Do I lay it on the line?

[Lustful]

Okay. Short summary -- basic line. Older woman visiting DR gets hit on by much younger Dominican man. Same kind of lines used as reported on this forum. So here is the bottom line. I was sexually turned on by this guy. That's it. He did not speak much English and I little Spanish. I am married and was travelling with friends and except for some kissing that was it.

However, I haven't felt such sexual arousal in a long time. I could have easily crossed the line. We exhanged emails and correspond when we can. Yes he loves me and wants to see me again --- same lines again. However, he seems like a nice guy and I am not naive. I get the picture.

I will be returning to the DR to volunteer on a local project working with kids. He does not know I am coming.

So do I listen to the rationale side of me -- this guy only wants money and will eventually ask for it (by the way I don't blame him -- I am aware of the poverty in the area) I should not take advantage of him.

Or do link up with him for my sexual pleasure -- I certainly can't see him getting much out of it? I know if we see each other, this is exactly what I will be looking for. Do I ask up front how much money does he want? If I do give in to my carnal desires, I think I should know what I am getting into and what I should expect.

Any comments. (By the way I am in no way looking for any kind of relationship as I am sure this young man is not interested in this from me.) But boy it sounds like fun. Another question to any male respondents. I am okay looking, of course nice, fun and I'll talk to anyone, but seriously, how do youger guys even get it up when picking up older, average looking women. I can see us getting into the guys but really!!!

Lustful

[mountainfrog]

Originally Posted by Lustful

...how do youger guys even get it up when picking up older, average looking women.

Should not be your problem, should it?
Give freely to the guy.
Sometimes their work is not easy...

m'frog

[Lustful]

No kidding. I am sure their work is not easy. But should I be up front, make some kind of formal arrangement so we don't have to play games -- this sounds a bit like prostitution doesn't it? Well call a spade a spade.

[mountainfrog]

Originally Posted by Lustful

...But should I be up front, make some kind of formal arrangement ...

Need not be done at a lawyer's.
A verbal agreement is fine.
But don't pay the merryman until you get to ....

Originally Posted by Lustful

.... this sounds a bit like prostitution doesn't it?

So what?
It's an old business, isn't it?
Have fun and beware of SIDA (second highest rate in the Caribbean after Haiti).

m'frog

[wendy_s]

Ay Dios! Lustful, your husband not doing you right?! LOL. Honestly, I don't mean to make judgements but I feel bad for your husband...who wants a bimbo of a wife running around thinking about having sex with a poor Dominican sankie...and paying him for it?

And seriously, stop playin' it like your a man. A man can stick by his words when he says "I'm gonna sleep with this woman...have great sex with her and tomorrow I can walk away...no strings attached." Buuuuut, as for a woman, you know there is ALWAYS emotions involved and it's NEVER just about sex. You already seem like you're caught up in this lala dreamland. Hey, maybe you're different but it looks to me like this is a disaster waiting to happen.

Ah well, to each their own. Good luck to you....and don't forget the condoms!

[jrf]

well, seems you are already on your way to cheating on your husband - just kinda surprised you would share it here.
Given that - do as you wish and maybe make sure your 'volunteer' project doesn't find out. Not sure how that will be seen.

[mountainfrog]

Originally Posted by wendy_s

.... running around thinking about having sex with a poor Dominican sankie...and paying him for it?

Originally Posted by wendy_s

... My husband and I are also in the process of getting him to Canada and...

Well, to me it seems that some pay up front and others pay later...

[mountainfrog]

Originally Posted by wendy_s

.... running around thinking about having sex with a poor Dominican sankie...and paying him for it?

Originally Posted by wendy_s

... My husband and I are also in the process of getting him to Canada and...

Well, to me it seems that some pay up front and others pay later...

The funny thing is, both are married....

m'frog

[AnnaC]

Ok other than the moral issue here this is what sankies are for. Use them, have fun, pay for services rendered and leave them where the heck you found them

Don't worry, you will not break his heart for using him, if he's a sankie he has used others no doubt.

Oh boy

[mountainfrog]

Originally Posted by AnnaC

Use them, have fun, pay for services rendered and leave them where the heck you found them

May I object?
Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeze take them with you.
Would that not make a better world ...aeh DR?

m'frog