am i a fool as well?

Canadiankitty · #1 10-31-2006, 12:13 AM

OK so I just started reading postings from this site and I feel quite awful. I have been in a relationship for 1 year with a guy I met in the DR, and yes I love him but now I really wonder if it's real or not. when I talk to him I totally belive him, but after reading all this... His name is Jose ...anybody know him, he currently works at Gran Bahia Principe in Punta Cana, before he worked at Sunscape and Sirenis, both in Punta Cana, but he lives in La Romana. Yes he is in animacion. Yes he has done some but not all of the things you have all talked about that sankies do. I never thought I was stupid...but now...I don't know what to think. I have already booked my next vacation to see him again in Dec and we plan on getting married in April. After reading lots of these threads I know what you will tell me, that I am stupid and naive. Are there no relationships that turn out to be real? I don't know what to think.

A couple points in his favour:
>he does teach me Spanish and he encourages me to take Spanish classes in Canada, which I have taken
>he wanted us to stay at a local hotel instead of the resort to save money, but I didn't want to and preferred AI

CommTHOR · #2 10-31-2006, 12:28 AM

I don't know him personally, but after reading the forums here, it looks like every other sankie... Although painful coming to the realization of it all, be glad you found this forum now rather than later.

Sorry, but if you're looking for someone to tell you that relationships like this do turn out here, I doubt it'll happen.

As for your points:
The more Spanish you know, the easier it'll be for him to communicate with you. It's nothing special.

The less money you spend at an AI, the more he'll eventually be able to take you for.

leehall · #3 10-31-2006, 12:45 AM

Sankiete? Don't know how the feminine version goes. I happened to be in the Puerto Plata Western Union today and recognised a animation team person from the Playa Dorado AI I am in. She bitched loudly for 15 minutes about how long she had to wait all the time. The teller told me that it wouldn't be such a problem if she only came in once a month, but she currently has 14 different nationalities sending her money...! and always causes a problem.

jcrew20 · #4 10-31-2006, 01:00 AM

Your Sankie doesn't want you to stay at an AI, because you will keeping him from his work (meeting new girls).

tk toronto · #5 10-31-2006, 01:11 AM

I say stop this now. You may believe that you have a lot of feelings for this person, but you'll get over it. It'll be better for you in the long run not to be involved with this person. Think about it this way - are you the only girl that he all of a sudden "loves"? As well, I assume that you do not live in the DR right now, so what do you think he's doing when you're gone for months?? If you think about it like that, it could make it easier to leave the situation.
Also, if he works at a resort, he may not make a lot of money, so you may end up supporting him, even if you do live there.
I haven't been in this particular situation, so I may be writing things that you may feel are unrealistic, but I truly do not like to see anyone being taken for a fool.
Especially a fellow Canadian

Emma22 · #6 10-31-2006, 01:13 AM

Are you a fool??? Nah! I don't think so - clever enough to join here before you married him weren't you??? NO FOOL AT ALL!!!

THINK CAREFULLY about marriage so soon though - I know my partner so well that he thinks it funny to shove my head under the blankets when he's farted!!! KNOW this guy warts an' all before you marry for God's sake!!!

KNOW him!!!

Wishing you well but advising you to apply the breaks some! Emma (There have been happy stories here by the way - just very, very few and far between!!)

Rocky · #7 10-31-2006, 05:14 AM

Quote:

I know what you will tell me, that I am stupid and naive.

I'm with Emma on this one.
You're no fool.
You're being scammed by a pro.
That does not make you a fool.
If you disregarded all the good sound advice above, then, you would be a fool.

Now, if you aren't overwhelmed with hurt, how about a bit of payback?
What do you say, that you don't let him know that you're wise to his game, go to PC and stay at the AI resort, recruit someone there (another gringa) to put the moves on him, get the evidence from her that he is a sanky, then play him along like a marionette.
ie: Tell him you couldn't bring much money with you this time and that your credit cards are tapped out, as you just invested in a property that you are going to turn over quickly and make yourself a mountain of money, of which you are going to send him $20,000 US to buy a car, as you don't want your future husband to have to take public transport.
Then just go home, knowing you got even.

Kyle · #8 10-31-2006, 06:13 AM

sankies are like motoconchos..if one misses you, the next sankie will pick you up...

Hillbilly · #9 10-31-2006, 06:55 AM

The reason for using the other hotel is that he would be fired if he was caught in your arms at the hotel.
Not to worry about being called names. One of the reasons people do not report
bunko to the police is because they are afraid of the ridicule they might receive.

Nobody here has the right to call you names. Just be smart and get out of this relationship. You do not have to worry about hurting his feelings...

HB

Audra · #10 10-31-2006, 07:16 AM

I stayed at the Bahia twice this year, I don't know this guy, not by name anyway. The first time I went there, I had no clue about all the sankies, the second time I went, I could not believe it. I want to say all, but no 99% of the animation team at the Bahia are sankies.

As Hillbilly said, you could not stay at the Bahia with him because he would get fired. You stayed at another A1 because you wouldn't have to dish out extra money on your trip. He just won a free vacation.

Don't you think that its a bit premature to marry this guy?

Everytime I get off the plane and head for the taxi's/transfers area - all I hear from the guys there is God Bless Canada - why do you think that is?????

End it now!