people known to have a high school education or less and are successful. Ex. businesspeople

Someone with a child?

>No, at my age I don't need any babymamadrama. Too much hassle.

Someone that does not speak English?

>We could be friends at first until they get a working knowledge of English (if in Canada) so that we could have meaningful conversation. I would also try to learn the other language if I was in that person's native country. I think that would be a cool way to learn about another language and culture.

Someone that may not know how to use a computer?

>My father didn't know how to properly use a computer until I showed him while I was in middle school, so I don't think not knowing how to use a computer is a huge deal. But, if that person were my age, it would be questionable, but there's a first time for everything. I mean, I don't know how to do certain things, for example, I don't know how to cook (yet, I will be learning tomorrow by helping my mother with Christmas dinner) Hopefully, someone wouldn't discriminate against me for not knowing how to do something that could be learned.

Exceptions, I would be willing to make is differences in opinion of social politics (to a degree), different culture is not a problem, different race is not a problem, whatever within reason. Every situation is different.

Real committment, I don't know, I've never really had "true" committment with anyone. I've had some committment, but not to the extent of some members on this board.

[AZB]

Some women are so desperate to have any man in their lives. He could be a motoconcho and they will gladly have babies with him.
Today i was in puerto plata visiting a friend. We went to eat pizza at a local place and here is what I saw: A foreign tall white woman comes in a motoconcho. She was average looking and the motoconcho (motorcycle taxi driver) was your average tigre, malvestido who lives in some callejon of a dangerous barrio. They both come in, she orders a pie to go and sit with him to wait on the order. At that point I realized that she was his girlfriend. She had this shine in her eyes as if was dating someone from the dominican royal family. They talked, and held hands while she was worshiping him with her avid eyes. This was a very sad case in my views. At this precise moment I had realized that we may have been giving some serious advice to many women like her who come asking about the behavior of "mi novio", my boyfriend, my fiance, husband etc etc. We don;t realize that many of these woman are actually falling head over heels for the motoconcho type street tigres who are worth 5 cents in their own country. The lowest of the lowest. God help these sad cases.
AZB

[jrf]

I agree. Not to generalize because I do know some very nice seemingly good people concho drivers. But would I befriend them? No.
They are on the front lines and see these women first and may be the first to fill the void in these ladies hearts.

But-answer the question...upon choosing and selecting someone to date what things are you willing to concede or what is absolute for you.

Really we should be choosing who we want to go out with the same as we would in our native country. Our brains do kinda go south too when we do lol.

So what ya think?

[tk toronto]

Originally Posted by jrf

Really we should be choosing who we want to go out with the same as we would in our native country. Our brains do kinda go south too when we do lol.

So what ya think?

I think that we should be choosing mates based on how we would in our native countries within reason. For example, does it make sense to have an absolute as being able to speak English fluently if you are in a country where English is not the/an official language? Probably not.
Other than that, I do think it is important to do the same thing we do at home because of exactly what you said about brains going south. When in a different place outside of your native country, you feel more free and unihibited, therefore taking more chances, so it is always important to keep certain standards the same as your native ones.

[jrf]

Language can be overcome. But the more and more time I spend there I would like to meet and get to know someone that lives on their own (may not be too many), has a car, a good job, and relatively the same level of intelligence.
The honeymoon is going to wear off and if you are left staring at someone who cant even email you, understand your philosophy, what do you do?
But then again-maybe I am just looking too hard at things.
Same level of intelligence - smarts is good enough for me.
Same idea of religion, etc.
But when someone seemingly is able to love you the way you would really want to be loved does that conquer all?

[Don Juan]

If we can verbally understand each other, and she is sweet and carries no baggage, nothing else really matters. Even if she has a child.
Education is important but not more so than a great personality.

[2LeftFeet]

I'd date someone with a HS education but they'd have to always want to learn and better themselves.--by reading or being curious.

No kids.

I could not date someone who did not speak a word of a language that I knew or had some working knowledge of. It would be impossible. If I didn't know ANY Spanish or they didn't know ANY English--no. If one of us knew some of one of the languages and worked on the language skills and the other person was patient-- It could be overcome.

I can tolerate a lot of things but a liar is not acceptable. I need someone with the same morals as me. Someone I know will be there for me in the time of a crisis. Someone respectable. Someone who I will not be embarrassed to bring home to my family. If I can't bring them home to Mom---then they're not for me.

A strong work ethic. If I'm out working everyday and they're not--problem.

[shadInToronto]

Originally Posted by jrf

Someone with only a highschool equivalent education? ... NO!!!
Someone with a child? ... ????!!!!
Someone that does not speak english or your native tongue? ... NO!!!
Someone that may not even know how to use a computer? .... NO!!!!

What exceptions are you willing to make in terms of 'choosing' or 'selecting' a mate? ... no exceptions!!!

I'd wait almost a full year before deciding on a real commitment.
What would you do? Or what has your experience been?

(I know this is/may be old stuff but humour me)

A log or rock would satisfy the aforementioned criteria ... if one's only objective is the horizontal salsa, yes, but, what the heck would you do for the remaining 22 hours in the day??? ... I'm being generous in assuming you'll perform for 2 hours.

[jrf]

Thanks for the generosity!