Mixed up feelings

Mariposatje · #1 05-31-2009, 05:11 AM

So I read all these stories about sankies and everything, and now I have kinda mixed up feelings... I'm "dating" this Dominican guy I met in November 2008. We call each other almost every day, I went back in april and that's when I started to get worried.
I had really hoped to spend a lot of time with him but he had to work, which was true cause I saw him working, or he was tired... Ok we went a few times to the disco where he introduced me to his friends. Then I read that sankies give you the time of your life on holiday, while he sometimes gave me the opposite feeling. He didn't ignore me, but it was not the perfect picture. Now I've got these other girls/women sending me mails with (innocent) pictures of them in the hotel while he's working and then they write comments as: my dominican husband, or they say I shouldn't have to think I'm his girlfriend, that he doesn't love me... stuff like that. Now there's this girl, I just found out who says she calls him on regular basis... So I'm gonna call him and find out what he has to say about it...

Most of you will probably think I'm just a naieve, stupid girl... but tips on how I can find out if he's honest or just playing with me would be very helpfull!!!!

Chip · #2 05-31-2009, 11:50 AM

Sweety, you already know the answer.

suarezn · #3 05-31-2009, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Mariposatje

Most of you will probably think I'm just a naive, stupid girl...

Don't want to be mean...but YES you are...at least regarding this "relationship"

ElvisNYC · #4 05-31-2009, 11:58 AM

I like it that they have your email and send you pics !! Hahahaha

If the pictures are innocent, don't worry about them ! He probably isn't doing anything bad, and I'm pretty sure he's definitely working on something to be that tired

ElvisNYC · #5 05-31-2009, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by suarezn

Don't want to be mean...but YES you are...at least regarding this "relationship"

I second this

AnnaC · #6 05-31-2009, 12:08 PM

With new bus loads of tourist arriving week after week how can you be the only one?

Lambada · #7 05-31-2009, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Mariposatje

Ok we went a few times to the disco where he introduced me to his friends. Then I read that sankies give you the time of your life on holiday, while he sometimes gave me the opposite feeling. He didn't ignore me, but it was not the perfect picture.

He is giving you all the signs that he has stopped being interested. Introducing you to friends in the disco is saying 'take her off my hands, I have other fish to fry'. Probably these other women you mention are richer or in some way a better prospect. But either way, thank your lucky stars! You've escaped the ongoing turmoil that many women experience. It started in November and by April it was time expired; this is NOT destined to be a long term relationship. Don't bother putting any energy into finding out whether he's playing with you; his behaviour has already told you he is. Why the ongoing phone calls? Well, chances are you're paying for them and it's his way of boosting his rating among his male friends.

Congratulate yourself on being extremely fortunate to have found out early on, not to have lost too much money (we hope!) and move on and find a decent guy. Come back & look at this thread in a year's time & laugh at it. Good luck to you.

Hillbilly · #8 05-31-2009, 12:56 PM

Oh yes to the previous six posts...

Honey, you are so lucky you found out not and only have an inflated phone bill to thank for it..

99.999% of all hotel workers are looking to score a visa, a marriage, a "mate" ...these guys are so well known at Western Union that they don't even ask them for ID any more...
Hey, Jose, your girl in Quebec's check.MO, cash arrived!!
Hey, Jose, your girl from NYC's check arrived!
Hey, Jose...well you should get the picture.

Oh yeah, there are girls like that too....

Be happy, you are free and unencumbered...

HB

jrhartley · #9 05-31-2009, 01:06 PM

who are these girls that know your e mail address to send pictures to ? not that I dont beleive you or anything

diamondcheek · #10 05-31-2009, 08:07 PM

"So I'm gonna call him and find out what he has to say about it..."
Don't even bother yourself with that, you'll get sick. If those women or girls tell you that you're not the only one, and they send you their pictures together, imagine "how low they fell in their own eyes". Be higher of all that and let them be used; don't go to "the same level". Sorry, I don't want to insult anybody, but I saw communication of that guy (from my story 11 years difference) with two women (they found each other somehow). He had to choose one of them; therefore, he wrote all dirty words to another. And I was so angry about that woman (I know that it's non of my business), but how she could believe it?!?! I wrote to her that she's one those women he's using for money, or future visa, etc). He call me in five minutes and said "go to the hell Sveta. You're stupid". I said "No smart!" And he said please, don't write anything anybody anymore (the meaning was not to crush his dirty games). I did not want to do it this time, it just happened, that hotmail sent me note that this guy had new posts on his wall (because I deleted him long time ago from my contacts, but his address was in the history). Sorry for the long narration, but "don't sell yourself for less", you desire better!!!!!!! Just answer yourseft what do you want to here from him, and why do you want to call? Be above all those dirty games!!!!