Help me understand - Page 3

DRob · #21 03-12-2008, 11:23 AM

The surest way to drive yourself crazy is trying to please everyone.

The second way is trying to be rational in an irrational situation, or making the effort to be reasonable with an unreasonable person.

And the quickest way you go crazy by dealing with the unreasonable and irrational: get into a relationship.

I agree with Rocky to the extent that many women (especially the ones I've been involved with)

can be utterly illogical, but imagine the same thing applies to men as well.

That said, an esposa with 4 kids by 2 other men, a live-in boyfriend and a strong sense of entitlement? I really feel for your brother in law.

AZB · #22 03-12-2008, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by adrianb

She was hot!

A mother of 4?? Hotttt??? I would sure like to see a picture of her.
AZB

Hipocrito Mejia · #23 03-12-2008, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by AZB

Why would any gringo come here and marry a woman with 4 kids (from 2 different men) and then take over the responsibility of supporting her, the kids and 2 other (live in) girls? What the hell is the matter with him? there aren't any single dominican women left in that area that he has to settle for a mother of 4????
AZB

Dumb gringo! He was letting his little head think for his big head.

Brovo35 · #24 03-12-2008, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by korejdk

...please, since I fail to comprehend this...

So there's this dominican lady, she has 4 kids ( 3 kids one dad + one other ) who got married in the DR few years ago or so...the gringo bought a business, and started to take care of her and the two girls who were living with her...classic story, she wasn't content ( U know what I mean ), the business was losing money, and the gringo got fed up and left the DR about 4 months ago or so...since then she's been out in the open with her local novio etc etc...so last week-end I am having a Leonel on the playa with the gringo ( who is regularly visiting the DR but not for her ) and he was talking about it etc etc and later on that day I was talking with her ( please don't ask me the circumstances ) and she was going on and on among the lines:
-why doesn't he want to see me
- why is he not paying for my ninas's school ( he's NOT the father )
- how can I pay for rent ( the local novio lives there )
- he's my husband, he has responsabilities ( yet the novio doesn't )
etc etc
I was playing dumb ( "no se, no se" ) yet how dumb do the Dominicans think that the gringos are ?!? Or is she really that dumb to believe what she's saying ? I mean, my common sense was screaming "R U *&%$ing serious", he has no responsability whatsoever ?!?!?!?!?
I fail to comprehend this, I really do...

I don't think that this is a thought process specific to Dominican women. I have known women in the US that hold very, similar beliefs. In addition, those beliefs would unfortunately be upheld by the US court system.

So instead of having a conversation about why her husband won't support her and her kids from a previous relationship you would have heard her laughing about how lucky she is to have court ordered support.

Chip · #25 03-12-2008, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Lambada

He was probably exercising male 'logic'.

touche

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CyaBye3015 · #26 03-12-2008, 12:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Rocky

I went out on a limb and accept all the heat it brings me.
It's actually not derogatory.
I think of women as artistic with round curves, while men are like an algrebraic equation and are rather square.
Of course, that's just my warped mind speaking, and tomorrow I might change my mind.
Perhaps it's my feminine side coming out.

PS: Don't take any of this seriously, at least not what I say.
I'm just entertaining myself.

Marco always treats me like a dope..... Perhaps it's my man tits!

Chip · #27 03-12-2008, 12:40 PM

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Originally Posted by korejdk

she's related to my wife...

Well that throw's out factor #1. What you apparently don't realize is that apparently she sees you as a side of beef too, otherwise she would not for one minute would tell you all of the stuff she did, ie she would never, ever say this to a Dominican. She will more than likely see you as an outsider unless you talk to her on equal footing.

I'll give you a good example: I was at the local golf course here in Santiago and asked one of the caddies to get me a bottle of water. I asked him how much the price was and he said "RD20 plus the tip to get it". I told him forget it because the price for water here all over was RD10 and I was just tired of being treated like a bank for even the littlest of transactions. Anyway he left and I was mentioning to one of the other caddies that how could this guy tell me that water is RD20 when in fact everyone knows it is RD10 in all of the colmados. The caddie started a song and dance defending his compadre about the price and I cut him off in mid senence, I told him forget it pal, "deje eso por favor" I'm a gringo and I live here too so I know what the prices are. Whereupon he responds, "well I'm sorry, I didn't know", just like that. Sometimes you just have to tell the locals how it is - you don't have to be nasty or rude though, just truthful.