Comparison Please

[2LeftFeet]

I think we do it because we are amazed that another human being could do this and we want to tell another woman about it to warn her so it doesn't happen to her.

Women do these things. We are different than men. Men don't care. If a man gets ripped off by a whore he might tell his buddys but that's about it. He moves on. He'll go on to the next whore and be more careful.

Women will put up websites, tell all the women she knows. If she could, she would organize a protest outside the resort will all his other victims.

We are outraged that someone could do this to us!

We are different. This is why we lament and have 5,000 posts and you guys say.....

F*uck the broad there will be another one... and you move on.

[aimelove]

Originally Posted by 2LeftFeet

I think we do it because we are amazed that another human being could do this and we want to tell another woman about it to warn her so it doesn't happen to her.

Women do these things. We are different than men. Men don't care. If a man gets ripped off by a whore he might tell his buddys but that's about it. He moves on. He'll go on to the next whore and be more careful.

Women will put up websites, tell all the women she knows. If she could, she would organize a protest outside the resort will all his other victims.

We are outraged that someone could do this to us!

We are different. This is why we lament and have 5,000 posts and you guys say.....

F*uck the broad there will be another one... and you move on.

This post was very helpful, made me think, and I agree. I sincerely was confused about the popularity about this thread and general topic. A moment of clarity on a sleepy Saturday morning. Thank you for your honesty. I'm kind of embarassed to be a married man almost 40 years old and still don't fully understand women. You're right. My male friends and myself have had many hilarious discussions in bars about our DR war stories. (we have told the story a thousand times about the girl in Boca Chica who pulled a screwdriver on my friend because he refused to pay her). Dealing with those "wanna be" con artists was funny to me. I guess it is different being over there as a woman. Venus and Mars.

[AnnaC]

aimelove, this Sankie Forum was created as a result of having these stories all over the board for years. It was also created to provide info on what to watch out for but unfortunately many find this website after they are hooked.

The difference between men and women is that men are approached as "pay for play" and women even the young and pretty ones are approached with " we'll live happily ever after and have babies together"


If it was only about sex tourism where the women go to find sex and pay for it and go home we could care less and wouldn't even be talking about it. But these women are conned into believing they are loved and adored when these sankies are doing this to every bus load of women that arrives each and every week.

The really sad part is that no matter how many women post about their experience no one is listening because that can't be about "my guy", my guy is different.

Men are victims of fake love as well but we know men don't write about these things. They like to write about all the good girls they have conquered for a meal or two and how they know where and how to get girls that are not in the puta business and all the other men say what a stud he is and pat him on the back for learning the ways of screwing the so called good girls without paying up front for it.

Ok enough out of me.

2leftfeet..good post

[planner]

Sankies choose victims based on a number of critieria. Sometimes they place bets with co workers on who can get the "pretty young gringa" and sometimes they take what is available.

It is usually about "neediness" or "vulnerability" and that has no age / size / colour barriers!

And just a note to the poster who said - she fits in - with Dominicans. Don't fool yourself they know you are a gringa regardless of your colour! You are a gringa if you are NOT from here.

To the OP there is no comparison to North America. IF there was it might look like this - you go into McDonalds and the nice young buff guy behind the counter looks you up and down as you approach. He gives you a 100 watt smile and asks if he can help you. You order and he offers to "supersize it for you - at no cost of course. He is in tight with the manager and he can do this.... AS you pay him his hand brushes yours..... He looks at you and says - wow, I"ve never felt this way before. When you get your meal, he takes a break and joins you at the table....... Before you leave he has professed his undying love for you............... etc.

[aimelove]

Ok. I'm confused again. Another person is trying to generalize and classify all male hotel workers like animals in the wild. I am a guy. EVERY GUY HAS A DIFFERENT APPROACH WHEN THEY ARE INTERESTED (real or fake) in a woman. Dominicans are no different. You can't be succesful with women by staying within some stereotypical role that every one in your profession plays. The other person has to believe that you are being yourself.

