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10-26-2006, 11:41 AM
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Originally Posted by azabache
Some Dominicans who immigrate to places like Canada and the USA have a bigtime struggle with culture shock.....the cold, gloomy weather, being isolated from friends and relatives, frustration with the language, frustration with the new diet, being dependant upon someone else for some of the smallest of tasks. Not having the money that they expected to have.....All of this causes depression that no one can feel except him.
Not everyone has the psychological makeup to successfully deal with these negatives. He's going to need all of the love and understanding and patience that you can muster up. The bottom line is that you are going to have to decide if he and your marriage are worth it. I would bet that they are.
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This is an excellent post but if you go back to the first post of this thread you'll see that he hasn't arrived in Canada yet. 
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10-26-2006, 11:54 AM
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Originally Posted by dv8
i agree, stop the papers, go to your local home office, whatever it's called, tell them that the marriege was based on fraud. ha!
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won't she get in trouble for agreeing to a fraudulant marriage?
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10-26-2006, 11:56 AM
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Originally Posted by AnnaC
This is an excellent post but if you go back to the first post of this thread you'll see that he hasn't arrived in Canada yet. |
OK thanks Anna I went back and checked......I thought what I was responding to was her first post 
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10-26-2006, 12:02 PM
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To answer your question candidly
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Originally Posted by mart0417
Hi I have married a guy form the Dominican and I wish I woudl have seen this forum first. He started out as a really nice guy and now things are chaning he asks for moneya dn a lot of it, and he jsut is nto caring anymore, he is mad at me everyday, he sayd he does nto know why maybe he is nervous, but maybe I am seeing his true colors
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NO, NO, NO!!!! nada .... no hope in a hopeless person, unless your ultimate goal is reforming him. 
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10-26-2006, 12:13 PM
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Originally Posted by azabache
OK thanks Anna I went back and checked......I thought what I was responding to was her first post |
No problem. She had two posts and the second one didn't have as much info.
The one with more details was lost in another thread so I put it all together.
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10-26-2006, 01:11 PM
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Bad Situation
This is a bad situation, but at least he is showing his true colours before he set foot in Canada. The Canadian Government in all its wisdom says that he is your responsibility. Once he has landed at the airport in Canada, even if he never sets foot in your house, but just disappears, well if he goes on assistance after that, you get to pay that back.
Yes it sucks that you're married and can't just walk away, but at least it hasn't come to him being in Canada, so I agree with Anna. If you're having doubts now, stop the process and see what happens.
I can't imagine that once he gets here, when there would be an actual reason for culture shock, a feeling of isolation and depression that it will get any better and if you think he asks for money now, how will you feel when he has to be totally reliant upon you?
Good Luck
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10-26-2006, 01:21 PM
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On Vacation!
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Good point
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Originally Posted by canadiangirl858
I think you are seeing his true colours, and things probably won't get any better, just worse. Sorry to be negative but same thing happened to me. We got married, he came to Canada, lived with me for 2 months and left. He hasn't tried to contact me since he left.
I've talked to others in similar situations and once they get all their documents they leave shortly after, never to be heard of again. I don't know where you live but in Canada they get permanent residence immediately-no waiting period at all. Be very careful.
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This is why Canadian girls are the preferred choice among Dominican men. Bar none! The sad thing is people such as this OP that find out only after it is too late. Well, it is never too late. He isn't there yet so cancel his arse.
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10-26-2006, 01:29 PM
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He asks you for MONEY?? Please listen to your good friends here and call, fax and write the Canadian Embassy in Port au Prince at once!!!
tell them you have been deceived and that you will not sponsor this person. Never, ever talk to him again. There are tons of people here that can make you happy, for a few days at least....
Really, never get mixed up with someone that is not at your educational lever. your financial level (even if it is in pesos) and your "savoir faire" level....
These guys are experts at getting into your heart (among other things like pocketbooks and credit cards, and yeah, that, too!)
Better be safe or really, really sorry!!
HB
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10-26-2006, 01:32 PM
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On Vaction for a few weeks!
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Indeed!
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Originally Posted by miamor
This is a bad situation, but at least he is showing his true colours before he set foot in Canada.
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The thing is that she is not seeing his true colors, which are more "colors" than a normal person needs to send this guy to go fry some platanos and get lost!.
I can already see her accepting his excuses. Excuses that sound or will sound like this:
"Ay mami, I am acting like this because I miss you too much" or
"Pero mi amor, don't you know that it's because I love you too much" or
"Cielo, I just can't be without you for such a long time" or
"Chula, I am not like this, not seeing you is making me act like this" or
"Querida, you are my life and without you, I am lost and then I get like this" or my personal favorite::::::
"Mami linda, it's because it's taking too long for me be with you over there, you know I am not like this, so if you hurry up and I get me there sooner than later, everything will be back to normal, ok mami".
Make believe that you are Carl Lewis and RUUUUUUUUUN away from that guy as fast as you can!!.
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10-26-2006, 02:08 PM
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Correction buddy!!!!
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Originally Posted by miguel
The thing is that she is not seeing his true colors, which are more "colors" than a normal person needs to send this guy to go fry some platanos and get lost!.
I can already see her accepting his excuses. Excuses that sound or will sound like this:
"Ay mami, I am acting like this because I miss you too much" or
"Pero mi amor, don't you know that it's because I love you too much" or
"Cielo, I just can't be without you for such a long time" or
"Chula, I am not like this, not seeing you is making me act like this" or
"Querida, you are my life and without you, I am lost and then I get like this" or my personal favorite::::::
"Mami linda, it's because it's taking too long for me be with you over there, you know I am not like this, so if you hurry up and I get me there sooner than later, everything will be back to normal, ok mami".
Make believe that you are Carl Lewis and RUUUUUUUUUN away from that guy as fast as you can!!.
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That should be Donovan Bailey.
Come on Miguel, you know that Carl Lewis wasn't clean, he was on steriods like Ben Johnson, another cheater (like the one mentioned in this thread). Donovan did it the natural way, oh did I mention he's Canadian 
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