Sankies and beyond ...

[sollie]

All the discussion surrounding the recent "women falling for sankies" trifecta got me thinking. Mainly about the emotional substance of the womens' responses in defense of " my man" and the suggested comparisons/double standards of men who pursue dominican women. Made me wonder, " What is the comparision"? Or more specifically, " what are the differences"?

I believe there are men who " fall for it " emotionally as well, but I doubt they would start a thread here titled, " She says I'm the babydaddy, what should I do "? Sun and buns made inroads though.

The dynamics ... are they different?

Insight appreciated.

Sollie

[AnnaC]

Not sure that I understand your question but I will give it a shot.

First of all men and women are very different, no surprise there.

The men that go to the DR looking for fun pay to play and they don't have a need to talk about it on a message board. Well at least we have rules about not discussing the where, when and how much questions.

The info posted on stickies was meant for both men and women but again men don't have this need to tell the world about it.

When men do find someone worth having a relationship with they really don't care what others think especially on a message board so again have no need to ask if this new love is or isn't a sankiette.

On the other hand women seem to have this obsession to prove to a bunch of strangers that their new found love isn't a sankie or a scam artist. Perhaps they are trying to convince themselves after reading the info and a bell goes off and then they post.

As mean and obnoxious as some may sound in trying to open women's eyes I think it's because men really don't want the weaker sex being used and abused by these potential scam artist.


If the info provided doesn't apply to your new found love, friend, lover or whatever why post and have this obsession to prove that yours isn't a sankie/sankiette?

[honeybunch]

(I think it's because men really don't want the weaker sex being used and abused by these potential scam artist.?

I disagree with that Anna. Some men may be trying to help because they dont want "the weaker sex" to get hurt, but i think alot of them could also be a bit jelous that they dont have beautiful women falling in love with them right left and center......but who i am i to really know anyways.

i will say there is definetly a double standard when it comes to men and women. and yes i also agree that men dont give a crap and so they dont post,, they take the risk where a women is more cautious of her heart getting broken.

i have not read many stories of the men talkinga bout there dominican women they have met so im not sure what kind of response tehy would get from the people on this board about there love affair. makes me wonder!!

[Janin]

Originally Posted by honeybunch

... and yes i also agree that men dont give a crap and so they dont post...

And women post all kind of that crap and then don't like people to call it that.

Janin

[AnnaC]

Honey you need to forget this word jealousy because these old guys do have beautiful girls falling all over the place for them. Why do you think they live there?

Yes they have made the life of some young beautiful woman easier when they moved there

Now can we have one decent discussion without mudslinging and digging up past posts and stupid jokes. Right Shad?

[Musicqueen]

Originally Posted by AnnaC

Honey you need to forget this word jealousy because these old guys do have beautiful girls falling all over the place for them. Why do you think they live there?

Yes they have made the life of some young beautiful woman easier when they moved there

Now can we have one decent discussion without mudslinging and digging up past posts and stupid jokes. Right Shad?

Anna, you're absolutely right here...But do some of them know, are they aware that these beautiful young women are with them because of the money/visa thing??? Just like a sankie would be interested in a tourist???

Or did they decide to go live there just because they found the place fascinating, and it had NOTHING to do with the chicas???

Why does it always have to be about bashing the women that come here asking questions??? Yes, granted...it's tiresome to read the same thing over and over...but so it's to read the responses from the guys!!!!

And the funny thing is, that SOME of these same posters WERE 'sankiettefied' at one time or another...and they are STILL hurting!!!!

They insist on putting the women down, like typical machos, only to get themselves to feel better..."This woman did me wrong, I'm gonna take it out on the rest of them"...I think this is their attitude...honestly!!!!

I'm not saying ALL...but do some of these men think for real that the girls fall all over them because of their kindness, their good hearts, their good looks???? Granted, some of these guys, once you get to know them, might make good husbands/boyfriends and make a woman happy for the rest of their lives...but seriously...how many of them go to DR to visit JUST to have fun??? And don't try to pick up a chica once in a while???

I asked in another thread about Boca Chica...it's called by all kinds of different derogaroty names nowadays...But who made that beach the mess it is today???

Tourists looking for 'chicas' and 'chicos' to hang out with!!! Easy prey...that could be had with just a fanning of some dollar bills in their hands!!!

How can they complain now that is "SuciaChica" or whatever they want to call it???

Come on, now...time for a total reality check...it's good and fine to give the girls advice on what you know about heartache...but tell the whole story, about how once you were also taken by a sankie, and the girls might believe you more!!!!

[AnnaC]

I don't think 50 + bald overweight guys really care if they are being used for money.

Men have been doing this for hundreds of years so I don't even think they give it another thought. It's the trophy thing

You think Donald Trumps new wife loves him for his looks and that great head of hair?

[Berzin]

Musicqueen,

lets' not mudsling here. Boca Chica is what it is, but the blame should be parcelled out in equal measure. The whores and the mongers should take blame, but also the police and the government who cannot and will not clean up their own backyards. Everyone is to blame for that place being what it is.

And just to let you know the female tourists that I hung out with were both staying in Boca Chica. There are ALOT of females out there looking for love in all the wrong places-it is not just us guys.

One was convinced that I was dominican and even offered me money for "services rendered" because she could not believe...

A)...that a tourist would know so much about getting around the area using public transportation...
B)...that my spanish was so good, including a bit of the local lingo and...
C)...that so many people seemed to know me.

This is a bit naive but what can you tell people? It seemed that these women were willing to believe whatever I told them except for the truth.

Which is why it doesn't surprise me that the women who post here about their sankies are so resistant to the advice given to them.

Besides, alot of men who fall for prostitutes know they are being idiots but they certainly won't go on a message board and post about it because they already know they are guaranteed immediate and ruthless ridicule, as it should be.

Its' one thing to go out with a hooker that you know is playing you for your money and lying to you about everything. This is what these men do and they are conscious of the charade. But they feel it is worth what they are paying for, so who can argue with that?

But the women want to be convinced that their men are different. They actually believe this love crap that these sankies sling them.

[dr_qt]

I think that if a man thinks his girl is using him (sankiette), he can easily drop her and move on. He may tell a couple of friends, be angry for a bit, but greatful he got some a** anyways. They think "she has a problem, she tried to con me"

Some women on the other hand will want to know the how, when, why, and where of the situation (sankie) and will usually not move on until they feel they have all the answers they need. They think "was I the problem, what's wrong with me that he would try to con me"

So women are more likely to post in order to get the answers they are looking for.

Some people here will post in order to give some good advice and help out a stranger. Other's post to get laughs from posters on the forum, cause a ruckus, or because they have nothing better to do with thier time.

I agree it is useless for someone to try to convince the board that thier man is not a Sankie, but some of the same posters attack people who just post about a bad Sankie experience.

Thread after thread the same posters come up with the same mean spiritted comments, and then write "I am trying to help". Often I see that rather than dealing with the questions at hand these frequent posters criticize peoples, looks, places of origion, spelling ability, etc...

They remind me of a group of school yard bullies.

[sheets]

I find that all woman seek security regardless of the country they are from, their ethnicity or educational background etc. I haven't met a woman you dosen't value a secure future for herself. Is this wrong? Me being a man find it to be natural. We men are more motivated by the physical for the most part, and our female counterparts crave security. Why do Dominican woman get such a bad wrap? I've always wondered this. Dominican woman quest for security might be more exaggerated based on their social needs. I don't think one has to be a genius to understand this. Am i wrong?