I feel sad - Page 2

dr_qt · #11 06-08-2007, 12:12 AM

I have told him that it is not normal for a man to ask a woman for money, but he asked twice after this. I may have spoken about my income too casually to him. I think when he saw how much I spent on my vacation he may have thought "she's rich", but I tried to explain about credit cards to him and that I am working hard to pay for what I have. He has family that make more money than I do, but he still asked me for money instead of them. That is why I am so upset. Next time we speak I will tell him it is vey rude to ask for money.

LaRubia03 · #12 06-08-2007, 12:24 AM

VENT away GIRL!

Down there this is a very popular issue....i wont lie i've been vicitim of a "SANKIE" haha however...money was never involved infact id much rather be with some1 who is genuine and honest who may need some extra cash for help rather than what i got involved with...It's very hard to trust people in this world no matter where they are from...I agree a man should not ask a woman for money...although this is a common case its hard for us to distinguish between someone scamming you or someone that really needs the help...and if you love someone money shouldn't be an issue (within reason). The best bet if you really care about this person is to follow your heart and keep in mind he's made it this far without you and your money

, sure sometimes our hearts lead us to the wrong place but we never know unless we try...i have many friends from there who have Foreign Girlfriends who do help them financially but only incases of emergencies and i've seen both sides "sankies" as well as loyal...It takes a series of different events to reveal someones true colors...its 50/50...Its funny how mostly the men are talked about being "sankies" unfaithful scammers...I recently was down there and met a nice girl who i became good friends with since i've been home she's called me several times asking for money...we're friends but the way i see it she was doing fine well their perspective of "fine" without me...why all of a sudden is she in need of a handout???...it amazes me, because we aren't from there we are immediately classified as RICH...little does this friend of mine know haha...

AZB · #13 06-08-2007, 12:33 AM

You women just love the soap opera don't you? I wonder if any of you women have done anything productive in your whole life instead of just sitting around and inventing new real life soap operas. Some of you women must be blind in order not to see through some people. Do all of you folks live in indiana or some small corn field towns where you folks have no touch with anyone? How is it that you women don't see whats coming at you?
Don't bother calling him or explaining him anything. He meets women every week. Why do you women think that it was an accident that you met someone on vacation in a resort? They don't give a rat's ass about you or any other fatty that comes their way. Just forget about him and move on to your life. Lose weight and try to look attractive. I am sure you will find a good guy where you live. Good luck.
AZB

Chip00 · #14 06-08-2007, 12:35 AM

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Originally Posted by dr_qt

I have told him that it is not normal for a man to ask a woman for money, but he asked twice after this. I may have spoken about my income too casually to him. I think when he saw how much I spent on my vacation he may have thought "she's rich", but I tried to explain about credit cards to him and that I am working hard to pay for what I have. He has family that make more money than I do, but he still asked me for money instead of them. That is why I am so upset. Next time we speak I will tell him it is vey rude to ask for money.

Please read the DR1 threads about situation like this becasue we have discussed it a lot.

In a nutshell, most average Dominicans cannot nor will never be convinced that anyone from the US in NOT rich. They just can't do it God bless them.

It is part of the fabric of the society and many think money comes so easy to Americans and foreigners in general. If they only knew right?

My advice is to stay away from this guy. First you got a good head on your shoulders even though you fell for this guy - it can happen to the best of us. Two, your are I understand a young attractive professional so you will have plenty of time to meet the "right" one.

My only advice is if you are intent on trying to find a Domincan, visit the interior of the country and don't hang out in the tourist areas. Santiago or Santo Domingo would be better. That way you could meet someone more or less along the same social status and you have less chance of being a target.

