Dominican Airforce/Army? Or have any advice for me?

[lfleming]

I'm in a bit of a nightmare situation and is a long story.

My boyfriend is from the Dominican and I am from Scotland and although physically we look the same age I am 10years older. We met only 1 year ago and I wasn't attracted to him physically, but once we got talking we just clicked and didn't want to be apart from each other. A lot of my friends in Scotland told me that he is only after a passport and when I told him this, he told me that it doesn't matter about a passport and that he would be more than happy for me to move over to Dominican to live with him and that he loves me for me and not for any papers.

He is in the army and worked there through the day and worked at a bar at night. But he has now been called up by the army and has had to give his bar job up and can't get to contact me. He speaks very little English, but he always manages to get his colonel's son to send me messages.

I would like to go to the Domincan a few times a year to get to know him better before making any kind of commitment. The problem is, is that I don't know whether he would be able to get time off from the army to see me.

Does anyone know a bit about the Dominican Airforce/Army? Or have any advice for me?

Thanks x

[AnnaC]

Originally Posted by lfleming

He is in the army and worked there through the day and worked at a bar at night. But he has now been called up by the army and has had to give his bar job up and can't get to contact me. He speaks very little English, but he always manages to get his colonel's son to send me messages.

I would like to go to the Dominican a few times a year to get to know him better before making any kind of commitment. The problem is, is that I don't know whether he would be able to get time off from the army to see me.

Does anyone know a bit about the Dominican Airforce/Army? Or have any advice for me?

Thanks x

Wow 5 hours has gone by and no one has offered any advice yet?

What I will say is that only this fellow knows how much time he will get off in order to visit with you. The other thing is that unless he starts taking English lessons and you take Spanish how will you get to know each other? Doesn't sound like you have much going on in the way of true communication with this fellow.

Something doesn't sound right here but good luck whatever you decide.

[Lambada]

He doesn't live at the army barracks? And he can't get to contact you because he has had to give up the bar job? Did his colonel's son run the bar? I don't quite see what the connection is between him not being able to contact you now that he isn't at the bar if most of the contact is via the son of his commanding officer. Well..........I could speculate, but I won't.

[Hillbilly]

Cougar after cub. Cub gets cougar. Cougar screwed!!

DO NOT spend one penny, and you will see where this is going..

This is a play. You met him at a hotel? Bar? Anywhere but an Insurance/bank/commercial establishement??? And even then it is 50-50 it is a ploy.

You are his ticket out of here...

Army here is pi$$ poor pay, no advancement chances (unless a chance to cover for some cocaine trafficking turns up-but then he wouldn't need you!!)

HB

[Bronxboy]

Originally Posted by lfleming

I'm in a bit of a nightmare situation and is a long story.

My boyfriend is from the Dominican and I am from Scotland and although physically we look the same age I am 10years older. We met only 1 year ago and I wasn't attracted to him physically, but once we got talking we just clicked and didn't want to be apart from each other. A lot of my friends in Scotland told me that he is only after a passport and when I told him this, he told me that it doesn't matter about a passport and that he would be more than happy for me to move over to Dominican to live with him and that he loves me for me and not for any papers.

He is in the army and worked there through the day and worked at a bar at night. But he has now been called up by the army and has had to give his bar job up and can't get to contact me. He speaks very little English, but he always manages to get his colonel's son to send me messages.

I would like to go to the Domincan a few times a year to get to know him better before making any kind of commitment. The problem is, is that I don't know whether he would be able to get time off from the army to see me.

Does anyone know a bit about the Dominican Airforce/Army? Or have any advice for me?

Thanks x

Run!!!!!! as fast as you can............................................... .........

[lfleming]

Thanks for all your feedback.

I have heard some horror stories and thats why I wanted some advice. He is learning English from a friend and I am learning Spanish. But it just seemed strange to me that he would email me every week for a year and then when he was "called up" he couldn't communicate with me at all except through a boy of 14. I will stop all communication with the 14 year old boy (sounds ridiculous I know) and see what happens. So far, he has never requested money and I wouldn't send it anyway.

It's so hard to find a genuine decent guy anywhere and that includes my own country

Once again, thanks and I will keep you all posted

L x

[lfleming]

Oh I meant to say that I believe he does live at the barracks and so is there day and night. But how can I be sure? He worked in a bar at night but then was called in Airforce / Army for something and had to give the bar job up because he was going to be stationed at the barracks day and night.

[Hillbilly]

As far as I know the DR military, that does not sound right. Usually they are a few days on duty and then a few more off. Nobody is 24/7 on duty unless there is an emergency.

And there is no emergency.

I am betting he is working on another innocent...

Be careful and forget this guy...

HB

[Chip]

You're best bet is to forget this guy.

Not to worry though, there are literally thousands of Dominican guys in the States who would love to have a gringa as a girlfriend, and many speak English to boot. You best bet is to communicate with the via the social networking website. A real bonus is that they won't be after you at the very least for a residence card in gringolandia (wherever ithat may be), as they already have one if they aren't already a citizen of wherever they live.

I in fact have two family members on the wife's side that live in NY (maybe illegally ? ), that are doing their best to find a gringa girlfriend, but alas to no avail. I keep telling their family to tell them to learn English, but it is easier said to done. Nonetheless, one of them left a promising medical career here in the DR to sweep floors in NY and after three or four years I doubt he'll have saved US10k. The point is I know he's there because of all of the gringas, hehe.

[Chirimoya]

The States? Green card?

The OP is from Scotland.