My story...Hope this can help!

[Musicqueen]

dmc1...exactly as stated above...just ignore some of these comments...SOME people that post here and do nothing constructive but just critizice...have been SANKIETTEFIED themselves...they are still bitter about it...and don't have a life...so they LOVE to come here and shred everyone else to pieces...

Good luck in the future...

[shadInToronto]

Originally Posted by dmc1

seriously can care less whether you believe the story was true or not...not meant for you and as mentioned in my OP i knew i would be ridiculed for it to begin with.

Then why the drama? You claim to be intelligent, good looking, ..... etc., yet you do something absolutely 'stuipd'. Take a moment to mull this over, if you know better and can do better, why take the risk of lowering your standards. The people you think are lambasting you are disappointed that you've chosen to associate with a 'low life sankie' when they know you can and should do better.

Had you post was about a relationship with a successful Dominicano, those same people would be posting positive comments. You screw up and expect a reward? That's not real life .... when you screw up, you get a 'swift kick' in your gluteus maximus, but don't expect anything if you do good 'cause IT's EXPECTED.

[Musicqueen]

Shad...let me ask you something...WHY is it that it bothers some people so much if she

chose to associate with a 'low life sankie'

And who are they when you say:

when they know you can and should do better

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Did I mis-read something? Did she ask for our permission? Did she ask for our advice on whether she should have associated herself with him? Did she ask whether we tought she could do better???

Why do some people insist on giving people that admit they made a mistake a 'swift kick'???

She recognizes she made a mistake...and she says she posted to save another person from doing the same...Let's leave it at that...

Is not like she came here asking...does anyone know so-and-so??? Now THOSE people annoy the hell out of me!!!!

[AnnaC]

Originally Posted by Musicqueen

Is not like she came here asking...does anyone know so-and-so??? Now THOSE people annoy the hell out of me!!!!

some of our beloved members seem to be on auto pilot, no matter what the subject is the answers are always the same.

[Berzin]

Originally Posted by Musicqueen

Shad...let me ask you something...WHY is it that it bothers some people so much if she

And who are they when you say: .

Did I mis-read something? Did she ask for our permission? Did she ask for our advice on whether she should have associated herself with him? Did she ask whether we tought she could do better???

Why do some people insist on giving people that admit they made a mistake a 'swift kick'???

She recognizes she made a mistake...and she says she posted to save another person from doing the same...Let's leave it at that...

Is not like she came here asking...does anyone know so-and-so??? Now THOSE people annoy the hell out of me!!!!

Musicqueen,

if I'm not mistaken you are married to a dominican and this has taken place recently, within the last few years or so.
I am happy for you and truly sincerely hope it works for you. But some people don't understand the consequences of dumbing yourself down because you think you are in love.

There are people that do stupid things in the DR that they would never do at home because they buy into the eroticism of being on vacation with a dominican lover. Nothing wrong with that. But when you take it to the next level alarm bells go off for many people who have seen this before and have lived it before and know that it will end badly.

We would be doing this person a disservice if we did not to tell her that the odds are against her on a good day. What sort of person would sit around and applaud this nonsense and say "Yeah, you go girl!!" This is an enabler.

When you've lived with your husband for a solid 4-5 years and things are still going strong you will have realized how truly lucky you are. Love is a beautiful thing, and it should exist in good times and bad.

But I cannot condone this nonsense with a hotel worker who also happens to be divorced. Has someone scraped the bottom of the barrel and come up with this guy, or was he laying beneath the barrel waiting for someone exhume him?

Are there no more good men out there that she has to resort to THIS?

[shadInToronto]

Originally Posted by Musicqueen

Shad...let me ask you something...WHY is it that it bothers some people so much if she

And who are they when you say: .

Did I mis-read something? Did she ask for our permission? Did she ask for our advice on whether she should have associated herself with him? Did she ask whether we tought she could do better???

Why do some people insist on giving people that admit they made a mistake a 'swift kick'???

She recognizes she made a mistake...and she says she posted to save another person from doing the same...Let's leave it at that...

My Dear Lady,

This is a public message board where people are free to express their opinions, and if deemed offensive, vulgar, or derogatory would be deleted. I detect indignation in your reply, but I'm also free to express my opinion and 'no need to pick a fight'.

I understand your inclination to defend the OP, but I should remind you she understood the consequences of posting her story, she said, "i knew i would be ridiculed for it to begin with". She can simply ignore posts that she thinks are negative. No need to continually whine!!!! She did a stupid thing and people will remind her of that, that's how it is!!!!

Recollect if you may, when you announced your nuptials to Tony, "THEY" posted congratulatory messages and best wishes for a happy and successful marriage. Many of those "THEY" were at some point perceived to be your nemesis. So, not every time 'a swift kick' up the derriere is administered. I know memory fades faster as we get older, but the search function is always available.

Many here just call it as they see it. Why do we have to be PC all the freaking time? Take the bad with the good and stop whining!!! It's not a freaking 'whine' and cheese party.

Regards,
Shad.

[AnnaC]

Ok that's enough.

Unfortunally these " I hope this helps someone else" never does because others reading say this can't be about "my guy"

Sad but true.

Done, closed