A very sticky wicket?

[jalencastro]

Originally Posted by pedrochemical

I know, I am probably going to hell, but like most other people in this part of the world, I am going to have fun doing it.
For the moment I am still stuck with the guilt and jealousy thing - but I will eventually grow out of it - I hope before something similar happens to me.

just some thoughts.....

well put my friend...you summed it up perfectly!

[suarezn]

Haha...I like your style Pedro.

Badpiece is probably correct about "cousin" Pedro living in this house you're paying for.

Rhino: One approach is to continue with intel gathering (very covertly of course) and plan your exit strategy. Wouldn't let her suspect anything and when you have enough evidence then BLAM divorce her a$$, stop the green card process, etc. Did I understand all the kids are here too?

She'll probably will still stay in The US and you're probably now on the hook for child support, but at least you're not going to be taken for a fool.

Another approach as Pedro mentioned is to take it easy and understand that if you're going to have to pay child support anyway why not continue to get some. Let her know you know about Pedro and as such you now have the right to play around as you please...

[InsanelyOne]

rhino r, the answer is simple... and it's right in front of you.

What's the worst that can happen? If you can accept that, don't do anything and enjoy the ride. If not, it's time to move on.

[jalencastro]

Originally Posted by pedrochemical

It has been said that every man has the idealised notion of a relationship with just one woman whom he loves. Great stuff but wrong country, wrong generation, wrong epoch, zeitgeist, paradigm etc.

Do it respectfully - ie. at least make it look like you are trying not to get caught, strike the balance and live your life to the full.

hmmm...I hope you aren't the PEDRO on this lady's cell phone contacts! LOL

[badpiece33]

Originally Posted by pedrochemical

Not my view exactly, but I have heard the following expressed by many a man here....


It depends on how you look at it.
Where some see a problem, others see an opportunity.
Given that in the news 76% of Dominican men admit to cheating, perhaps you need to embrace the situation.
I think you know she is banging Pedro. But Pedro is banging Diana, Julisa, Maria, Jennifer and Samantha.
If you marry a poor Dominican girl a generation younger than you - what can you expect?
This is not negative criticism.
Embrace it, my friend.
As long as she is a good mother and like most Dominicans is 'unfaithful' in a respectable fashion (does not blurt it all over town) then that is your free pass to middle aged fun par excellence.
This is your opportunity to have your family with the person you love and respect, whilst enjoying your dotage to the full.
It seems difficult for NA / European men to get over the jealousy and guilt caused by marital infidelity. But when you do come out of the cave, you will never go back.

It has been said that every man has the idealised notion of a relationship with just one woman whom he loves. Great stuff but wrong country, wrong generation, wrong epoch, zeitgeist, paradigm etc.

Do it respectfully - ie. at least make it look like you are trying not to get caught, strike the balance and live your life to the full.

Always appear hurt, shocked and generally upset when something like this happens but why not take solace in the arms, legs, personality, cocomordan of another??

I know, I am probably going to hell, but like most other people in this part of the world, I am going to have fun doing it.
For the moment I am still stuck with the guilt and jealousy thing - but I will eventually grow out of it - I hope before something similar happens to me.

just some thoughts.....

You are 100% correct everyone is doing it, it is just done covertly and if you get caught or you catch your wife you either have to take some shyte for awhile or dish it out for awhile so that everyone involved knows to do their shyte more covertly next time. Sorry but it is what it is, everyone cheats sooner or later and more often than not sooner in DR. So you will have to learn to play the game or go find someone from a less permiscous culture, For mself I choose to play the game as well or if not better than others.

[Collingwood]

Come on I am trying to enjoy my beer!

Man Up - Get the twins tested. If there not yours call ICE (Immigration and Customs Enforcement), throw her out and head on back to Sosua and find another Princess. Move her into the $1100 per month house until the lease is up and sit back and watch the fun of the new Princess fighting with family of the previous Rat. However this time try not to make those Rookie Mistakes!!!!!

