Is there hope

mart0417 · #1 10-25-2006, 03:44 AM

So I fell in love with this man in the Dominican ( no I did not meet him at a resort) and I married him, now we are waiting for him to come to Canada. He was so loving and caring and very very sweet, now things are chaning. He is not like he used to be, he is very angry adn he says he does nto know why, he seems to be mad at me everyday, btu he can't not tell me why. He says maybe he is jsut nervous He shoudl be in Canada soon adn now I am worried. Is it true Dominican men have tempers? How do I know for sure he did nto jsut use me to get out of the Dominican. I read a previous posting adn I got very sad, because it was talkign about all the things to watch out for adn I think he hit almost all of them. If any one is out there who married a Dominican man maybe we could chat and you could give me some advise.

Audra · #2 10-25-2006, 08:05 AM

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Originally Posted by mart0417

So I fell in love with this man in the Dominican ( no I did not meet him at a resort) and I married him, now we are waiting for him to come to Canada. He was so loving and caring and very very sweet, now things are chaning. He is not like he used to be, he is very angry adn he says he does nto know why, he seems to be mad at me everyday, btu he can't not tell me why. He says maybe he is jsut nervous He shoudl be in Canada soon adn now I am worried. Is it true Dominican men have tempers? How do I know for sure he did nto jsut use me to get out of the Dominican. I read a previous posting adn I got very sad, because it was talkign about all the things to watch out for adn I think he hit almost all of them. If any one is out there who married a Dominican man maybe we could chat and you could give me some advise.

I feel sorry for you, If you are nervous now, and are unsure, can you imagine what it will be like when he gets to Canada ? He's going to be miserable.

Good luck.

mountainfrog · #3 10-25-2006, 09:54 AM

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Originally Posted by mart0417

.... this man in the Dominican ... to get out of the Dominican.... a Dominican man....

False twice.
Correct once.

m'frog

Malibook · #4 10-25-2006, 10:01 AM

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Originally Posted by mart0417

How do I know for sure he did nto jsut use me to get out of the Dominican.

You need to tell us about him and your relationship and post some pictures then you will get your answers.

dv8 · #5 10-25-2006, 06:34 PM

gosh, there was only one unhappy gal yday and now the dam breaks!
mart, if he's poor, uneducated and has never been abroad - cancel his ticket and file for a divorce.
if he is rich, educated and has been to america before - what is there to be angry about?
it's all a bit fishy.
your only hope is that he is a bit oversensative...

shadInToronto · #6 10-25-2006, 07:38 PM

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Originally Posted by mart0417

So I fell in love with this man in the Dominican ( no I did not meet him at a resort) and I married him, now we are waiting for him to come to Canada. He was so loving and caring and very very sweet, now things are chaning. He is not like he used to be, he is very angry adn he says he does nto know why, he seems to be mad at me everyday, btu he can't not tell me why. He says maybe he is jsut nervous He shoudl be in Canada soon adn now I am worried. Is it true Dominican men have tempers? How do I know for sure he did nto jsut use me to get out of the Dominican. I read a previous posting adn I got very sad, because it was talkign about all the things to watch out for adn I think he hit almost all of them. If any one is out there who married a Dominican man maybe we could chat and you could give me some advise.

Do you think any advice at this stage can change him? He was on his best behaviour during the probation period, but not anymore. Your best course of action would be to cancel your sponsorship. He knows that his objectives were achieved so you're seeing the real person .... a pain in the a$$ who will drain you financially and emotinoally. Only you can stop it now!!! Good luck !!!

mart0417 · #7 10-25-2006, 11:04 PM

Hi I have married a guy form the Dominican and I wish I woudl have seen this forum first. He started out as a really nice guy and now things are chaning he asks for moneya dn a lot of it, and he jsut is nto caring anymore, he is mad at me everyday, he sayd he does nto know why maybe he is nervous, but maybe I am seeing his true colors

la_barbie · #8 10-25-2006, 11:22 PM

you got yourself into a pickle ... too bad you're married cause you could've just turned around and walked away.... his true colours are BEAMING

canadiangirl858 · #9 10-25-2006, 11:24 PM

I think you are seeing his true colours, and things probably won't get any better, just worse. Sorry to be negative but same thing happened to me. We got married, he came to Canada, lived with me for 2 months and left. He hasn't tried to contact me since he left.

I've talked to others in similar situations and once they get all their documents they leave shortly after, never to be heard of again. I don't know where you live but in Canada they get permanent residence immediately-no waiting period at all. Be very careful.

tk toronto · #10 10-25-2006, 11:44 PM

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Originally Posted by mart0417

Hi I have married a guy form the Dominican and I wish I woudl have seen this forum first. He started out as a really nice guy and now things are chaning he asks for moneya dn a lot of it, and he jsut is nto caring anymore, he is mad at me everyday, he sayd he does nto know why maybe he is nervous, but maybe I am seeing his true colors

I got the impression that you want to work it out, but i don't see how it could get worked out because this type of changing is not the newlywed, getting used to each other kind of changing, it's plain ridiculous and manipulative. As well, asking you for lots of money, does he not have a job and why does he want this money??
If you don't mind, where do you live, in the DR or somewhere else??
I would say try to get out of this situation before you get too far into it.
Good luck!