curiosity?

[LaTeacher]

as you might guess from my username, i'm a teacher. i basically teach private classes but i have a little "escuelita" for kids, too.

here's the thing. i've got all these women who don't work who are "maintained" by men who live in the states. the first student i had like this was married to an older american (read: gringo) man who only wanted her to work if she could make more than 6,000 pesos a month (i don't think he realized that with no education there was no way she'd ever make that) so he paid for her to study english.

now i've got a student who is married to a peruvian-american who lives in the midwestern states. she's got a baby who's not his. and is raising her neice. last night she says to me, "well, he HAS to send me my "quincena" on friday, and he HAS to pay for you and he HAS to pay for the gym." so this guy sends her money twice a month, which she refers to almost like a normal person would refer to their salary, and he pays "extra" for all the things she likes to do.

now i completely understand why a woman would agree to this agreement. if i could find a man who paid for my everything and i didn't have to work, could stay home and raise my son, whoo. (i'd probably get bored in twenty minutes, but the idea sounds nice after two weeks of the flu and no sleep... and working)

the question, then, is this: what's in it for the man? why would a man maintain a woman like this that he sees maybe 2 of 3 weeks a year? what's the draw?

someone please give me an idea - it's driving me nuts trying to figure it out, but it's out of my realm of knowledge

[jruane44]

It is amazing what some people will do for a steady piece of a$$, or the illusion that they are in a relationship.

[CyaBye3015]

Originally Posted by LaTeacher

now i completely understand why a woman would agree to this agreement. if i could find a man who paid for my everything and i didn't have to work, could stay home and raise my son, whoo. (i'd probably get bored in twenty minutes, but the idea sounds nice after two weeks of the flu and no sleep... and working)

the question, then, is this: what's in it for the man? why would a man maintain a woman like this that he sees maybe 2 of 3 weeks a year? what's the draw?

someone please give me an idea - it's driving me nuts trying to figure it out, but it's out of my realm of knowledge

Makes perfect sence to me!!!!!!!!!! I've been looking for WOMAN to "maintain" me like this for the past 20 years. Any takers out there?

[catcherintherye]

My guess is that every case is somewhat different, that each case has its own particular set of circumstances.

In some cases, perhaps the man is being delusional. In other cases, the guy might know exactly what the deal is, and feels there is a sufficient quid pro quo. It might be an act of charity or compassion. Perhaps the guy just wants to contribute to the family's well-being. It could be a combination of things, some that have been mentioned, and others that have not. It could be a reason completely unique to the individuals involved.

Whatever the motivating factors might be, the situation presumably makes sense to the parties involved. Apparently, the person sending the money can afford to send it, and is doing so willingly.

My question is, besides satisfying an intellectual curiosity, which I trust is LaTeacher's reason, why would, or should, anyone else be, in the least bit, concerned?

[Bayx-**]

I believe there is a lack of self-esteem between the two parties involved.

[Bronxboy]

Originally Posted by jruane44

It is amazing what some people will do for a steady piece of a$$, or the illusion that they are in a relationship.

Yep, you said it best!!!!!!

Happens in the states as well.

Pay a bill here, a bill there, no questions ask.

Booty call!!!!!!!!!

It is like reputatation points for some.

The feeling of belonging!!!!

[M.A.R.]

Originally Posted by Bronxboy

Yep, you said it best!!!!!!

Happens in the states as well.

Pay a bill here, a bill there, no questions ask.

Booty call!!!!!!!!!

It is like reputatation points for some.

The feeling of belonging!!!!

This is understandable but ......seeing someone 3 times a year for a few weeks its different.....that's an expensive booty call.

or maybe he's bringing her over to the states in that case they are an established couple.

I always thought Cyabye3015 was a woman?

[Bronxboy]

Originally Posted by M.A.R.

This is understandable but ......seeing someone 3 times a year for a few weeks its different.....that's an expensive booty call.

or maybe he's bringing her over to the states in that case they are an established couple.

Yep, I know a few that make these visits 2 a month!!!!

Both here in the states and abroad!!

[Richard Alberto]

Teach,

For the most part the men that I know which maintain a relationship with women in DR are for the most part older gentlemen. The men in their country, be it US or Canada etc, would not be able to establish any kind of older man, younger woman relationship. Now in the U.S. for instance, these men would have to pay at least premium $ dollars for such a relationship, whether the young women be a professional or not. There are many many older men and women who support a younger person in DR, because it makes them feel virile, full of life and attractive.
Alot of young "estranjeras" fall for the young DR men as well and send these cats money too. This still boggles MY mind.

My question is! Do those in DR fall just as hard for "estranjeros"?

[Richard Alberto]

It must say something for the "Hay Papi" "Hay Papi" equivalent of the fake orgasm.