11 years difference

diamondcheek · #1 02-03-2009, 03:34 PM

Hi everyone,

I've read a lot of articles with happy stories. I met a guy in RD too, he works in animation. I live in New York, and I'm Russian. We have 11 years difference, although I look like I'm 25-25. I'm realistic, and I know that we can't have serious relationship. First of all - my age. Another thing - I've never been married, because I believe only in myself. I've been living in New York for 8 years, originally came from St. Petersburg, Russia. But what I'm doing now - I'm going to see him at the end of February - just for 3 days. I'm Russian and already American sitizen, and inside I don't believe in true relationship between us. But I don't know why I'm doing it. I don't know what can happen than, but please give me some points of view from outside. Inside I know that I'm just crasy, but I'm along, and don't have any relationship. And I do want to see him, because I miss him a lot. I would appreciate any oppinion, just feel lonely (all my family live in Russia).

Talldrink · #2 02-03-2009, 03:41 PM

Oh Diamond Cheek... I hope you are ready for this ride!

Guard your heart, your pocket and your body.

Good luck!

catcherintherye · #3 02-03-2009, 04:40 PM

You seem like a realist person, who has learned to take care of, and depend on, herself. I know how someone who is otherwise completely self-reliant would want some companionship occasionally. Join the club.

However, what I find difficult to understand is the disconnect between what you clearly understand and what you are planning to do. If you were in any way fooled by this guy I could see you going through this, but you know who he is, and you know what is up with him, so come on??????

Obviously, no one is going to just give you some perfect advice, which will convince you to come to your senses, and do the right thing. You could have done that yourself.

So what is it that someone could possibly tell you to make you step back and figure out why this major contradiction has suddenly taken over your life, at this exact time.

You know the answers you need to answer, and you know what you have to do. Read up on these guys, and don't waste your time for more than a quick roll in the hay. If it makes you feel better pay him, or give him a gift, but don't kid yourself.

The thing that is driving you could be that you have been looking after yourself for so long that you want to look after someone else for a change. Maybe your biological clock is telling you it's time to find someone, but it's not telling you who.

This guy just happened to be in the right place at the right time, and knew exactly how to exploit the situation, which is what he does for a living.

Look, it could be any number of possible answers. You are the one who is going to have to find out for yourself what is causing this crisis. But do it quickly and get over this guy.

Go have a few flings, carefully of course, and perhaps develop a few friends with benefits, but then go back to taking care of yourself, and you be a lot better off.

jruane44 · #4 02-03-2009, 04:41 PM

Sounds like true love to me. You're going to get alot of people telling you to run away from this guy. I say give him a shot Miss Sockpuppet.

diamondcheek · #5 02-03-2009, 05:06 PM

Ohhhhh, the problem is that I don't believe him, and I'm still doing that. I've being living in New York for 8 years. I'm aducated, work on Wall Street in Manhattan, have 2 diplomas (one from Russia and another - american). I was always independant and did what ever I wanted. I'm really pretty and attractive, I look 10 years yanger than I'm. I speak Russian, English, and basic Spanish. But I don't know what happened. I don't care what is his skin color, what he's doing, and where he lives. Inside I understand that I'm doing crazy things, but I'm still doing that. I always analyse everything before making decision, but if I want something nothing can stop me. I know that I sounds really strange, but I even can't talk about it with my family (they'll consider me crazy). I do want to see him, and I'm going there. I know that to go there for 3 days - and talking about future - I don't see it. On the other hand - I'm along, and don't lie to another guy or.... I just have such a mass in my head and in my heart. There is contradiction of two oppinions inside me. What can I loose, and what can I get? Just can't handle it anymore by myself, that's why posted my message here. Thanks to all of you who replied, it really helps, because as I said just can't stay along in this situation. I'll wait for other replies. Thanks you all!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AnnaC · #6 02-03-2009, 05:34 PM

You live and work in NY do you? hummmmmm wait till I find the missing sock

Lapurr · #7 02-03-2009, 05:47 PM

ok you said so yourself...you are crazy....before you commit to bringing him to New York....make sure the sex is MIND BLOWING...cuz if it's not!! it just wont work!

Talldrink · #8 02-03-2009, 05:48 PM

LOL Lapurr - right on!!

AnnaC · #9 02-03-2009, 05:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lapurr

ok you said so yourself...you are crazy....before you commit to bringing him to New York....make sure the sex is MIND BLOWING...cuz if it's not!! it just wont work!

How much is mind blowing sex going for these days?

I would think it's cheaper to go get some once in a while, return home, dream, make money and go back for more.

Alyonka · #10 02-03-2009, 05:53 PM

I think you are just lonely and need more friends to talk to. I understand, my family is in Europe as well. Don't get involved just because you are lonely and someone likes you all of the sudden. If he is a decent person and has good qualities in his character - talk to him more, if not - forget about it. Some men in that part of the world have no morals or decency in them whatsoever. They only want more and more money so that they can have more and more money and women. That is all they want, actually, because their level of morals is very low, they just don't know any better.