Is there hope

[La Mariposa]

Originally Posted by canadiangirl858

I think you are seeing his true colours, and things probably won't get any better, just worse. Sorry to be negative but same thing happened to me. We got married, he came to Canada, lived with me for 2 months and left. He hasn't tried to contact me since he left.

I've talked to others in similar situations and once they get all their documents they leave shortly after, never to be heard of again. I don't know where you live but in Canada they get permanent residence immediately-no waiting period at all. Be very careful.

That doesn't mean they cannot loose it and be deported too.

[MommC]

Very difficult to lose once you have it La Mariposa.
Unless it can be proven he married under false pretenses just to get a permanent residency if he's made it to Canada, he's here until he decides to leave. Most likely he'll find a "better" bed to lie in then ask for a divorce!

[dv8]

is there no way to kick the bastard out of the country?
what a place canada is. in cold and uninviting poland you have to be married for a long time before even THINKING about residency. saves lot of trouble....

[AnnaC]

Originally Posted by dv8

is there no way to kick the bastard out of the country?
what a place canada is. in cold and uninviting poland you have to be married for a long time before even THINKING about residency. saves lot of trouble....

It used to be like that in Canada, landed immigrants would have to live with their sponsors for years before getting residency ( can't remember how many) But the good people went to the government screaming that is was not fair so the laws were changed.

Now the way things are someone can say bye bye upon arrival at the airport.

I've read that people who have been burnt are screaming to the government to change the laws again and make it harder for immigrants.

Try and prove fraud..now there's a laugh. you've just spend a good year or so proving you did indeed have a real relationship and made a few dozen calls to Haiti and now you're going to say it was fraud? Good luck with that one.

Our government just doesn't have a big enough task forge to be looking into every potential fraud case.

Marriages break down so after a few months the marriage didn't work out because the bitch wouldn't let me go dancing alone and stuff like that


Best to spend more time getting to know your loved one, make a few surprise visits etc before you get in too deep.

[AnnaC]

Originally Posted by mart0417

Hi I have married a guy form the Dominican and I wish I woudl have seen this forum first. He started out as a really nice guy and now things are chaning he asks for moneya dn a lot of it, and he jsut is nto caring anymore, he is mad at me everyday, he sayd he does nto know why maybe he is nervous, but maybe I am seeing his true colors

If he's not in Canada yet the power is yours, STOP the fricking papers. if you think he's angry now just wait.

[dv8]

Originally Posted by AnnaC

If he's not in Canada yet the power is yours, STOP the fricking papers. if you think he's angry now just wait.

i agree, stop the papers, go to your local home office, whatever it's called, tell them that the marriege was based on fraud. ha!

[AnnaC]

Originally Posted by dv8

i agree, stop the papers, go to your local home office, whatever it's called, tell them that the marriege was based on fraud. ha!

She should call and write the office in Haiti, that is where immigration papers to Canada are processed.

[shadInToronto]

She posted in another thread ... maybe better to consolidate here
She's here also .... Starting at post #84

[AnnaC]

Ok I moved them here and now her first post make more sense

[azabache]

Originally Posted by mart0417

Hi I have married a guy form the Dominican and I wish I woudl have seen this forum first. He started out as a really nice guy and now things are chaning he asks for moneya dn a lot of it, and he jsut is nto caring anymore, he is mad at me everyday, he sayd he does nto know why maybe he is nervous, but maybe I am seeing his true colors

Some Dominicans who immigrate to places like Canada and the USA have a bigtime struggle with culture shock.....the cold, gloomy weather, being isolated from friends and relatives, frustration with the language, frustration with the new diet, being dependant upon someone else for some of the smallest of tasks. Not having the money that they expected to have.....All of this causes depression that no one can feel except him.
Not everyone has the psychological makeup to successfully deal with these negatives. He's going to need all of the love and understanding and patience that you can muster up. The bottom line is that you are going to have to decide if he and your marriage are worth it. I would bet that they are.