Dominican women and cheating

[ExtremeR]

It is clear that it does hurt, cheating from both sides when known does hurt. But it isn't the end of the world either.

[ElvisNYC]

Originally Posted by badpiece33

I may not be faithful to one woman but when I am with a woman I treat her with respect and as if she were the only one while we are together.

Very well said, spoken like a gentlemen !!

[Yayow]

Originally Posted by LaMoreniita

Let's be real now, most Latino/African/Caribbean people are CHEATERS!! I am not saying they are the only ones, but around 60% more than your average 'white' person.

Absolutely amazing!!! One of the most racist posts I have read here. It was posted in one of the earlier posts of this thread on the second page, and although I wanted to comment initially, when I first read it, I decided to wait and see if anyone else would comment. Reading how so many comment on many other trivial things, surely I felt at least one person would comment on such a statement as the one above. Well I got to page six and no one commented, so I just had to.

More than 60% more than your average 'white' person, first of all I didn't know there was such a thing as an average any type of person. Where exactly did you get your facts, or do your research to make such claims?

I will give you somewhat of a pass, however because you are a teenager, so you say. Hopefully as you get older, and learn a little more about the world, you won't be so strict and prejudicial/judgmental in your beliefs.

[Richard Alberto]

Originally Posted by minerva_feliz

They are just playing a role of someone who doesn't care, and that role was created for them by men.

I can see where you would say that the role was created by men since historically it's been a male dominated world.

However, survival of humanity would not have been possible without the likelihood that the male has to have offspring to keep the family "alive". In the past men went to war, to hunt etc.. and it was imperative that men had to have as many children as possible for the tribe etc. to survive. So in a round about way Yes it was created by men, but it is built into the DNA for survival. Are we humans,animals? However, we all share the need to survive that is more instinctive, than created.
"La Otra" apparently has needs too, that she seeks fulfill from a male. I would guess that this role has been created for us by women. Wouldn't that be fair to say?

This same "survival" had families pawn off their daughter to the best caretaker (men) for the survival of HER family. Historically, the male was allowed to have more than one wife IF he was able to maintain her and her family. No doubt this was more honorable. What has really changed? It appears that the more "evolve" we become the more things stay the same.

[DominicanBilly]

Originally Posted by Yayow

Absolutely amazing!!! One of the most racist posts I have read here. It was posted in one of the earlier posts of this thread on the second page, and although I wanted to comment initially, when I first read it, I decided to wait and see if anyone else would comment. Reading how so many comment on many other trivial things, surely I felt at least one person would comment on such a statement as the one above. Well I got to page six and no one commented, so I just had to.

More than 60% more than your average 'white' person, first of all I didn't know there was such a thing as an average any type of person. Where exactly did you get your facts, or do your research to make such claims?

I will give you somewhat of a pass, however because you are a teenager, so you say. Hopefully as you get older, and learn a little more about the world, you won't be so strict and prejudicial/judgmental in your beliefs.

Yayow: Here are some famous quotes for you on facts.

“Facts, or what a man believes to be facts, are always delightful - Get your facts first, and - then you can distort 'em as much as you please”
Mark Twain

“I am not one of those who in expressing opinions confine themselves to facts”
Mark Twain

“Prejudice is a great time saver. You can form opinions without having to get the facts.”
E. B. White

[Yayow]

Originally Posted by DominicanBilly

Yayow: Here are some famous quotes for you on facts.

“Facts, or what a man believes to be facts, are always delightful - Get your facts first, and - then you can distort 'em as much as you please”
Mark Twain

“I am not one of those who in expressing opinions confine themselves to facts”
Mark Twain

“Prejudice is a great time saver. You can form opinions without having to get the facts.”
E. B. White

You are a wise soul Mr. Dominican Billy

[Manuel832]

I had a similar question myself but I wanted to ask more from the point of view of the middle/upper classes women then opposed to to the normal women.

It surprises me/puzzles that women from good homes would put up with it. Why don't they just get another man? or is it in the culture for girls from this class to shut up and take it?

[dulce]

Manuel,
It is called denial from the upper class. If they believed and admitted that thier man was cheating then they would have to do something about it.

[MarkusL1]

In my believe the following is valid for men and women the same: There is LUST and LOVE. Unfortunately most people getting very confused about what's what and might think they are in LOVE when it's really LUST. Or they thing their partner is sleeping with somebody else, so he/she must be in LOVE with that person, but it's really Lust, not LOVE.
I think most people cheating on their partner are doing it out of Lust and are still in Love with their partner. I think we all know, if we really meet somebody and we truly fall in LOVE, we would want to be with that person regardless of the consequences.
Also, often people are still in LOVE with their long term partners but the Lust got a bit lost or is asleep.
But after discovering that the partner had something with somebody else, Lust can come back - once the initial shock of being cheated on is over....
Many long term relationships experiencing a second or even third spring after an infidelity was discovered and therefore it could become a great chance for the relationship.
Bottom line: Maybe women in the DR are more in touch with the truth and more willing to accept it as it is. Often people in the third world are living by: It is what it is and let's live with it. While most of us people in the so called developed world always have to push for the better and spend a lot of time with worrying about things we can't even change....

[Isabel2nycdr]

Ok I might be putting my foot into my mouth with this one but here are my 2 cents. I'll only be speaking for the younger generation, so bear with me please:

Why do we put up with it? Because we do the same thing, we're just a hell of a lot more careful and discreet about it. I'm Dominican, and even though I grew up in the States, and I guess you could say that I'm used to the American way of life, when I'm down in DR, it's a totally different ball game. For some reason, it's totally acceptable to go out with your guyfriends or girlfriends, get a bit tipsy, sweet talk a girl or get sweet talked by a guy, make out with a them, maybe even sleep with them, and go back to your partner like nothing is wrong (I'm not talking about me btw, it's just an observation I've made over the past few years). Both sexes do it, and why does it work? Because their significant other knows that it's purely physical. There's not emotional strings attached. Lke someone pointed out, it's lust, not love. At the end of the day, they're still with the one they truly love, even if they can't keep it in the pants, the guys, or keep their legs closed, the girls. And since they both do it, you can't really be hypocritical about it and acuse the other. Also, for alot of people, it adds drama to the relationship, which they love, because it keeps it exciting in some twisted way. That's just the way it is in society, and it's sometimes has nothing to do with economical or financial reason, because I've seen women who put up with it who don't have anything to lose if they leave. Unfortunately, it's sort of a who can out cheat each other game. And I'm strictly talking about when your young and dating or have a boyfriend or girlfriend. And I'm not saying that EVERYONE does it, just that sadly, the majority do. Cheating while your married is completely different. But then ask yourself: if the person allows it during the first stages of the relationship, then who are they to say 10 or 15 years down the road that they won't accept it? You've made your bed, now you have to lie in it.