Do I lay it on the line?

[Lustful]

Well, Wendy you are right about one thing, I would feel bad for my husband if he found out -- I wouldn't stand for it either if the tables were turned so he will never find out. The bimbo part -- hmmm not called for.

Don't forget you are not talking to some 20 year old. You are talking to someone who has been a long relationship where the spark of sex has dwindled - unfortunately but that's life. And you know what, at times I really miss it. I have yet to act on it but at 52 I am thinking what the hell.

As for acting like a man in this situation -- love em and leave em -- that is so sterotype but think about it -- this guy is like 24. I am twice his age -- no future there -- end of discussion. Not to say that I would not be sensitive to his situation, economic dilemmas etc. -- Sensitive but not a fool.

Yes, thank you and m'frog for mentioning condoms. Haven't had a need for those in many years. NOT sure I really know what I'm doing but this burning desire just won't die.

[wendy_s]

Originally Posted by mountainfrog

Well, to me it seems that some pay up front and others pay later...

The funny thing is, both are married....

m'frog

Froggie, yes I am married. My husband is Dominican. What I'm saying is I would not cheat or anything like that. And please, don't make judgements or assumptions on my relationship...

[planner]

Lustful - it really is just another form of prostitution. If you see it for exactly what it is and he knows what it is - then what the heck. No one is mislead or thinking it is more then it is.

Don't get caught up in thinking though it has to be this one. There are many to choose from.

As for them being able to do it when you are older, not exactly beautiful etc. Sex is thought of differently here. It is definately more of a body function. You are female and willing - that is all that is needed in many cases.

Protection - do some research on the incidence of AIDS here and you won't be forgetting the condoms! DO NOT believe for one second that he is clean and that he has to be tested for work.

[2LeftFeet]

Do some research on herpes too-- sometimes you transmit before you can see the sores!!

You don't want to bring any surprizes home that you can't explain AWAY!!!!!

[Musicqueen]

And just like this...sankie season begins...

MQ

[2LeftFeet]

Lustful, I am not here to preach to you it's not my place. I have never been involved with a sankie but my understanding is -- they are very persuasive. You might fall a little harder than you would think you would. If you read the posts you will see all the sweet talking that they do--- you are so beautiful and whatever else he can drum up-- I'm sure things your husband hasn't said to you in YEARS. He will treat you like a "reina" -- like your husband hasn't in Years, you will have sex-- like you haven't in YEARS. and next thing you know........ you are attached.--- to him it's a game-- to you it's/he's filling an emotional void.

Now what..... you have a husband in .... and a 24 year old that can sweet talk you and make love to you and make you feel young again.

Great... well what happens when the phone calls go unreturned, or he can't meet you or he needs money because????? --the cell phone broke-- no tarjeta, school-- whatever......

Think twice maybe even three times before you embark on this "aventura"--from a far it sounds enticing and fun but once you are embroiled in it it might not be as appealing or worth it.

Just be careful!

[duhtree]

Head into whatever slum is in your neigborhood and find a likely canidate. Most illiterate, economiclly challanged people have fantastic survival skills.
Just pick your flavor. Stay at home and lower your cost per load, or act in your case, by a considerable amount.
And why show any respect for yourself, family, husband, community by looking for validation here. Eventually, the gift that keeps on giving will be yours forever. Suerta. Duh

[MommC]

If the spark of sexual fulfillment has died might I suggest a therapist instead of a sankie!!!?????
I've been married almost 37 years and both my husband and myself know how to stoke the flames even when they've been at a slow smolder for whatever reason.
Sometimes we both 'window shop' and check out the 'menu' at various 'eateries' but we both take our 'meals' at home!

[lexi]

Originally Posted by Lustful

Don't forget you are not talking to some 20 year old. You are talking to someone who has been a long relationship where the spark of sex has dwindled - unfortunately but that's life. And you know what, at times I really miss it. I have yet to act on it but at 52 I am thinking what the hell.

You're right...you should know better than to cheat on your husband right?? You want to be talked to like an adult? Then act like it!

I am sorry but I hate it when people cheat on their spouses. And like she says she would be mad as hell if her husband cheated. I think cheating in general is horrible but even more so when it is someone who is married.

I am all for a good time don't get me wrong but not at someone else's expense. Get off the computer and spend some quality time with your husband. He just may be feeling the same way as you...maybe you can both go to the DR together?.....

[paddy]

Keep in mind that these some of these "sankies" go both ways..pitching and catching...be careful... don't go paying for something you can get for free.. STD