18 year old Dominican Stepchild in the USA

[Tamborista]

Originally Posted by gringobachata7

Thank you. and this went on for over a year until one day, he decided to try to hit me.

Get this basura out of your life and deported!

[TOOBER_SDQ]

You sound like a very nice guy. I hate to be so harsh but, as the "man of the house", you are not respected; not by that little punk, your wife or her family.

Your house = Your rules.

If you can have the punk deported, do it. At the very least, keep him out of your home and don't support him. If he continues to come around and make disturbances, get a restraining order. If his mother balks, take a hard line with her. Let her know that she can join him if she likes.

You are not being respected as you should be.

I realize this sounds very harsh to many. Most men I meet these days have had their man parts eviscerated, or have no more sense of what should and shouldn’t be acceptable.

I am sure you worked hard for what you have. You don’t owe this punk anything. His mother should be ashamed that she raised such a monster, and be relieved to see him go.

Thanks for bringing an A-HOLE into our Country. You should feel an obligation to get him out now.

There are services that can have a new passport for vermin punk in under 48 hours. Just tell them the old one was lost. PM me and I’ll give you a number to call.

Good Luck. Don’t be a pu$$y. Man-up.

[Alyonka]

You need to find out what the rules are for deportation proceedings in your state and start the process. You might need to document everything that he does, and also make sure to have a few police reports on him. It is not easy to get someone deported, but if physical abuse and violence are involved - it can be done. Have you noticed him taking or selling drugs?

[SKing]

Originally Posted by TOOBER_SDQ

You sound like a very nice guy. I hate to be so harsh but, as the "man of the house", you are not respected; not by that little punk, your wife or her family.

Your house = Your rules.

If you can have the punk deported, do it. At the very least, keep him out of your home and don't support him. If he continues to come around and make disturbances, get a restraining order. If his mother balks, take a hard line with her. Let her know that she can join him if she likes.

You are not being respected as you should be.

I realize this sounds very harsh to many. Most men I meet these days have had their man parts eviscerated, or have no more sense of what should and shouldn’t be acceptable.

I am sure you worked hard for what you have. You don’t owe this punk anything. His mother should be ashamed that she raised such a monster, and be relieved to see him go.

Thanks for bringing an A-HOLE into our Country. You should feel an obligation to get him out now.

There are services that can have a new passport for vermin punk in under 48 hours. Just tell them the old one was lost. PM me and I’ll give you a number to call.

Good Luck. Don’t be a pu$$y. Man-up.

I totally agree with you.
SHALENA

[gringobachata7]

Originally Posted by Alyonka

You need to find out what the rules are for deportation proceedings in your state and start the process. You might need to document everything that he does, and also make sure to have a few police reports on him. It is not easy to get someone deported, but if physical abuse and violence are involved - it can be done. Have you noticed him taking or selling drugs?

No, I have not seen any drugs but he does have some sort of cheap video games and bootlegs that they sell in the barber shop where he works, also, he had a knife that he dropped in our basement just 2 days before i had to restrain him and hit him. He said to his mother that he thought I might like it and he found it and brought it home for me. It was this real sharp pocket knife and I know pocket knives can be used to cut up cocaine or crack.

[Chip]

Originally Posted by gringobachata7

No, I have not seen any drugs but he does have some sort of cheap video games and bootlegs that they sell in the barber shop where he works, also, he had a knife that he dropped in our basement just 2 days before i had to restrain him and hit him. He said to his mother that he thought I might like it and he found it and brought it home for me. It was this real sharp pocket knife and I know pocket knives can be used to cut up cocaine or crack.

I realize your tough situation, but please try to keep a cool head and not get any type of further physical confrontations, otherwise you could get into a lot of hot water.

[Alyonka]

Originally Posted by gringobachata7

No, I have not seen any drugs but he does have some sort of cheap video games and bootlegs that they sell in the barber shop where he works, also, he had a knife that he dropped in our basement just 2 days before i had to restrain him and hit him. He said to his mother that he thought I might like it and he found it and brought it home for me. It was this real sharp pocket knife and I know pocket knives can be used to cut up cocaine or crack.

His behavior definitely points to some substance abuse. You need to call social services in your area, and also police, document and report everything that happens. Be careful, if he finds out, who knows what he might possibly do.

You might also want to pay attention to his eyes - people under the influence of substances usually have very wide pupils.

[gringobachata7]

Everything was just so odd, his mother had to confront him about the knife since I was avoiding arguments but she told me everything afterwards. Our neighborhood is slightly ghetto and drugs are accessible. I have not touched anything even alcohol in years actually.

[gringobachata7]

i just thought it was odd, who finds a knife and brings it home and says....i thought dad might like it coincidentally when all he wanted to do was argue and start problems with me. it felt almost like a threat and less like he had a drug problem.

[gringobachata7]

the big problem is that his mother nags me all the time and the family in the DR in poverty call and harrass me to suport him and make him a permanent resident because the life in the DR is too hard for him and that it is damaging everything that we spent years building together.