Ladies Beware!!

[care bear]

I am married to someone frm Dominican and he drained me bone dry. Not a chance in hell he's comin here to finish the job!! It is a hard lesson learned!

[Eddy]

Originally Posted by care bear

I am married to someone frm Dominican and he drained me bone dry. Not a chance in hell he's comin here to finish the job!! It is a hard lesson learned!

I've been telling people that for the past 20 years. No one listens.

[Lapurr]

Originally Posted by care bear

I am married to someone frm Dominican and he drained me bone dry. Not a chance in hell he's comin here to finish the job!! It is a hard lesson learned!

I'm sorry to hear that care bear, pick up the broken pieces and carry on, you will be ok. There is always money to be made, it's your health and sanity that need taking care of after such a harsh reality.

If you ever need to chat, you can pm me anytime!! Or start a thread of your own, if you need to just let it out, thats the beauty of DR1, you can openly express yourself and your feelings, if anyone can learn from your misfortune...it's a bonus.

Of course you will encounter some criticism, but thats to be expected...i would rather face criticism by these good people that i havent even met, rather than criticism from coworkers- friends and family -behind my back.

you are in good hands!!

best of luck to you lady!

[care bear]

Thanks so much for your kind words. It will take me a while to get out of debt. However, I just want to be able to help someone else from going through what I am. It is very difficult to face my co-workers and friends but all have been supportive. I feel very stupid and used at this point but as time passes I will heal I am sure!

[care bear]

Ladies.. I fell in love with a nice, sweet Dominican man and then married him. All was good until I got married. Then all of the sudden he didn't work anymore, he needed money for everything. He has bled me dry and I owe thousands of dollars. I was still in the process of getting him to Canada. I have withdrawn my application to sponsor him after a very valuable lesson. When I met him, people told me to be careful!! However.. he seemed ok!! I have been sankified!! Please..please..please be careful!! Even though your man seems genuine, he may not be in the long run. Sorry if I have gotten anyones backs up but I am just trying to save someone the same grief and humiliation!! My back was up when I was warned and I must say I have learned a very valuable lesson I will never forget!

[El Tigre]

Hummmm. A knowledgable person on this site once said "know the difference, he has a bank account in Pesos you have one in Dollars" or something like that...

I feel bad for what happened to you. It will past and you will be alright.

[care bear]

Yes I am wishing I would have read this on the site before I went so far!!

[sokitoumi]

im interested to know how long you knew him before you decided to get married and how many times did you actually meet or were you living here at the time- sorry to be nosey but you did post your story here-im trying to work out at what point people decide on marriage

[lalla]

Originally Posted by care bear

Thanks so much for your kind words. It will take me a while to get out of debt. However, I just want to be able to help someone else from going through what I am. It is very difficult to face my co-workers and friends but all have been supportive. I feel very stupid and used at this point but as time passes I will heal I am sure!

Dont dwell on it and dont feel a fool for too long, we all make mistakes and are taken for a ride one way or another, the important thing is that you caught on ON TIME, before it got any worse.

You have lost some money and time, but you havent lost your self respect as you are smart enough to have put an end to it and no stay on like some do. And more importantly you have gained some knowledge, hard lesson to learn, but draw out the good from it.

Dont worry so much about what others are thinking or saying, at the end of the day, what matters is you picking up the pieces and moving along. GOOD LUCK

would you mind telling us what happened? Time line? how did you guys meet?
how long were you together, his family? his change etc? Maybe someone else reading can see some signs and not fall prey to someone else.

[sangria]

Originally Posted by care bear

I am married to someone frm Dominican and he drained me bone dry. Not a chance in hell he's comin here to finish the job!! It is a hard lesson learned!

I don't mean any disrespect but how did he manage to manipulate you to the point of losing so much money?

I can understand occassionaly or once or twice being suckered into a lie but I don't understand when it continues to the point of financial hardship for the one sending the money.

I'm not saying its your fault because I don't know the situation and I'm sure most people wouldn't give if they knew upfront that it is a scam....I'm more curious how he managed to get you to this point.

It might help others in a similar situation.