I married a Dominican

#1Gringa · #1 05-20-2007, 08:36 PM

Hello everyone, Just want to tell my story.............

This is my first time on DR1. I am married to a Dominican man for 10 years now. We met here in NJ in 96, got married in 97, had a son in 98 and daughter in 02. He is a good man, father and husband (so I thought). We have had our ups and downs, but I think the last year, I lost him. In 2004 we had our first trip to DR. This was his first time back to his country for over 17 years. We stayed at a resort in Juan Dolio, close to his city. Everyday we went to his city and I met everyone the family knows. Since then, he decided that every year he wanted to return to DR. In 2006, he went out there in Feb. by himself, then again in June with our son (8 yrs old). Both times he was out there for 2-3 weeks. I trusted him!! He is my husband for 9 years, he's not going to do anything. NOT!!! I found out this year that he hooked up with a sankiette in Feb of 06!!! When he took our son out there, he actually put it out in our son's face. He did a lot of things with this puta and my son caught on very fast. When my son told him that he was going to call mommy and tell her that he was doing a lot of things with this puta, my husband cried to him. He told my son not to say anything to me that mommy would not love him anymore. So for a whole year, my son kept this secret until this Feb. when my husband went out there again. I trusted him with so much, now my heart is broken. He made another mistake. He told a friend of ours about his little puta in DR. That friend told me and then I started investigating. While he was out there, I called him at 2am, he didn't answer the phone, but I had found a few DR #'s from phone records and called them up. La puta answered and I asked for my husband, and her dumb a$$ put him on the phone. NOW THAT HE IS BUSTED!!! His whole family lives here in NJ, and his mother and 3 sisters and a brother are very upset with him. They are all on my side, and he hates that. His life right now has been a living hell since he came home. The funny thing about all of this is that de is pi$$ed at me that I found out and is acting like I was the one doing something wrong. I know that the so-called threat was out there and that he wll never go out there again without me. I love him with all of my heart, but it is broken still. He has not apoligized to me yet, or admitted it to me, but I have a lot of patience and I know that my kindness is eating him up inside. He will one day ask for forgivenss, but only God knows how our marriage will end up to be. I don't think that it was my fault for trusting him, but that he made a very bad decision, and he has to live with this, and I will not ever let him forget it. I am watching him like a hawk now. I never in our 10 years of marriage thought that this would ever happen.

So being married to a Dominican man, has been like riding a roller coaster. We've had our ups & downs, and sharp turns, and at the end of the ride I don't know if I am thrilled from the excitement or if I want to puke. But I am trying my best to keep it all together, as a family.

miguel · #2 05-20-2007, 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by #1Gringa

Hello everyone, Just want to tell my story.............

This is my first time on DR1. I am married to a Dominican man for 10 years now. We met here in NJ in 96, got married in 97, had a son in 98 and daughter in 02. He is a good man, father and husband (so I thought). We have had our ups and downs, but I think the last year, I lost him. In 2004 we had our first trip to DR. This was his first time back to his country for over 17 years. We stayed at a resort in Juan Dolio, close to his city. Everyday we went to his city and I met everyone the family knows. Since then, he decided that every year he wanted to return to DR. In 2006, he went out there in Feb. by himself, then again in June with our son (8 yrs old). Both times he was out there for 2-3 weeks. I trusted him!! He is my husband for 9 years, he's not going to do anything. NOT!!! I found out this year that he hooked up with a sankiette in Feb of 06!!! When he took our son out there, he actually put it out in our son's face. He did a lot of things with this puta and my son caught on very fast. When my son told him that he was going to call mommy and tell her that he was doing a lot of things with this puta, my husband cried to him. He told my son not to say anything to me that mommy would not love him anymore. So for a whole year, my son kept this secret until this Feb. when my husband went out there again. I trusted him with so much, now my heart is broken. He made another mistake. He told a friend of ours about his little puta in DR. That friend told me and then I started investigating. While he was out there, I called him at 2am, he didn't answer the phone, but I had found a few DR #'s from phone records and called them up. La puta answered and I asked for my husband, and her dumb a$$ put him on the phone. NOW THAT HE IS BUSTED!!! His whole family lives here in NJ, and his mother and 3 sisters and a brother are very upset with him. They are all on my side, and he hates that. His life right now has been a living hell since he came home. The funny thing about all of this is that de is pi$$ed at me that I found out and is acting like I was the one doing something wrong. I know that the so-called threat was out there and that he wll never go out there again without me. I love him with all of my heart, but it is broken still. He has not apoligized to me yet, or admitted it to me, but I have a lot of patience and I know that my kindness is eating him up inside. He will one day ask for forgivenss, but only God knows how our marriage will end up to be. I don't think that it was my fault for trusting him, but that he made a very bad decision, and he has to live with this, and I will not ever let him forget it. I am watching him like a hawk now. I never in our 10 years of marriage thought that this would ever happen.

