Globe and Mail Article about a Dominican sanky - Page 4

margaret · #31 05-04-2009, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Malibook

Do you mind if we ask you a few questions?

It's not every day you meet someone who has the guts to post about their experience and shed some light on this.

simpson Homer · #32 05-04-2009, 12:46 PM

All I can say is that the Gov. wont do any thing to get the guy out of the country.

Like him are many here plus that wont be a priority, look all those that claim refugee
here they get housing,money, day care and many other benefits for years even after
becoming a citizen.

If I was you I will leave that in Gods hands that for sure any time will take care of the
issue because Immigration Canada will remain silince because he is not a "Terrorist or wanted criminal" at this point. Prob. you are angry and is easy to understand you trusted the guy and immigration trusted the 2 of you at the end he lied to you.

eventually he will come back to you for help, best advice let him go in the long run when he try to bring the wife from DR and the kids he will have to answer some question move on even that sounds easy but hard to do so.

he creates work for social workers, police, judge, lawyers, immigration and us tax payer pay for that without him none of these people work.

Trust me I know a guy that have been twice in jail here in Canada before acepting
his application for PR guest what he got acepted to stay in Canada, work cash, pay 85 dollar a month for rent in a 2 bed room housing.

He wont be a priority is better to forget about that and when it come to find him is way easy to find the guy here.

lalla · #33 05-04-2009, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by JAMIE

The love with foreigners and with good ending story in DR, for 10 years that I stay in DR, as of now, sorry guys, I haven't heard too many. ONLY ONE CASE IS BETTER GOOD ENDING ( however the German guy stops helping his wife's family, because he can not put up with continuous asking this , asking that, again and again, besides his wife family members are young)

My american friend told me he knows 20 Americans who married with Dominicana, all marriages ending up in divorce and separate. , that is not a joke, that is a serious mentality problems. Just imagine how many % that DR has for single parent??, divorce and separation for most of Dominicans just like to change another place to rebreathe the fresh air.

The definition of "LOVE" for most of Dominicans is: money, easy life, good house, new staffs (electronics, car), bed, furniture, clothes, jewelry.....etc. Unfortunately, they never think about how marriage couple should work together with passionate, consideration, budgeting, planning, implementing to purse the life objectives.

That is not the definition of LOVE for dominicans.

The problem lays in that foreign men AND women come to the Dominican Republic, almost with a "benda" over their eyes, thinking that developing a relationship here is ANY different than any where else in the world, or back home. When you are at home, and are interested in someone, do you pull out your wallet and flash your money? Do you behave like a complete moron?

You will attract leeches to you if you give off or behave in a certain manner.

Dominican are FIERCLY loyal and loving and passionate....but like ANYONE ELSE that is in need, if a sucker presents themselves and allows to be taken advantage, it will happen!! "no one can make you feel inferior without your permission"....likewise, no one can take advantage of you unless you ALLOW it to happen.

PLEASE DO NOT catergorize all dominicans based on a handful of experiences you or your friends have had because you are freqenting low budget ghetto places where there is need and the dumb gringo willing to "help".

TexasGringo · #34 05-04-2009, 03:19 PM

sorry to pick a bone with you lalla but if Dominicans are fiercely loyal how would one categorize all the multitude of girlfriends that Dominicanos have?

Lapurr · #35 05-04-2009, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by lalla

PLEASE DO NOT catergorize all dominicans based on a handful of experiences you or your friends have had because you are freqenting low budget ghetto places where there is need and the dumb gringo willing to "help".

Jamie said "most of" and by that i gather she/he is speaking of the ones she knows of!
and the low budget stuff-thats a personal attack! cmon..not cool!

I didnt hang out at any low budget places during my time in DR and met enough sankies to actually need a break from them! I came for a 2 week vacation, And all of the sudden I'm Miss America (hardly)..

You can tell by Jamies writing style there is a language barrier, I know what you are saying, I dont see ant racist remarks, possibly a person that has been scorned, but who hasnt in one way or another?

We have learned early on that men only think with their d!cks! You hear it over and over again! some women choose to believe it and some dont! I believe when it comes to obtaining a visa for a more secure lifestyle, men and women do what they feel they have to do, it doesnt help when parents condone this behaviour as we have seen in the sanky video.

Yes we know there are Good families in DR, and different classes and social status, as there are here in Canada, whom we choose to associate with and whom we choose to fall in love with is up to us, We make the choice,We are the ones that decide what is right and best for us.

TexasGringo · #36 05-04-2009, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Lapurr

I came for a 2 week vacation, And all of the sudden I'm Miss America (hardly)..

Actually I think I'd call you wonder woman if you were able to pull off that feat!!

Lapurr · #37 05-04-2009, 05:25 PM

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Originally Posted by TexasGringo

Actually I think I'd call you wonder woman if you were able to pull off that feat!!

Is that a diss? I can't tell...wonder woman? no way but i am double jointed!

TexasGringo · #38 05-04-2009, 07:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Lapurr

I CAME for a 2 week vacation, And all of the sudden I'm Miss America (hardly)..

my you 'came' for 2 weeks...that's mighty long lapurrrrrrrrr

it was a mild funny...not a dis

canadiangirl858 · #39 05-04-2009, 07:51 PM

I don't mind answering any questions at all- clarification on the timeline-we married in Oct/04, he came to Canada Dec/05, he left Jan/06.

What the reporter should have said is that some people come to Canada and don't even live with their sponsor for one day-some even leave at the airport and immigrations answer is this is a marriage breakdown. how ridiculous is that.

He is working as far as I know. I have never been asked to pay back welfare (thank goodness) but I know some people who have rec'd letters from social assistance telling them to pay back $10,000. Social assistance policy states the sponsor is to be notified if their spouse applies for welfare but that does not happen. Another part of our system that doesn't enforce their own regulations.

What I am upset about is that I have sent them all the proof they need and to date (as far as I know) they haven't done anything. Immigration and CBSA doesn't feel marriage fraud is a priority. But I keep reminding them it is.

I have also sent many emails to the Canadian Embassy in Haiti about this so a red flag will come up if he tries to sponsor the woman and the children.

canadiangirl858 · #40 05-04-2009, 08:04 PM

I guess I had heard about this type of fraud before it happened to me but like so many others I didn't think he would do that. i guess i trusted him-I couldn't understand how people can use others this way. Maybe I was naive, maybe because I wasn't raised like that to use people for your own personal gain.

After it happened I heard about DR1-and boy could I relate. if I would have read it before it would have raised questions. Would I have changed my mind-I don't know, I can't say. He was a great actor. He should have won the Oscar.

When he came the first month was great-then in Jan everything changed. He started picking fights, his behaviour changed, etc. A few things happened in jan-I questioned him and that's when he started to get nervous. I guess he realized I wasn't as stupid as he thought I was. I think I was getting too close to the truth and then he left. I had the suspicions and that's when I hired the private detective. I actually got the number from someone on here.

My sponsorship is finished-and I have moved on with my life. I have found peace in my life and I know he will pay in the end. I just have to be patient and it will happen in god's time.