I thought I was past all this....

danceaway · #1 12-22-2006, 03:08 PM

I read, and I read, and I think I get it, and than , here he is again...and I am starting to act crazy again....why doesnt he just leave me alone......I havent talked to him for months,when he calls I dont pick up the phone I havent sent money, gifts, etc, I try to scare him away with emails that may send the message to him. I dont call him, or talk to him on the phone because I just end up feeling bad and all the old feelings just start all over again, and I will do things that are so unlike me all over again....I messed up, Its Christmas, and he called and I answered, and my heart is breaking again....he begged me to come there and live with him, he said he will get an apartment for us, he has one picked out, its perfect, he said he has changed, he loves me, and now knows that he was wrong before....I do love him ( yes I am crazy ) and I want to run to him, but I live with someone, and he know its, and he said just leave him. He wants me to be happy and live my life with him there...part of me says yes, and part of me says no...my life has changed so much, I am not working right now, He knows I have no money, but doesnt care..he said he will take care of me, and just wants me there...for what ? I dont understand, and after all I have read, is it possible that he changed...I have nothing to give him, and he said it doesnt matter...I dont know what to think...I am too old for this, but I am afraid if I dont go and try I will be heartbroken for the rest of my life...I am not in love with the guy that I live with and I am in love with my DR man....is it possible that he loves me ? I cant pay for anything and he said he will even send me the money to come...I know I am going to catch heck for this, but I have talked everyones ears off here, cried, and carried on.....I need some advise form the ONES WHO KNOW...I have read both good and bad on this sight, and have heard thru PM's many good things...but what to do...even my kids say, go, try, be happy...if not come home...but dont miss the chance to be happy...I A SCARRED.....now, here goes, and I will just take it all in...good, bad, and everything in between...what is all this really about. I trust all of you...and I am at a loss...please help.....I said I will go for a week and we can talk this out face to face, but am I just being completly crazy.....I have property here and many things to take care of before I can make a move like this, but I am afraid not to take this chance, and I am so desperate for some advise that I will expose myself to the ridicule that I may hear...but my heart is breaking...and I am so confussed.....

AnnaC · #2 12-22-2006, 03:21 PM

in spirit of the season all I will say is go be with him it's the only way you will either be very happy or completely lose your what's left of your mind.

feliz navidad

bigbird · #3 12-22-2006, 03:22 PM

Pack your bags and catch the first flight out!

shadInToronto · #4 12-22-2006, 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by danceaway

....I do love him ( yes I am crazy ) and I want to run to him, but I live with someone, and he know its, and he said just leave him.

...and I am so confussed.....

I concur with both statements (hi-lited red) ... my advice is for you to seek prefessional help. Btw danceaway, how many times do I have to tell you to use paragraphs and blank lines.

M.A.R. · #5 12-22-2006, 03:35 PM

If you don't go you'll never know what could have been. But BUT BUT don't think about moving just yet, go for vacation spend time with him, you must get to know him, to know his ways, maybe you can get to know his intentions, how does he treat women and people around him, there's a lot you must learn first, before taking the big step of moving down there. I don't remember what the exact situation is with you and this guy, I would have to go back and read your previous threads, but why not go down there and enjoy yourself but always being cautious, you say you don't love the guy you are with. ......

AZB · #6 12-22-2006, 03:41 PM

I am all sadden by this drama. I suggest you run to your chopo on the next flight and live happily ever-after. Invite us to your chopo wedding please.
AZB

MommC · #7 12-22-2006, 04:04 PM

You have property......
That says it all!
You don't need a job....you have assets that he will manage to convince you to sell when you can't stand living the life of a poor Dominican.....
Merry Christmas.......there's no Happy New Year!

Kyle · #8 12-22-2006, 04:51 PM

the power of sex....it's mighty powerful..

miguel · #9 12-22-2006, 05:13 PM

Listen, I have not slept more than 4 hours in 2 days, therefore, I am in a VERY bad mood, so before I take a nap, I will be as nice as possible:

I think you are a lost case.

There's NOTHING we can tell you that will make you happy. You already made up your mind, so what do you want from us?.

You sound like a person who likes to suffer, who likes to be abused. I mean, how many times did we tell you NOT to answer the phone when he calls?. You sound like a weak person. What, there's no males from where you come from?.

Ok, let stop all this nonsense right now and answer me this:

Any reasons why you don't change your phone number?. Could it be because you WANT him to keep on calling you?.

Btw: if you are going to take some of these people's advices, make sure you leave the guy you live with before "pergarle los cuernos" (being unfaithful)!.

Ohh, and btw:

Death to AZB for being a butt licker, hahahahahaha!!.

jrf · #10 12-22-2006, 05:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kyle

the power of sex....it's mighty powerful..

I have to say you are really on the ball today