This will be a long thread so be warned
First off, I'm a 19 year old who travelled to the DR with a friend this year. My friend has been with a guy from the hotel (a photographer...I'll call him JK) for a good while now, so of course, she introduced me to him & we ended up staying at his house most nights.
One night when we were about to go out to one of the clubs in the Playa Dorada complex, his fellow photographer friend (lets call him RB) from the hotel came along & me & RB ended up dancing together for most of the night. He had already seen me before with my friend on the beach but this was the first night we actually talked. We all ended up sleeping at JK's house that night & the next morning we'd all made plans to go out again.
All the times we were going out, RB was paying for the drinks & everything. & when I finally started sleeping over at his house, he was paying for my dinners at night, not to mention he would walk me over to the nearby shop at early hours of the morning to buy me drinks/snacks when I got peckish. At one point I hurt my leg really bad & had an open wound, he drove me to the hospital to see the Doctor but me being impatient & not wanting to wait decided to leave despite his protests, so he ended up taking me to the pharmacy to get medicine (which was very expensive - tablets, creams, the whole lot which he paid for) He seemed a very nice guy - spoke really good English, had a similar sense of humour to my own & was very good looking to top it all off. I do speak fluent Spanish due to my father being Mexican & my mother 1/2 Puerto Rican, but we spoke in both English & Spanish because he wanted to extend his English a little further. We talked about pretty much everything...he would listen to me for hours & I'd listen to him for hours. It all seemed very good.
Half way through my stay he started getting suspcious of me. Asking if I had a boyfriend back home, if I'd been with any other Dominican men on my stay. He'd heard from an animation team guy that I'd been "getting around" (I'd shared 1 drunken kiss at the disco with an animation team member, something I'm not exactly proud to say, I'll admit!) & said he couldn't trust me. I explained to him how it was for a laugh & that I was drunk, & though he was still annoyed with me for a while, he seemed to get over it....
I ended up meeting his sister at her work place (who spoke fluent English & had attended University), everything seemed well...then we started arguing.
One night we were at a karaoke bar with JK & my friend & JK's dad. When we were all about to leave RB started walking away from the place & outstretched his hand behind him for me to grab, but I'd been tucking my chair in & hadn't seen. Once I got out of the place, RB was walking away from me, not waiting. I said
"Hey, slow down! Where are you going?" but he ignored me & sat down on a bench nearby. I was asking him what was wrong for ages only to be ignored...until he finally said how I'd made him look like an idiot infront of the whole bar. I told him I hadn't seen his hand but he was so angry with me...I was shocked to say the least. In the end we patched things over, but the arguments still continued. I must admit, I was at fault at times...3 nights in a row I asked him to drop me back at my hotel at 4 in the morning because I was too hot, suffering from migraines & was being bitten to death by mosquitos. In the end he just snapped & said
"I'm too nice with you. I offer you to sleep with the fan right on you but you still want to go back to your hotel. I tell you not to toss around while you're laying on the bed cause that will make you hotter but you still complain"...etc. So he ended up ignoring me for a day, but the next day he rang me & apologized. Despite him being lovely when happy, I knew he had a really firey temper on him, which was somewhat indimidating but I'm exactly the same so I couldn't complain that much.
Before I forget must also point out that by no means am I rich. RB knew from the get-go that I don't have much money, being a University student earning only £200 a month back home. He wasn't with me for money, that's for sure.
Anyway. By the end of my holiday me & him were very close & me being all hyped up on lust immediately booked tickets back to the DR the moment I got home (as did my friend - we're supposed to be going in November). Me & RB spoke everyday...both online & on the phone (he rang me each time talking for hours, never ever have I rang him despite having both his house & cell number...he called me so often it was hardly needed)...we'd both stay up until early hours the morning talking despite him having to be at work early & me at Uni early. It was after a while that he told me he was starting to fall in love with me, that he couldn't stop thinking about me & he was going crazy. Every night after work he'd rush home & come online to talk to me & go on webcam. Even on his breaks from work he'd come online to talk to me or phone me. He told me he wanted me to come & stay over at his house next time I came over & that I could stay as long as I wanted. Told me he was through with everyone else wanted to just be with me. We carried on talking everyday for a good while...then suddenly, he stopped coming online. Stopped calling me. Stopped replying to my text messages & emails. A little while later I signed online & saw he was on. Preparing myself to talk to him, as soon as I'd signed on, he signed off. I'd finally taken the hint.
Up until now, I don't know what changed. I know he'd been with tourists
before because he'd told me, but he'd said how he was bored of it & wanted to settle down (looking back I can't believe I actually fell for that line?)...but to just act so cold after so long with no warning is still a shock to me. I'm guessing that he has found another woman. My friend is still on good terms with JK, they claim to be in love, although a lot of girls are telling her that he's just a dog like the rest of them. They don't have proof, perhaps they are just presuming he is a sankie because the rest of the are, perhaps they are right...I don't know. I am suspicious but I choose to keep my mouth closed as I know my opinion is probably worthless. But my friend is moving over there for good in November, living with him & buying their own place (he is paying). As for me, well...now I'm staying with them at JK's house for a few weeks in November seeing as all my flights are booked & things with RB are still confusing/dead. I'll most likely be seeing him there as he is best friends with JK but I've already made a mental note to either ignore him if he gives attitude or be polite if he's friendly. Nothing more, nothing less.
The conclusion I've come to is, not to go off with hotel resort workers. Even if all you're looking for is a good time, you may get sucked in. I myself do not even know why I did - this is my 4th trip to the DR & I know what these men are like. In the least braggish way possible, I do get a lot of attention back home & do have a general disliking towards long distance relationships...yet I still got sucked in. A fine mix of both my stupidity & too many pina coladas! No I didn't lose any money, but I had a good chunk of my time wasted by someone who suddenly chooses to ignore me. Funny thing is, in the past I have met & spent time with very wealthy, educated Dominicans who I met in Santo Domingo, but I treat that as a game & left without a trace at the end of my stay, wanting to get far as possible to get back to my hectic life in London & forget about the romance. Yet the moment I go to a place like Puerto Plata & meet a photographer at a hotel, I fall hook line & sinker & want to play happy families. How ironic!
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Story of myself & a resort worker