[zoomzx11]

Take your time, be patient, keep your mouth shut. You will find out what is going on in due time. Perhaps its nothing like you think and you wreck the marriage over what you suspect is true. A name is a cell phone even if deleted as you describe is no reason to go over the edge. There is a distinct possibility your suspicions are wrong. Dont take the advice of the cynics here. Good luck to you and I hope it all turns out for the best.

[rsg]

Originally Posted by pedrochemical

Not my view exactly, but I have heard the following expressed by many a man here....


It depends on how you look at it.
Where some see a problem, others see an opportunity.
Given that in the news 76% of Dominican men admit to cheating, perhaps you need to embrace the situation.
I think you know she is banging Pedro. But Pedro is banging Diana, Julisa, Maria, Jennifer and Samantha.
If you marry a poor Dominican girl a generation younger than you - what can you expect?
This is not negative criticism.
Embrace it, my friend.
As long as she is a good mother and like most Dominicans is 'unfaithful' in a respectable fashion (does not blurt it all over town) then that is your free pass to middle aged fun par excellence.
This is your opportunity to have your family with the person you love and respect, whilst enjoying your dotage to the full.
It seems difficult for NA / European men to get over the jealousy and guilt caused by marital infidelity. But when you do come out of the cave, you will never go back.

It has been said that every man has the idealised notion of a relationship with just one woman whom he loves. Great stuff but wrong country, wrong generation, wrong epoch, zeitgeist, paradigm etc.

Do it respectfully - ie. at least make it look like you are trying not to get caught, strike the balance and live your life to the full.

Always appear hurt, shocked and generally upset when something like this happens but why not take solace in the arms, legs, personality, cocomordan of another??

I know, I am probably going to hell, but like most other people in this part of the world, I am going to have fun doing it.
For the moment I am still stuck with the guilt and jealousy thing - but I will eventually grow out of it - I hope before something similar happens to me.

just some thoughts.....

JEALOUSY Is not the issue here Pedrochemical. It is about providing a good home for your wife and child, and her other two illigitamite children, and this cuero feels the need to bang primo pedro.This women had nothing,and will have nothing again if the op is smart and gets out of dodge when he finds out the truth.
And about you pedro, are you saying that because the op is older then his barrio wife that he should turn the other cheek and settle for sloppy leftovers from some motoconcho don juan? Are you saying that you would accept this pedro? Any man who turn the other cheek on a cheating wife is nothing but a stupid, spinless whimp. I don't give a sh.. how hot his wife is, or how old the op is, get rid of her if she is a cheater.

[pedrochemical]

You can give this woman all the nicer things in life but if she loves Pedro - ain't nothing that this guy gonna do for her will change that.
She is a generation younger than him and he found her in a poor country - what do you expect?
Shock horror! She had a life before he came along and yanked her out of it into a totally alien environment based largely on lust. 'Impregnation' (how romantic) happened kind of quick don't you think?

Anyway, he is being played.
Maybe that is not the end of the world.
You would have to ask him.



He has choices.
I hope he and his kids are happy with whatever he chooses.
I know what I would do.

Each to their own.

[rhino r]

The twins are my girls, my wife was with me all the time during the conception period. Without a doubt. The twin girls are both white skinned and look like me as well. We moved to the States and Pedro had nothing to do with our rental house in Santiago which we left when leaving the country. Again her behavior has always exemplified frugality and caring for me. With respect to the age differential, she logically told me that she had always been attracted to older men as her own father is 20 years older than her mother and they have a loving marriage. My primary concern is the welfare of the babies, my plan, if I find out that she hustled me, would be to have her kids and her deported prior to receiving her green card and I will raise the kids here. How could I possibly send my babies to live in poverty and squalor in some DR barrio. Plus, I would not want to have any more to do with her nor let her use the babies as leverage to have me finance her families life. Again, I must emphasize that her brother and father both exhibited only honorable traits (hard working, family oriented etc.) during the two years I was living in Santiago. So, I plan to continue the surveillance and react if and when I have sufficient evidence. Thanks for you few who read the post accurrately and inputed.