Sankies and beyond ...

[Can2Dom]

i think that some guys get more attached than some women. for example, my friend met this guy on our vacation and they didnt hook-up. they were friends, and kissed a couple times. this guy fell completely head over heels for my friend, like obssessed. he must realize that there is no chance or reality to their situation. she comes from a traditional family and is expected to marry from within the community (shes jewish) and a guy who lives in the DR has even less than a chance. YET, he continuously calls her (at least 3-4x/day in addition to the text messages) and cant let go. she may answer 1 call every couple days b/c she feels bad. she has in no way led him on but he cant seem to let go. Its funny how attached guys get but its also sad that he cant see the reality of the situation.

[Janin]

Originally Posted by Can2Dom

... Its funny how attached guys get but its also sad that he cant see the reality of the situation.

Applies vice versa:
It's funny how attached gringas get but it's also sad that they can't see the reality of the situation.

Janin

[miguel]

I am sure I WILL hate myself, intil 2010, for replying to you and this post. Here it goes.

Yes, SOME men get attached when women make it easy for them.


Yeah, please tell me something I haven't heard before as I know it's ALWAYS THE MAN'S FAULT!!.

Like I say "YES, MOST men are DOGS but MOST females CAN'T live without us"!!.



At times, WE CAN'T HAVE IT BOTH WAYS!!.

[shadInToronto]

Persistence ... another of their traits. Like a good salesman, it doesn't hurt to make a sales call. What's the worst than can happen? ... no PO, but like all good salesmen (or good sankies), they're hopeful, and you know 'hope springs eternal .... '.

But, it's all well documented here, you can find it all in the 'archives', if you use the search function ... enjoy your reading.

[AnnaC]

Originally Posted by sollie

All the discussion surrounding the recent "women falling for sankies" trifecta got me thinking. Mainly about the emotional substance of the womens' responses in defense of " my man" and the suggested comparisons/double standards of men who pursue dominican women.

Made me wonder, " What is the comparision"? Or more specifically, " what are the differences"?

I believe there are men who " fall for it " emotionally as well, but I doubt they would start a thread here titled, " She says I'm the babydaddy, what should I do

The dynamics ... are they different?

Insight appreciated.

Sollie

This is the topic

[sollie]

Engineers motto.

Since I'm not an engineer I'll answer to what I have learned here. And this coming from a happy and dedicated boy dog.

A man going on vacation to the DR generally knows the score. For him,the reality is, for a relatively cheap investment, one can sample any number of willing partners. The price of interaction is known up front. The relationship is understood. The foolish and needy invest in emotional fufillment. The cost of emotional fufillment ( monetarily and emotionally ) increases expotentially with every phone call, every wire transfer, every visit to the family, every email. But the price of interaction is known up front.

A woman going on vacation to the DR may know the score. For her, the reality is, suddenly, I am adored! By a wonderous specimen of a man no less. The price of interaction is unknown up front. The relationship is not understood ... only the feeling of, finally, being adored. The cost of emotional fufillment ( monetarily and emotionally ) increases expotentially with every phone call, every wire transfer, every visit to the family, every email. But the price of interaction is unknown up front.

We all love feeling adored but the "rules" for men are much more clear cut. Easier to understand?

As for this thread and a couple others, my respect to the women for being much more thoughtful ( albeit tangential ) and willing to bend to an onslaught
of bravado.



Sollie

[Berzin]

Originally Posted by sollie

Engineers motto.

Since I'm not an engineer I'll answer to what I have learned here. And this coming from a happy and dedicated boy dog.

A man going on vacation to the DR generally knows the score. For him,the reality is, for a relatively cheap investment, one can sample any number of willing partners. The price of interaction is known up front. The relationship is understood. The foolish and needy invest in emotional fufillment. The cost of emotional fufillment ( monetarily and emotionally ) increases expotentially with every phone call, every wire transfer, every visit to the family, every email. But the price of interaction is known up front.

A woman going on vacation to the DR may know the score. For her, the reality is, suddenly, I am adored! By a wonderous specimen of a man no less. The price of interaction is unknown up front. The relationship is not understood ... only the feeling of, finally, being adored. The cost of emotional fufillment ( monetarily and emotionally ) increases expotentially with every phone call, every wire transfer, every visit to the family, every email. But the price of interaction is unknown up front.

We all love feeling adored but the "rules" for men are much more clear cut. Easier to understand?

As for this thread and a couple others, my respect to the women for being much more thoughtful ( albeit tangential ) and willing to bend to an onslaught
of bravado.



Sollie

Beautiful. This should be a sticky alongside Hillbillys' golden rules.

[Alyonka]

Originally Posted by sollie

A woman going on vacation to the DR may know the score. For her, the reality is, suddenly, I am adored! By a wonderous specimen of a man no less. The price of interaction is unknown up front. The relationship is not understood ... only the feeling of, finally, being adored. The cost of emotional fufillment ( monetarily and emotionally ) increases expotentially with every phone call, every wire transfer, every visit to the family, every email. But the price of interaction is unknown up front.

We all love feeling adored but the "rules" for men are much more clear cut. Easier to understand?

As for this thread and a couple others, my respect to the women for being much more thoughtful ( albeit tangential ) and willing to bend to an onslaught
of bravado.


Sollie

I don't agree with the "being adored" part. Most women who are independent enough to travel to a different country on their own are not that stupid or shallow. I personally don't care for any kind fake attention or admiration and never did even as a teenager. There are different reasons why we end up in a relationships abroad - bad experiences with men where we live, wanting to get out of our own culture and try something new, curiosity, just being nice to a guy who is that nice to us, etc. This is just from personal experience.

[sollie]

Berzin,

Thank you kindly amigo.

Alyonka,

Fair enough. My comment was a generalization not meant to pin down all possibilities. Substitute whatever word you wish for "adored" ... appreciated, desired, understood, fufilled, satisfied, courted, etc. Although I don't think enjoying adoration is a sign of shallowness nor stupidity.

Sollie

[Alyonka]

Originally Posted by sollie

Berzin,

Thank you kindly amigo.

Alyonka,

Fair enough. My comment was a generalization not meant to pin down all possibilities. Substitute whatever word you wish for "adored" ... appreciated, desired, understood, fufilled, satisfied, courted, etc. Although I don't think enjoying adoration is a sign of shallowness nor stupidity.

Sollie

I agree, but when this admiration, attention, affection and understanding, etc. are all just pure acting - it is can be quite irritating