Dominican men living in the DR vs. those raised abroad

TheOP · #1 03-11-2009, 07:15 PM

Ladies,

This goes to those of you who have been with Dominican men both in the 1/2 island and in your countries of origin. Have you noticed any difference in courtship patterns by fellow Dominican men? How does the treatment you receive from Dominican men differ depending on whether they're in the DR or elsewhere? Do you have a preference for Dominicans raised in the DR or do you welcome the intercultural changes that these guys may have gone through after living abroad or even if they were raised bi-culturally?

Notice I don't even use the verb "to date" here, since in my opinion, there is no such thing as dating in the DR.

cuas · #2 03-12-2009, 09:05 AM

I dated. Graduated from college (UASD) still living at home (Dominican style). My boyfriend was giving days to come to visit me. On Sundays he was coming before twelve and ate with us, left in the afternoon and came back at night. We were going out but out of respect he had to bring me home at certain time.
I have 5 sisters and all of them went through the same thing, because my sisters dated at a younger age they were not allowed to go out without a younger sister but we had strict rules at home and this was in a barrio.
My brothers the same. They had set up times to see their girlfriends.
Now I have a niece (16), my sister found out she likes a boy. My niece is a honor student. He is 18 graduated from high school. My sister and husband called the boyfriend and esplained to him that my nice will go to college and he wants to date her he must go to college. He is enrolling now in college and he will given days to see my niece at home. Is this dating?
I am a family caseworker in the Bronx. I know the difference.
I am raising my children Dominican style. You like a boy bring him home, if he does not want to come, he only wants to play with you. It works.

poetic125 · #3 03-18-2009, 02:44 PM

lmao...
I am 20 years old and from NyC. My mom told me "el sueno mio es que cuando te vas de la casa es para casarte"...Being that Im the youngest and my older two sister have their own place and are not married Im their last chance..lol. Well for my sisters things were difficult for they had to follow the old dominican rules of the guy coming at home on sundays...but one problem. The guys they dated werent dominican and just didnt understand why my parents were so old school. Now I have my first dominican boyfriend,,,and he's all about getting respect for my parents and all this stuff. He didnt want to bring me home too late and always..always walked me to my apartment door. At first i really wasnt used to this, but you know what I really apreciate this dominican style of courtship. It entails for him to really prove his interest in being with me by show respect to my parents. And things are just so much easier "when done right", my parents have met his parents and vise versa. This process makes the guy and the parents clear about the intentions.

NALs · #4 03-21-2009, 01:39 PM

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Originally Posted by TheOP

Ladies,

This goes to those of you who have been with Dominican men both in the 1/2 island and in your countries of origin.

2/3 island.

Ok, go on...

-NALs

TheOP · #5 03-21-2009, 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by NALs

2/3 island.

Ok, go on...

-NALs

NALs, I do know that the Dominican Republic occupies 2/3 of the Hispaniola island, but we Dominicans call our country in a jokingly way la media isla. Linguistic expressions are many times a matter of imposed usage and not so much of strict correctness, so lighten up a little...

TheOP · #6 03-21-2009, 03:27 PM

Thanks for your replies, girls. I knew there weren't going to be many responses from our non-Dominican female posters, but I'm actually surprised that no one has replied, possibly indicating that most of them have dated only one breed of Dominican men.
It's like many of the DR1ers who have dated Dominican have a sweepstakes image of sankies...

La Mariposa · #7 03-22-2009, 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by TheOP

NALs, I do know that the Dominican Republic occupies 2/3 of the Hispaniola island, but we Dominicans call our country in a jokingly way la media isla. Linguistic expressions are many times a matter of imposed usage and not so much of strict correctness, so lighten up a little...

I never heard that joke.

Chirimoya · #8 03-22-2009, 11:48 AM

It's not that common and not necessarily light-hearted: I saw it used seriously in a Spanish text I had to translate the other day - I interpreted it as follows: media isla can be another word for peninsula, and if you really stretch it, the DR is also a peninsula, though strictly speaking a peninsula is attached to a larger mainland, which is not the case here. But yes, it is used, and although I queried it with the client, they insisted on 'half-island' in the translation. Whatever.

NALs · #9 03-22-2009, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by La Mariposa

I never heard that joke.

Me neither. I have, however, heard it and read it from people that believe the island is actually split in half.

-NALs

NALs · #10 03-22-2009, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Chirimoya

It's not that common and not necessarily light-hearted: I saw it used seriously in a Spanish text I had to translate the other day - I interpreted it as follows: media isla can be another word for peninsula, and if you really stretch it, the DR is also a peninsula, though strictly speaking a peninsula is attached to a larger mainland, which is not the case here. But yes, it is used, and although I queried it with the client, they insisted on 'half-island' in the translation. Whatever.

Ditto.

-NALs