So being married to a Dominican man, has been like riding a roller coaster. We've had our ups & downs, and sharp turns, and at the end of the ride I don't know if I am thrilled from the excitement or if I want to puke. But I am trying my best to keep it all together, as a family.

You didn't learn your lesson since you are still with him, so what are you complaining about?.

Yeah, that's a nice way to have a happy marriage, watching him like a hawk and not letting him go to the DR by himself, sure, that will work!!.

You are lucky I am not in the mood for this bullschit!!.

#1Gringa · #3 05-20-2007, 09:58 PM

First or all, I am not complaining. Others are telling their story, so I thought that I would share also and get some kind of positive feedback if there was any. Not cramp that you are spreading. There was no lesson to learn. If you love and trust someone, then why would have I had to worry about him going alone. Now, that I see how putas are, then I know he will not leave this country again by himself. I didn't make that decision anyway, he did. My marriage will be a happy one again, in due time. As for watching him like a hawk, well, wouldn't you?

globalmike295 · #4 05-20-2007, 11:01 PM

My post was deleted, let's try it again.

Everyone, wants to get down and dirty every once in awhile, and if it cost's a few squid....wut da el

mountainfrog · #5 05-21-2007, 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by #1Gringa

.... I was the one doing something wrong..... He has not apoligized to me yet, or admitted it to me....

Now, that's very Dominican....
No tengo la culpa.
Eres tú.

m'frog

#1Gringa · #6 05-21-2007, 03:49 PM

Tambien, yo tengo la culpa. Yea, right!

M.A.R. · #7 05-21-2007, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by mountainfrog

Now, that's very Dominican....
No tengo la culpa.
Eres tú.

m'frog

like someone said, not a Dominican thing, but a MALE thing. Of course they always try to blame the woman, they are just looking for a way out.

But if he hasn't apoligize or admitted his fault your situation is gonna take a long time to repair. But always remember that time heals but to heal, each one of you must help by communicating and must be willing to make the relationship work. Don't blame yourself, you were nice enough to let him go on his own and this is how he pays back and in front of your son!!! Ay Dios mio que sinverguenza.

Did I say, Only Time Heals?

btw: Froggy be nice, she's going through a tough time and all you can do is joke around, Gringa what he is trying to say is that Dominicans never admit their faults, and actually that's wrong I was married to a non-Dominican man and he wouldn't admit some of his faults either.

mountainfrog · #8 05-21-2007, 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by #1Gringa

Tambien, yo tengo la culpa. Yea, right!

As he is Dominican it cannot be that it's his fault.
Supposing the 'puta' is a 'dominicana' it can't be her fault either.
In case you should be Dominican also...

then it's the bloody plane ticket's fault....

m'frog

mountainfrog · #9 05-21-2007, 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by M.A.R.

... not a Dominican thing, but a MALE thing.

Wrong.
It's typical for Dominicans (both sexes) not to admit any wrongdoing or accepting any fault or responsability for their actions whatsoever.

It doesn't matter whether they are caught red-handed or reason and logic prove one to be a culprit.

That's why it's not out of the ordinary that plane tickets, hotel rooms, taxis, accelerators, whatever are given the blame...

Very normal.

m'frog

Audra · #10 05-21-2007, 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by #1Gringa

First or all, I am not complaining. Others are telling their story, so I thought that I would share also and get some kind of positive feedback if there was any. Not cramp that you are spreading. There was no lesson to learn. If you love and trust someone, then why would have I had to worry about him going alone. Now, that I see how putas are, then I know he will not leave this country again by himself. I didn't make that decision anyway, he did. My marriage will be a happy one again, in due time. As for watching him like a hawk, well, wouldn't you?

Ask yourself this question, if he caught you cheating, would he stick around and try to make it work?