How do you expose a Sankie??

[momita]

Originally Posted by Vee510

What is the exact moment I will know for sure he is a bone fide sankie?
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Moment when he tells you that he loves you and he wants to marry you........:-0....just run girl...just run away......!!!!Be realistic and do not fool yourself.

[Kyle]

a rather odd question. i would think you "expose" a sankie by exposing yourself in terms of money, sex, clothes or whatever you do for him. exposing your true feelings for a scam artist is exposure enough don't ya think ?

[shadInToronto]

Originally Posted by Vee510

I see myself having friends in many places as I do travel frequently. I think it would be nice to have someone to visit if/when I go back to the DR. Why does it have to be all or nothing? As long as the relationship is not hurting me or draining me I don't see the harm in it. Am I wrong?

The truth is I like this person. Like him as in we get along and have fun together. Why do I need to cut if off if I don't want to marry him? I am sure he will cut me loose when he realizes he can't use me - if that is his intention.

I talk to many people here at home - I don't have a shortage of male company if I choose. I also have a demanding career that takes up a lot of my time. I am not looking for an intense relationship or something serious.

Maybe it's possible to have a long-distance friendship? Even with a Sankie?
I would hate believe I am soooo cynical or that relationships between men and women are so cut and dry. Is nothing pure anymore?

hmmmm interesting

You have the answers so why ask .... you want to expose the sankie but you want to be his friend, you have a demanding career but still have time to travel .... how many people talking at the same time in your head??? Your employer know they're underpaying you .... looks like they have a few extra employees without knowing it!!!!

[bellissima_81]

Originally Posted by Vee510

I see myself having friends in many places as I do travel frequently. I think it would be nice to have someone to visit if/when I go back to the DR. Why does it have to be all or nothing? As long as the relationship is not hurting me or draining me I don't see the harm in it. Am I wrong?

The truth is I like this person. Like him as in we get along and have fun together. Why do I need to cut if off if I don't want to marry him? I am sure he will cut me loose when he realizes he can't use me - if that is his intention.

I talk to many people here at home - I don't have a shortage of male company if I choose. I also have a demanding career that takes up a lot of my time. I am not looking for an intense relationship or something serious.

Maybe it's possible to have a long-distance friendship? Even with a Sankie?
I would hate believe I am soooo cynical or that relationships between men and women are so cut and dry. Is nothing pure anymore?

hmmmm interesting

Just be friends, if u say it doesnt hurt u or draining u why cut off someone who u never know can be a good friend to u , take it slow. Maybe he is a sankie maybe hes not only time will let u figure it out! And when ure gut feeling tells u that something isnt right thats when u know to back away but if not just let things be. I belive everybody deserve a chance and not to be judged u never know what type of opportunity ure facing or pushing away.

[mountainfrog]

Originally Posted by momita

... when he tells you that he loves you and he wants to marry you........:-0....just run girl...just run away.....

How cruel!
Isn't that flatter(n)ing and romantic?
The warm night, the palm trees, the moon, his look...

m'frog

[Vee510]

Originally Posted by shadInToronto

You have the answers so why ask .... you want to expose the sankie but you want to be his friend, you have a demanding career but still have time to travel .... how many people talking at the same time in your head??? Your employer know they're underpaying you .... looks like they have a few extra employees without knowing it!!!!

Is this supposed to be witty? I guess it's easy to attack someone from behind a computer - kudos shadInToronto! I aspire to be equally courageous someday.....

It is sad that personally insulting someone is the best way you have determined to make a point. I do have a demanding career and works a lot of overtime. So, when I do get my time off I like to go away and have the money to do so. Funny how you focus on the most irrelevant part of the thread.

Regardless of how many "people" I have talking in my head - I am still not the kind of person to judge prematurely or pass judgement on strangers. And thankfully, not even one of my "voices" is ignorant, degrading or condescending. Looks like we have enough of that in this rotten world.

I do believe there is good in all people - and quite frankly - there are people who post on this board that are worse then sankies. At least sankies are running their game to "survive". The evil that lives here is just for sport.

Thank you to the wonderful and supportive people who responded to my post positively and PM'd me.

Vee

p.s. just because I don't want to marry the guy and be friends does not make me "gay". It is unbelievable what people write here. Very disappointing to a newbie of this board.

[shadInToronto]

Originally Posted by Vee510

Is this supposed to be witty? I guess it's easy to attack someone from behind a computer - kudos shadInToronto! I aspire to be equally courageous someday.....

It is sad that personally insulting someone is the best way you have determined to make a point. I do have a demanding career and works a lot of overtime. So, when I do get my time off I like to go away and have the money to do so. Funny how you focus on the most irrelevant part of the thread.

Regardless of how many "people" I have talking in my head - I am still not the kind of person to judge prematurely or pass judgement on strangers. And thankfully, not even one of my "voices" is ignorant, degrading or condescending. Looks like we have enough of that in this rotten world.

I do believe there is good in all people - and quite frankly - there are people who post on this board that are worse then sankies. At least sankies are running their game to "survive". The evil that lives here is just for sport.

Thank you to the wonderful and supportive people who responded to my post positively and PM'd me.

Vee

p.s. just because I don't want to marry the guy and be friends does not make me "gay". It is unbelievable what people write here. Very disappointing to a newbie of this board.

Advice comes in many different forms and it's up to you to decipher the message ... there are no Joyce, Hemingway, Steinbeck, Shakespeare, .... here. Overwhelmingly you were advised to cut this creep off (I'm not being judgmental, just repeating what was posted earlier) yet you seem inclined to remain friends with him. Your last post contradicts your earlier post in which you inquired about exposing his "sankie" behaviour. Do you see my logic here?

As for being non-judgmental of strangers, your high-lited statements above sure sound like you've prejudged some people here (including me) ... is this "judgmental"?