Any help appciated... Whats my Mum doing?

[Fresh one]

Hi All, its bin a long time since i have posted.

3years ago i went to the Dom, i got sucked in by a beach bum but soon came back to reality when i returned home.

However my mum met this chap, said he has own business, never gets involved with tourists etc.... Anyway they had a great 2weeks togther and kept in touch when she returned.

We returned a year later and again she spent the 2weeks with him.

Again returned home and kept in touch, she calls him, he calls her, always telling her how much he loves and miss's her etc...

I also found some documents when looking over some paper work ref: western union and she had sent him money, looks like only on one occasion, but i dont know, it could be each mth for all i know.

Anyway shes going back in Oct. She belives they have somthing special, they both took STD tests last year together, to prove something to each other....

He has his own place that she stays there most of the time and they split the costs of meals and drinks (so she tells me)

3yrs ago i asked if anyone knew of this guy and the comment i got back was along the lines of " I wouldnt let my sisiter date him" However i never really acted upon any of this as i thought it would fizzle out.

I'm more worried this year as i wont be going back and she will be alone...

What do you think?

[badpiece33]

I think your Mum is being sucked in big time. Would you or your mom split costs with a man where you live??? Would you or your mom listen to advise from others on a man in your own country? Please try to look at people as you would in your own country instead of wearing the rose colored glasses while in DR.

[Victor Laszlo]

Originally Posted by Fresh one

....they both took STD tests last year together, to prove something to each other....

Now that's romantic!

[rio2003]

Originally Posted by Fresh one

.......... She belives they have somthing special, they both took STD tests last year together, to prove something to each other....

I suppose it also proved that they didn't have "something special" too.......


LOL

Rio

[Lapurr]

Originally Posted by Fresh one

What do you think?

I think....your mom is just a tourist "the kind he never dates", what's the age gap between them? 10,12,15 years??

How do you figure you can help her? take away her bank card? I just hope she doesnt loose it all in the meantime.

Maybe tell her the money she is sending him via WU, she should treat herself to a spa day or a pedicure or a makeover.

She's hooked and now she is the only one that can change her destiny.

Tough Love

[AZB]

Originally Posted by Lapurr

I think....your mom is just a tourist "the kind he never dates", what's the age gap between them? 10,12,15 years??

hahahaha, I was thinking the same, you beat me to it.
AZB

[Berzin]

Your mother is doing what quite a few tourists do-they fall in love in some tropical paradise, and now she is in the process of getting fleeced.

If she is sending him Western Union she is letting his tales of poverty tug at her heartstrings.

He is fulfilling her sexual fantasies and she is so over the moon that she is taking the relationship to another level.

Her notion of romantic love in the DR exists only in soap operas-he is a sanky so he knows exactly what he is doing.

Your mother, on the other hand, may not know what awaits her on the other side of that tunnel.

All you can do is warn her.

[sollie]

"3years ago i went to the Dom, i got sucked in by a beach bum but soon came back to reality when i returned home."

Your mother hasn't returned home. She's wanging down on the mojo and the lesson is yet to be learned. It's her right to be allowed.

[Lambada]

Get one of those pre-printed last will & testament forms and leave it lying around at home & see if that leads to any...........interesting discussions between you.

Other than that, hard though it is, you're not responsible for your mother's decisions, your advice probably won't be welcomed & it could lead to quite a lot of acrimony between you. Maybe ask her what she would do if you brought someone home who was entirely unsuitable?

[Fresh one]

You are all saying what i am thinking.

I thinks its about 9 years between them, my mum is a very attractive 45 year old woman who works hard, b4 anyone says shes got low self confidence etc...

She doesnt have no money really that he could swindle. She saves hard each year for that 2week break.

And yes i would split the cost of a meal with a man in the UK, i'm in a realationship, we both work, earn our own money and when we go out (Not all the time ) But most of the time i will get the drinks and he would buy the meal.

I'm not saying she is sending WU every week, mth i only found one document from a year ago and to be honest i dont think she would be sending cash all the time. We struggle enough somtimes just to live. Its not like the Dominicans think we live in the west....

Maybe your ight i should just let her got on with it and pick up the broken bits when she returns.

I'm just worried.

Thanks peeps x