Suerte

jruane44 · #15 06-08-2007, 12:44 AM

[ Next time we speak I will tell him it is vey rude to ask for money.[/quote]

Why would you ever talk to this guy again. Change your number so he can't call you. Move on.

dr_qt · #16 06-08-2007, 12:45 AM

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Originally Posted by AZB

You women just love the soap opera don't you? I wonder if any of you women have done anything productive in your whole life instead of just sitting around and inventing new real life soap operas. Some of you women must be blind in order not to see through some people. Do all of you folks live in indiana or some small corn field towns where you folks have no touch with anyone? How is it that you women don't see whats coming at you?
Don't bother calling him or explaining him anything. He meets women every week. Why do you women think that it was an accident that you met someone on vacation in a resort? They don't give a rat's ass about you or any other fatty that comes their way. Just forget about him and move on to your life. Lose weight and try to look attractive. I am sure you will find a good guy where you live. Good luck.
AZB

These types of comments are exactly why I was a lurker for soooooooooo long. I am not, and have never been a "fatty", but even if I were, you AZB are very rude. Actually ruder than the poor Dominicans I met.

fender · #17 06-08-2007, 12:50 AM

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Originally Posted by dr_qt

Actually ruder than the poor Dominicans I met.

buuuuuuuuurrrrrrnnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hahahahahahaha
you hit the waki paki right where it'll hurt. (he'll deny it but congrats!!)

BushBaby · #18 06-08-2007, 01:09 AM

Hey you girls ............ what's up with equal rights for women tonight??

I am a liberated man (check with 'She who must be Obeyed!) that supports women having the vote, that enjoys holding a door open for a woman, that insists on opening a car door when putting a woman in (or getting her out) a car!! In the same way I am a 'Gentleman' that supports women lifting the same heavy loads as men, hat agrees a woman should be able to reach the high shelves (whilst I hold the ladder) to get the files in boxes down. Why should I not therefor be one that also supports the right of women to be asked to pay for meals, good times etc!!

Fair deal for women AND men please!! ~

Grahame,

gre:

miguel · #19 06-08-2007, 01:10 AM

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Originally Posted by dr_qt

So I have been lurking here for a few months, but afraid to post. I met a nice man while on vacation in the DR and kept in touch with him. A few months ago I went to visit him. We had a great time I thought, but he has asked me for money a few times and after reading this forum, I no longer feel bad for him, just sad that someone would try to use another person and be dishonest. I indeed did see how he lives and its not a life I would be able to handle (no hot water, small homes, not enough food sometimes), but.... no matter what I believe a decent man would not ask a woman for money. I am young, attractive and of Mexican decent, but I think he may have liked me, but also liked the money he thought he may get more. I have not yet told him how I feel, or about this site, but I think it may be time to call it quits. I don't wnt to hear any cruel remarks from some of the rude people here, I just needed to vent.

I have said the same thing here, over the years, about 10,000 times and still some people do not get it.

Maybe if a woman says it, perhaps they will listen.

So here it goes......

Brad Pitt: "Give me or send me some money"
Miguela: "GO F*** YOURSELF!!".

Albert Einstein: "Give me or send me some money"
Miguela; "GO F*** YOURSELF!!".

A barrio Tigre: "Give me or send me some money"
Miguela: " GO F*** YOURSELF!!.

A Resort worker: "Give me or send me some money"
Miguela: "GO F*** YOURSELF!!".

A College Professor: "Give me or send me some money"
Miguela: "GO F*** YOURSELF!!".

A Sankie: "Guve me or send me some money"
Miguela: "GO F*** YOURSELF!!.

Bottom line:

A man, ANY MAN, whether he is educated, poor, ugly, handsome, famous, OR WHATEVER:

DOESN'T ASK A WOMAN FOR MONEY!!!!!. NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEVER, EEEEEEEEEEEEVER!!. NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!!!!!.

If a man, ANY MAN, asks a woman for money, SHE SHOULD RUN AS FAST AS SHE CAN.

But if you give it to him, don't complain when your life is miserable, when he takes you for granted and when he dumps your axx when you stop sending/giving him more!!.