As far as the guys betting on who they can conquer. I used to look forward to parent night at my school because of meeting all of the hot single mothers in the school community. A few other male teachers felt the same way. If you bet with another guy that you are going to "pull" a woman, it never works. Its bad luck and real childish. Real ladies men move in silence.

Everybody is different.
I try to use humor and wit, one of my friends stays impeccably dressed and
in shape (a pretty boy), another one asks weird off the wall questions to test a woman's sense of humor. Saying that all of those guys act alike is inaccurate. Everybody has their own game.

[AnnaC]

You are confusing decent Dominicans and other humans with sankies that's the problem.

Read some more you'll get it sooner or later. BTW sankies are not just in resorts.

A sankie is a scammer, con artist, gigolo and no decent Dominican can be described as a sankie.

It's not about getting the girls, it's about conning the girls. I'm sure no matter what your approach was it was never to scam anyone was it?

[Janin]

Originally Posted by dr_qt

...What are the comparisons one could make with North America to make us understand how a resort worker is so different from the average Dominican?...

I don't get it, why would one be interested in that?
Each individual is different, this goes for the DDD's, too.

So what's the use of comparing?
Isn't it a bit like finding the differences between - let's say- a redneck and a NYer?

Janin

[planner]

Aimelove - they are only interested in the scam. You are not talking about guys interested in a woman - they are looking for victims. They do have slight variations but believe me the theme remains the same. AnnaC is right, read lots more........ You will quickly see what we are referring to.

And sankies aren't just hotel workers - and not all hotel workers. They can also be taxi drivers, sales people on the beach, waiters in the clubs etc etc. It is anyone with access to tourists! And they have ulterior motives and will say and do what is necessary to get what they want.

[dr_qt]

Originally Posted by Janin

I don't get it, why would one be interested in that?
Each individual is different, this goes for the DDD's, too.

So what's the use of comparing?
Isn't it a bit like finding the differences between - let's say- a redneck and a NYer?

Janin

The reason I asked was because I have read many posts on DR1 where resort wokers, (not specifically) sankies, are refered to as "the lowest of the low" in DR society. Some of these posters have also written that a decent Dominican would never date a resort worker. Thus the reason for my question on making a comparison.

Thanks Planner for your post. I loved the McDonalds analogy..lol

[DRob]

I think we all need another shot of honesty here (Berzin and Anna's points seem to have worn off)

qt, I don't mean to be disrespectful, but your posts seem to suggest you're just another of the legions of post-How Stella Got Her Groove Back women who have come to a third world country looking for "fun" and got caught up.

I know every woman wants to think her sankie is somehow different from the rest of the con artists. It's kind of like how back in the states, the girl picks the "bad boy" or athlete or entertainer under the pretense that you're not a groupie, he looks at you differently than all the other women, and besides, "you just don't know him like I do."

Sure, we know him. The sankie, just like the bad boy, is the worst possible thing for you. He'll cheat you, con you, hurt you, and leave you by the side of the road as an emotional basket case. Your friends and family told you that. So did his friends. And deep down inside, you knew it, too.

But you looked the other way, because he made you feel alive. He danced with you, took you places you had never been, fawned all over you, and made you feel special. Never mind the fact that the overwhelming majority of women you see running around with these guys are older, heavier, pale as a goth rockstar, and have nothing (other than your libido) in common with him, this could be something special.

And if you feel special, then he must be special, right? And if he is special to, then you start wondering whether this fantasy could be coming true....

Then you get home, expecting to continue to feel that way, and suddenly you notice that the phone, when it rings, only has that guy who wants to eat at Chili's, if he calls at all. The tan tight twenty year old body has been replaced with some bald fat guy who is as pale and bloated as you are.

And hey, where did all the surf, sand, and rum go?

Then he calls. And that, my dear, is what brought you here.

Be upset that he's like most other caribbean resort workers. Be dismayed that he didn't see you for the incredibly special person you think you are.

But whatever you do, don't be surprised.