HELP ASAP!!! my dominican BF playing me?

[MeLlamanChinita]

so heres the deal.

i have a dominican BF and i love him to death and he loves me too. but we didnt know each other very long cuz live in the US and him in the DR. i had school so i had to return to the states. hes planning to come to the US. and he wants to visit me b4 i go study abroad in Spain. but he told me he wont have saved enough money by then so hes asking to borrow some money. like 100 dollars. i work so that not THAT much money but i know to some thats a fortune. i can easily give him the money, and it doesnt really matter if he doesnt pay me back. but the thing is i feel kinda used. but am i being used if he wants the money to come see me? and i know were not going to last (cmon, reality check) so is it even worth it?
and im asian (i know, dominican + asian?) with strict asian parents. he is dominican and you know los dominicanos....crazy, fun loving people.
as of now im gonna send him the money. maybe my judgement is messed up from all the good sex and his dominican charm (good dominican genes).
and also is it weird to see a dominican dating an asian? i dunno, i havent really seen it b4. maybe once in santo domingo.

[drluver]

Originally Posted by MeLlamanChinita

so heres the deal.

i have a dominican BF and i love him to death and he loves me too. but we didnt know each other very long cuz live in the US and him in the DR. i had school so i had to return to the states. hes planning to come to the US. and he wants to visit me b4 i go study abroad in Spain. but he told me he wont have saved enough money by then so hes asking to borrow some money. like 100 dollars. i work so that not THAT much money but i know to some thats a fortune. i can easily give him the money, and it doesnt really matter if he doesnt pay me back. but the thing is i feel kinda used. but am i being used if he wants the money to come see me? and i know were not going to last (cmon, reality check) so is it even worth it?
and im asian (i know, dominican + asian?) with strict asian parents. he is dominican and you know los dominicanos....crazy, fun loving people.
as of now im gonna send him the money. maybe my judgement is messed up from all the good sex and his dominican charm (good dominican genes).
and also is it weird to see a dominican dating an asian? i dunno, i havent really seen it b4. maybe once in santo domingo.

I think you are posting this for a reason. If you have any doubts, and it sounds like you do. Then you shouldn't send the money. It doesn't matter if you can afford it or not. It is your money and you shouldn't have to give it to someone because they make you feel guilty.

Also what do you think the odds are that he is actually only $100 short of coming. Not to mention the paperwork.

Good luck.

[suarezn]

So he already has a visa to come and see you, but he can't get 100 USD...what a joke!!! I think you answered your own question...but if the sex was that good then 100 USD is a small price to pay.

BTW, Dominicans love Asians (well...some of us do...).

[AnnaC]

He has no visa. He'll tell you he applied and didn't get it and good bye 100 bucks while he's out having fun with other girls.

If he could get a visa and he could afford to come for visit he wouldn't need your 100 bucks. Don't be a sucker.

say bye bye

[Ladybird]

Ask him how he GOT the visa if he doesnt even have $100 - not poss with all the rigourous financial checks before visas are issued

[Charlielyn]

This story doesn't even sound legit to me. Smells funny.

[AnnaC]

Originally Posted by Charlielyn

This story doesn't even sound legit to me. Smells funny.

another frickin thesis maybe?

[MeLlamanChinita]

Originally Posted by Charlielyn

This story doesn't even sound legit to me. Smells funny.

no trust me its very very true.
and yah he said he was "in the process of getting his visa" that was what made me speculate.
its really hard because these dominican men can be tricky. maybe im generalizing, but they have a stereotype to be these smooth talkers. and im really worried bout that.
we live so far and those dominican girls are so gorgeous. its hard not to worry. well thanks for the advice guys.
yall are blunt, but truthful and thats much appreciated.
i guess im just a sucker for love and happy endings.
wow im so lost...

[Lambada]

Originally Posted by MeLlamanChinita

wow im so lost...

Pish & tush, ma'am. Course you're not lost. They do have men in Spain last time I checked.............. Some of them don't even ask for money, I hear. You'll have a ball............or two.

[Audra]

whats's a hundred bucks going to buy him? Definetly not the plane ticket. Read the legal section here with the sub section visas. He doesn't have a snow balls chance in hell. Go to Spain and meet someone there. The dominican guy is a con artist.

By the way dominican and asians are not uncommon.