Help my friend has been Sankified!

[kim757]

My friend met a Sanky while on Vacation and fell in love she came back home broke up with her boyfriend and agreed to marry this guy she met and has only known for two weeks. I am very worried for her and fear there is nothing I can do for her. She was son who is going to be a witness to this massacre and she threw way a bf that loved her very much. Any suggestions or just let it play out? She is delirious I have never seen her this way before.

[AnnaC]

Very little you can do. You might want to tell her to read the Sanky Pankies in the Dominican Republic and all that's here for info but it might not help her at this moment.

Stand by and be her friend and that's about it. Trying to change anyone's mind that thinks they are in love is like talking to yourself, unfortunately.

Good luck

[Talldrink]

If she wont get on the forum to read up on Sankies herself, then print out some of the info from here and give to her...

Once she starts reading how much her Sankie Boyfriend sounds like the rest of them out there, maybe she'll come to grips with the situation.

However, from an total stranger reading your post online, your friend doesnt sound too stable to me in the first place. You mentioned a boyfriend, a son and the fact that you have seen her like that before... what does that mean exactly, that you've seen her in lust? or head over heels for a stranger, or throwing away all dignity and reason out the window for nothing?

Actually if she was foolish enough to go overseas and fall in love in two days - then it doesnt sound like there's nothing much you can do for her. She is a spur of the moment type of gal from what I can read and probably cannot easily be swayed away once her mind has been made up.

If you are her friend and want to be there for her, you can help her up once she falls - thats if you have the patience to see this train wreck and then offer to put the pieces back together.

I dont have such patience, so God bless if you do... I wish you and your friend the best. Good luck.

[Kyle]

i think only time (away from the sankie) can possibly heal her. what will be crazy is when she talks about returning to the DR within the next month or two or even more crazy if she talks about MOVING !!

it happens to most of us (that can admit it). i told my first sankiette i loved her on our first date (we were introduced).

ahhhhh, those were the days....

[holidaygirl]

Not sure but I was thinking the friend i met is a good guy. But after reading this not sure . I love Rio San Juan and the resort and hope this guy is the real thing
any advice

[Lapurr]

When you go back to fantasy island, try a new resort!!

[Bronxboy]

"Hey boss, the Sankie the Sankie"

[holidaygirl]

why do you think i should try a new resort

[Music]

You can be there for her but sometimes people have to learn on there own the hard way......your trying to warn her and that's all you can do as a good friend. Just keep telling her but in the end it's up to her.

She will be needing you later when this all blows up!

She should really be thinking about her son but it's obvious she's not thinking at all. Good luck!

[ExtremeR]

This is so sad that is funny, I mean broke up with her actual boyfriend to marry a sankie that she have met 2 weeks ago. Porque no usan mas el cerebro??