I met a guy in Samana

joyterrell1 · #1 02-12-2009, 09:47 PM

I am so sorry to hear about your experience!!! I was in DR about a month and a half ago. Had a wonderful time in Samana. I had great food, went swimming, got tan, made friends etc. 2 days before I left I went dancing w/ some dominican friends at a local disco and I met really cute guy that didn't come on to me at all. In fact he asked my friend to dance-not me. I danced w/ a bunch of other people too and then we found ourselves on the dancefloor after we had both finished dancing w/ other people. long story short-he asked me to dance and we had a blast. he thought I was with one of the guys that I came with, so he didn't push it but said he wanted to see me the next day. When we were all leaving, he saw me say goodby to the guy he thought I was with. We then exchaged numbers in my car.

Anyway we had a really great next 2 days. I went home and he calls me almost every other day. When his phone card runs out I call him back for a while.Of cours ther is the te quiero mucho, te amo, quiero ver te. I like him. I was going to go back in a couple months.

My mom is over there now on vacation, and she has met his family and he has taker her out almost everyday to do things. My mom likes his family, but thinks he is immature- he's 35 years old. She says he is late a lot--I explained that is dominican style sometimes.

Then she told me that when they left Samana and went to las terrenas that when they were on the 4x4 he was wavig to girls. I think this is a little odd considering he was with my mom!!Maybe that is dominican way too. I speak spanish pretty well, but his english is very limited.

He is a bus driver at a hotel and a bell hop/handles luggage. He has 3 kids all from the same mon --who he is not married to. She works in the capital and come every 1-3 months to see kids--she sends money too his mom to help. Is it all sounding worse and worse. He says they are not together.Who knows?
We talk about the future, and he wants tobe together. I tell him we need time to get to know eachother. He mentioned getting married in a year. I said whoa! He's very hot and sweet, but I need to know him better. As an american woman I know that I have a lot to offer and that I'm cute, but I also know that because of this--a "use job" cold be in the making.

I have a home in the u.s and I work hard as a realtor and do for myself. I can't, and don't want to be supporting someone for years. I know that he is a hard worker, but I have doubts about him making it here right away--Maybe I'm wrong.

I really do like him, but I also do not know him very well. I'm a little older than him, but I look pretty young for my age-not that young though. I think of the future,and need to assess what is really right for me .

I really fell in love with the DR, and I want to make sure that my feelings for him aren't just the intoxification of the warm sand and coconut water elixor.

AnnaC · #2 02-12-2009, 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted by joyterrell1

I really fell in love with the DR, and I want to make sure that my feelings for him aren't just the intoxification of the warm sand and coconut water elixor.

Before you head out for another trip to see him please read everything in this thread Important info if you're in a relationship with a Dominican

Keep in mind that a lot of Dominican couples are common-law. Be wise, don't fall for charm. It's very expensive, not just financially but emotionally.

Lapurr · #3 02-12-2009, 11:56 PM

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Originally Posted by joyterrell1

I am so sorry to hear about your experience!!! I was in DR about a month and a half ago. Had a wonderful time in Samana. I had great food, went swimming, got tan, made friends etc. 2 days before I left I went dancing w/ some dominican friends at a local disco and I met really cute guy that didn't come on to me at all. In fact he asked my friend to dance-not me. I danced w/ a bunch of other people too and then we found ourselves on the dancefloor after we had both finished dancing w/ other people. long story short-he asked me to dance and we had a blast. he thought I was with one of the guys that I came with, so he didn't push it but said he wanted to see me the next day. When we were all leaving, he saw me say goodby to the guy he thought I was with. We then exchaged numbers in my car.

Anyway we had a really great next 2 days. I went home and he calls me almost every other day. When his phone card runs out I call him back for a while.Of cours ther is the te quiero mucho, te amo, quiero ver te. I like him. I was going to go back in a couple months.

My mom is over there now on vacation, and she has met his family and he has taker her out almost everyday to do things. My mom likes his family, but thinks he is immature- he's 35 years old. She says he is late a lot--I explained that is dominican style sometimes.

Then she told me that when they left Samana and went to las terrenas that when they were on the 4x4 he was wavig to girls. I think this is a little odd considering he was with my mom!!Maybe that is dominican way too. I speak spanish pretty well, but his english is very limited.

