Is My Man For Real?

[BJP]

miguel-I know it sounds unreal. Maybe he would have suggested sex if I hadn't. I honestly was not looking for it, but it happened. I had not been intimate with someone for three years and had gone through a very nasty divorce. That is where my "not wanting to rush into things " things meaning marriage comes into play. anyway the impression I get so far from all the replies is that if I love this guy and truly believe he loves me then I am just fooling myself

[pyratt]

Nah, no way, bad math....27 don't go into five seven, one eighty, fifty.... unless there are other common denominators involved.....

I smell a dirty sock......puppet

Adios mundo cruel.......

[samanasuenos]

Hey hon, before you get all teary-eyed and blue -STOP!

I/we am not saying that he does not feel love for you.

However, "love" can and does mean wildly different things. Even among folks in one country, from the same culture.

His "love" for you is likely a different combination of thoughts and feelings than yours is, that is all.

[caro]

Originally Posted by BJP

Like I said I was the one that initiated sex in the first place .

that only tell him that he maybe can get thing easy with you. why not give a try.less work for him ....

Originally Posted by BJP

You say this is a reality in the DR, but not for all dominicans, Is it possible he is one of them..

no , clearly not . I will say in other word is a reality in tourist town again not all dominican but with what you write the answer is still no

Originally Posted by BJP

Now I feel like I should call him right now and end it all. I just can't bring myself to do it though.

if for you is not any more holiday with sun ,sex and beach it s the better thing to do.

but if you only want to keep it like is it : have a man here with who you can enjoy your time , have sex and it s not too difficult to send him money or pay everything for him while on vacation don t change anything .but keep in mind that thing will never change .

[Don Juan]

In a perfect world, You and and him would be the same age, race, height, income, etc. But it never is. It is always different/contrasting.
That's what makes it interesting,,,,,, sometimes.
Concentrate on what's important to you. If it pleases you and you get what you pay for, why not? Use him for what he's worth, time and again!

[BJP]

whirleybird- As I said I posted here because someone on one of my flights told me about sanky panky. so I decided to look it up on the internet. I found this websight and started to read some of the postings and all the negative ones got me thinking about my relationship, like sending money, and about resort workers, etc. Listen, I am in love with this man and I asked him about sanky panky and he said I no sanky panky and that my fellow plane passenger was crazy. I don't know what to believe now. A lot of the responses to my post are not positive ones. I am looking for a man that is true to only me and that I can have a longterm serious relationship with. It seems as if I have been quite naive about all of this.

[BJP]

don juan- I do not want to use this man for all he is worth. He means more to me then that.

[2LeftFeet]

Well, you can always see what happens with --- God, I'm a little short on cash this month. I can't send as much as I usually do. I'm sorry. When you visit the next time "forget" your wallet in the hotel and tell him halfway to the restaurant that he has to pay... see how he reacts. If he's not hungry anymore......

Many times when the cash stops coming so do they!!! Sad but true. If he is a sankie-- You are just a business deal/transaction.

If you can just keep him around as a "Boy Toy" then go for it.

If not try what I suggested. If you don't like his reaction. It's time for him to go.

Did you read the sankie information posted on this site?

[whirleybird]

Originally Posted by BJP

whirleybird- As I said I posted here because someone on one of my flights told me about sanky panky. so I decided to look it up on the internet. I found this websight and started to read some of the postings and all the negative ones got me thinking about my relationship, like sending money, and about resort workers, etc. Listen, I am in love with this man and I asked him about sanky panky and he said I no sanky panky and that my fellow plane passenger was crazy. I don't know what to believe now. A lot of the responses to my post are not positive ones. I am looking for a man that is true to only me and that I can have a longterm serious relationship with. It seems as if I have been quite naive about all of this.

more than naive about sanky panky I think - probably naive about men in general I am sorry to say..... but yours may be different - I hope so for your sake.

[M.A.R.]

As I said I posted here because someone on one of my flights told me about sanky panky.

The Movie??? Did you know there is a movie out, exactly about these Dominican romances between tourists and Hotel Resort workers????
Look it up.

There is a chance, MQ married a man 20+ years younger than her, why not BJP and her man.