Dominican women and cheating

[Yayow]

Originally Posted by Berzin

This issue cuts both ways.

Ever seen a couple where the spark has completely disappeared from their relationship?

I know some married couples who sleep together and haven't had sex in over ten years. Not with each other and not with anyone else.

The guy kills himself working and the wife stays home screaming at the kids and banging pots and pans together out of frustration, spending the majority of her waking moments washing dishes and cooking. It's the epitome of misery.

I have neighbors like this. They take separate vacations and she swears her husband doesn't have a girlfriend in the DR. I know quite a few Dominicans who are married with kids in NYC and have girlfriends and/or a completely different family in the DR.

I can't speak for the DR but here in NYC sex doesn't seem to be too much about pleasure. It's about manipulation, power, conquest and control in varying degrees for both men and women.

When the relationship gets strained the first thing some women do is withhold sex. Why? Depending on the dynamics of the relationship it may be the only power the have, so they use it. And sometimes it goes on for months, even years.

If these women feel they can do without sex, that's just peachy. But don't expect the husband to go along with that program. I don't think so.

The flip side-a lot of latino men think that providing food and shelter for their family is enough. They spend their leisure time smoking, drinking and playing dominoes with the guys after work instead of spending quality time with their families or taking their wives out on dates. What woman really wants to have sex with an out-of-shape, beer-bellied slob who reeks of cigarettes and Coors Light just because he provides her with a roof over her head and food for her kids?

So I can see why people cheat on their spouses. As for me, the type of woman who could keep me from cheating wouldn't marry me, so I guess I'm out of luck.

Bárbara Mori-


As for Badpiece, I don't recall him taking sacred vows to be eternally faithful to any one woman for the rest of his life. He's not living a double life and he's not being a hypocrite. You may not agree with his M.O., but you gotta respect his honesty. The world could use more of that.

A very wise post here, I agree with it entirely. Because I have been there and done that, and don't chose to do it again, so continue to preach, please!!

[Yayow]

Originally Posted by Berzin

As for Badpiece, I don't recall him taking sacred vows to be eternally faithful to any one woman for the rest of his life. He's not living a double life and he's not being a hypocrite. You may not agree with his M.O., but you gotta respect his honesty. The world could use more of that.

By the way even if Badpiece or anyone else took sacred vows promising fidelity, unfortunately things change, and for the most part we have no control of that.

Again I may be a bit naive here, but I believe when most people take those sacred vows of marriage etc. they go into it intending to honor those vows. The problem is, that life has a way of getting in the way. Things as they exist when you get married, are often not the same way a few years down the road, when someone makes a decision to stray. And yes that goes both ways, life is fluid, it doesn't stay the same for either party.

So you wake up one day and everybody is miserable, are you supposed to live the rest of your life in misery, just because x number of years earlier you made a vow? If you do in my opinion you are living a lie! In my humble opinion life is too short to live a large chunk of it miserably. Again this is just my opinion, I expect many of you have different opinions, and that is fine.