He is a bus driver at a hotel and a bell hop/handles luggage. He has 3 kids all from the same mon --who he is not married to. She works in the capital and come every 1-3 months to see kids--she sends money too his mom to help. Is it all sounding worse and worse. He says they are not together.Who knows?
We talk about the future, and he wants tobe together. I tell him we need time to get to know eachother. He mentioned getting married in a year. I said whoa! He's very hot and sweet, but I need to know him better. As an american woman I know that I have a lot to offer and that I'm cute, but I also know that because of this--a "use job" cold be in the making.

I have a home in the u.s and I work hard as a realtor and do for myself. I can't, and don't want to be supporting someone for years. I know that he is a hard worker, but I have doubts about him making it here right away--Maybe I'm wrong.

I really do like him, but I also do not know him very well. I'm a little older than him, but I look pretty young for my age-not that young though. I think of the future,and need to assess what is really right for me .

I really fell in love with the DR, and I want to make sure that my feelings for him aren't just the intoxification of the warm sand and coconut water elixor.

just a suggestion....

AnnaC · #4 02-13-2009, 12:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Lapurr

just a suggestion....

Ok then,done!

Lapurr · #5 02-13-2009, 12:51 AM

and if his initials start with a ...anywhere from (A-Z) he's a sanky!!

suarezn · #6 02-13-2009, 12:52 AM

What is it with women that they cannot just have fun without immediately thinking about long term relationships and such...If you like him that much why can't you just go down there (pun intended) and spend time with him, enjoy your time, have all the fun, sex, sun, dancing, etc...you want and just come back to your life. If over time (many years from now) you decide that you still like him that much then maybe you can embark on a serious relationship.

BTW the waving to girls could have been just people (friends) he knows. No need to read much into that, but like I said above why is there a need for a serious relationship...he can just be a fcuk buddy...I know, I know it's all about the feelings for the women...and that's why so many get taken.

Lapurr · #7 02-13-2009, 02:50 AM

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Originally Posted by suarezn

What is it with women that they cannot just have fun without immediately thinking about long term relationships

suarezn,

I know you meant "some" women !! Cuz i do what you suggest!! with the pun intended...or emmm.. i mean fun intended!! ehehe!!!

Celt202 · #8 02-13-2009, 08:43 AM

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Originally Posted by joyterrell1

.......When his phone card runs out I call him back for a while.Of cours ther is the te quiero mucho, te amo, quiero ver te. I like him. I was going to go back in a couple months.

That's level 1, level 2 is my brother was injured in an accident, I want to go to the University but I can't enroll without x thousand of pesos and enrollment closes next tuesday etc.

Level 3 is my tio, tio madre [fill in the blank] has cancer and will die without (very expensive) treament.....

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Originally Posted by joyterrell1

My mom is over there now on vacation, and she has met his family and he has taker her out almost everyday to do things. My mom likes his family, but thinks he is immature- he's 35 years old. She says he is late a lot--I explained that is dominican style sometimes.

try almost always

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Originally Posted by joyterrell1

Then she told me that when they left Samana and went to las terrenas that when they were on the 4x4 he was wavig to girls. I think this is a little odd considering he was with my mom!!Maybe that is dominican way too. I speak spanish pretty well, but his english is very limited.

He is a bus driver at a hotel and a bell hop/handles luggage. He has 3 kids all from the same mon --who he is not married to. She works in the capital and come every 1-3 months to see kids--she sends money too his mom to help. Is it all sounding worse and worse. He says they are not together.Who knows?

Danger!! Danger!! Pull up!! Pull up!!

YOU know! You've isolated the symptoms..

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Originally Posted by joyterrell1

I really fell in love with the DR, and I want to make sure that my feelings for him aren't just the intoxification of the warm sand and coconut water elixor.

It's the intoxification. If you marry him the metaphor becomes a leg hold trap and you will have to gnaw your leg off to get free.

Once free your bank accounts will be empty, your business will be tits up and you will be just another gringa who qualifies for the one legged bachata.

Go back have, have fun and avoid him like the plague. Stay in another resort or even another part of the country. There is so much variety to enjoy.

Don't throw your life away for a bell hop.

How many bus drivers or bell hops have you dated at home?

Ya tu sabes. Oiste?

jrhartley · #9 02-13-2009, 08:55 AM

all you need to do is re-read your own post I think you will see the danger signs

SKing · #10 02-13-2009, 09:08 AM

You are OLDER than him? I'm sorry but as I was reading your post, I thought you were maybe 17 or 18.
But I digress, honey, es duro estar sola...yo lo se...but you know what is coming so you just have to ask yourself if it is worth it.
I mean, sometimes it's worth it, sometimes it's not.
And only you can answer that question
SHALENA