What are the chances?

tailor · #1 04-15-2009, 07:42 AM

Ok il start my story sorry buts its pretty long..... It all started dec 2006 went to punta cana with my family met a dancer at the hotel fell for for him but realised pretty soon he was just interested in getting to u.k thats where im from so finished with him and found out later he had another girl pregnant from france and had got a visa to go there! I continued travelling to D.R as i loved the country everything music, dancing, people way of life etc, anyway i was on my 8 trip there with friends sept 2008 and met a singer at the hotel same age as me 26 we got talking it was his first job working in a Hotel had only been there 2 months couldnt speak any English! I had being learning spanish 6 mths so new the basics which we got by on! Any way cut a long story short i explained i had had boyfriend before and new all about dominican boys!( Have read all on sankies) and wasnt interested in having another one! Despite this when i returned bk to England we began txting everyday talking on msn for hours etc, since i have returned 4 times in last 6 mths been to his house in san cristobal met his family stayed with him in self catering apartments we are now in love!! And he really is unlike any dominican i have met or any boy here. Before me he had only dominican girlfriends he hasnt mentioned wanting to go to England just that he wants to be with me he doesnt care where. He always pays when he can he cooks for me and does everything for me! He is also learning English now. We want to be together but it is very dificult for the following reasons i am not rich i am self emplyed working part time and recieve some housing benefit and council tax (money from government) as i am a single parent of a 6 yr old my rent is very high £800 p/ month and im sure because of this he would not be allowed to come here to be with me even when we eventually marry (we are planning on next year) on a spouse visa becuase i do not earn enough alone to support him. I would be happy to live there even if my life would be worse materialistically i know i would be happier emotionally, but i cannot take my son out of this country as its not fair on him also he is very close with his father here. I am just so confused about what to do and what are our options to be together if there are any? My boyfriend is currently looking to work singing in france or spain on a work visa as at least we could be closer together. He has been offered a job on a cruise around Europe but turned it down becuase it was for 8 months and would not be able to see me. I just got back from D.R 3 weeks ago and am planning on going back to stay with him in june but i need a plan for long term as i have already spent at least £10,000 the last 12 times and can not continue forever like this. I have said all this to my boyfriend he says he cant live without me and will fight and do everything he can to be with me he is trying his best...... has anyone being in my situation or have any ideas how we can be together please????? sorry for bad writing

dalila05 · #2 04-15-2009, 08:30 AM

well,to be honest with you in order to be able to live with him in the uk you need to get a full time job and try not to get any benefit from the governement but you know that already.
also is difficult to judge a situation without knowing the reality of your relation,only you know what going on,i personally followed my guts and im happily married now but i knew telling my story on dr1 would have put me off,because unfortunately lots of relation dominican/foreigner tend to be based on material needs but i know also a lot of happily couple so its not that bad.
also you said your first boyfriend there as visa for france because he got a french girl pregnant,unless he got married to her its impossible to get a visa for france,even harder than canada.
wish you good luck and 10000 pounds its a lot of money.

tailor · #3 04-15-2009, 08:52 AM

Im not sure what kind of visa he got he only went to france for 3 months hes back in D.R now and i believe he did marry her also.

SKing · #4 04-15-2009, 09:44 AM

Just out of curiosity...This money that you get from the government, what is it for? Are the taxpayers paying for you to receive this money? If so, you should be ashamed of yourself. If you can come to the DR 12 times and spend over 10,000 pounds (I don't even know how many dollars that is but it sounds like alot) you need to get off your a$$ receiving government assistance.

If it is not government assistance paid for by taxpayers, then do what you feel. You will see in time if it is true or not, because if you do end up moving to the DR...it will only get better or worse (most likely worse if you do not have any money)

Anyway, sorry to jump on you at the beginning but 1 of the things I hate most is someone on government assistance that can seem to afford what most average citizens (who pay taxes and don't receive assistance) cannot
SHALENA

AnnaC · #5 04-15-2009, 10:06 AM

If you've told him that you have no money he will never believe you because of the amount of times you have gotten on a plane. You are rich as far as your actions show and as long as you LOOK rich he cannot live without you. Saying he will do anything to be with you are just words. What can he do for you? Support you for 6 months?

Tell him you will move there for 6 months to try it out but he needs to support you and pay rent and food. He will yes ok but you really have to mean it.

Have you gone into debt for these trips?

dalila05 · #6 04-15-2009, 10:06 AM

housing benefit is to help you pay your rent!
let not jump on the conclusion yet,she might had the money given by family!

Dragonfly32837 · #7 04-15-2009, 10:12 AM

Thank you Sking. That is what I was thinking also.

SKing · #8 04-15-2009, 10:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dalila05

housing benefit is to help you pay your rent!
let not jump on the conclusion yet,she might had the money given by family!

Then they should help her with her rent.
Honey, I say take the plunge...do the test and let your son spend the summer with his Dad and show up in DR with only $100 and your plane ticket back to England.
Depending on where he lives how long that $100 will last you and when it's gone, I give you a good 2 weeks before your a$$ is back on that plane and you are on here writing about how your prince has changed.
SHALENA