Advice required on DR guy I met on holiday

[dalila05]

common sense and good intuitions is the exactly what you need for this type of relation!
good luck if you decide to carry on!

[ybonabeach]

if you want to be friends, then be strickly friends, no money, no help, don't fall for his pleas of love. many families ARE in on the ploy, no doubt about it. Hire an investigator to check him out if you ever want to date him. Common sense and your intuition will never steer you wrong, but the "heart" may.
Good luck

[dalila05]

i agree with the money and help ,so many of them know how to take advantage and make you feel guilty!i knew this girl attractive,lawyer in france ,she sent money after 2 week because he broke his phone and they could not talk daily!

[Thandie]

Originally Posted by tailor

I would say the ways to tell if hes genuine is: he will never ask for money or gifts from you, he wont mention going to your country, you can get hold of him easy when you call he always answers or if not calls you back soon! Also if he wants you to go to his home town this should proove he doesnt already have wife or girlfriend from there.

IMO what you mentioned above are not the best ways to tell if he is genuine.
The smart ones never ask for money directly.
They make you think it is your idea for offering.
The smart ones will not talk about going to your country.
Again they want you to fall crazy in love with them and bingo you will automatically want to be with him and that usually means in your country.

He will always be easy to reach if he thinks he hit the jackpot.
It is not unheard of that ENTIRE families are in on the con, including his parents, children and wives/girlfriends who pretend to be cousins and extended family.
Crazy but true.
So the fact that he brings you to his home town means nothing. Because his family and friends are on his side and will not burst his cover.

[TheHun]

It's kind of sample.
Hotel worker = sankie
Hotel owner = maybe not
Resort owner who drives a big jeepeta and makes more $ than you is not a sankie and he won't need you at all, or he will treat you like crap

The Hun

[donP]

Originally Posted by dalila05

_she sent money after 2 week because he broke his phone and they could not talk daily!

From sankie.101, 2nd lesson.
But it did the trick AGAIN.

[Freefallfatty]

It is obviously difficult to accept that someone is only interested in you for material reasons, but if you visit the DR for longer than a holiday you will see that everyones motives are materialistic and no one will do anything for nothing, if they do you will be stuck with them until they have got their worth from you in some way. IMO and from the people that I have met and observed in the Dominican with Dominican partners accept that it is a financial agreement in some respects. 'Most' of the men (including myself) are batting well above their mark and decide to just live with it as it isn't such a bad life once all the initial orientation is unspoken but batted out and you have a silent agreement.

Now I am not saying that all women have young studs and all the men have amazing beauties to look after them, but it is a slice of reality. I for one in my late 30's would not have an 18 year old stunning girlfriend if I didn't have a good job and look after her financially. I am aware of that and accept it as it suits my lifestyle, my job doesn't leave me time to create a real relationship so I prefer to pretend and have her rather than nothing. Loads of men are the same, and women also.
It isn't ideal but to have a relationship with a Dominican you have to be prepared to understand it can all turn out quite shallow and meaningless. Then again, no doubt many have had pretty normal comings together, but I wouldn't expect that many were down to love at first sight.
From what you have said I think you might be best to forget it, or have fun with each other and then go home and get on with normality.

[dalila05]

Originally Posted by donP

From sankie.101, 2nd lesson.
But it did the trick AGAIN.

i dont know if its on sankie.101
but she accepted to get married after the 2nd trip!!
and she was so over the moon,lol

[BettyDiamond]

If you read previous threads like you say you did there really is no reason to ask the question.
I think you already know what replies you will get and are just trying to get the usual tired old responses.

Aunt Betty
knitting for England

[liam1]

This never gets old... or does it?