No Groans... but I have to ask..."Sankie or not"

[IslandPrincess]

OK OK OK... I have read every post out there and I am parinoid now. I swore I'd never date a Dominican...But I have found a hot one, and now I am asking the "Sankie or not" question:

I live in the Sosua area (Been here off and on for two years, but lived here full-time for 6 months), he's from Santiago, has a decent working class job, and a bank account (not sure about the balance). But absolutely BEAUTIFUL man. Let me start off by saying I am by no means in "love" with this guy. We enjoy each other's company

I did not come here looking for love. I have zero interest in a "real" relationship right now. I am actually a very attractive mid-twentys american girl. I get so much attention here it makes me ill. I am young, successful and have plenty of guys to choose from (All nationalities including my own with Bucus of money), and believe it or not this one would be my first vote for Mr. right now. But after reading the Billion sankie posts I am starting to wonder if he is indeed a Sankie.

We met at his Job (can't say where to protect his privacy) but nothing in resort or tourism...We had been flirting for a month or two and he asked me for my number, I gave him a business card, and the game was on. He bought me gifts, roses, teddy bears, made me CD's, bought me lunches dinners etc. NEVER asked for Money. He has cooked for me (and paid for the groceries and restocked my fridge). We both speak fluent English and Spanish. We've been having fun & hanging out together quite a bit.

BUT....here are my red flags

-Told me he loved me too soon. (I wouldn't say it back)
-He calls me Princess...But then again so does my dad...and hes not Sankie
-He's got a little girl, who's "baby's mama" lives here in Sosua
-He has no car
-I have no idea what his job pays, or how he affords the gifts he buys me
-THEN the one that really scares me is he wants me to go with him to Santiago to meet his family Mother, Bother & Sister etc. I saw this in "sankie" posts a bunch of times.

I have to admit I love the gifts, pampering, attention, affection....and Damn he's hot, but if he is a Sankie I want to cut him lose sooner rather than later. I am used to dealing with the Dominican Laborers here for my job, so I can be cold as ice. Even if his mother, sister, cousin, friend died, got sick or lost their job I'd never dish a peso.

I also told him on our second date that if he wanted to be with me I never pay for anything (period). He stuck around....I am used to being the Gold digger in the relationship here LOL.

My inner voice is saying this: I know this has almost Zero potential to work out, but who cares, he's hot, we're having fun, I'm not in LOVE, and I sure as hell am not giving him a money. This might be justification, but every rich white guy I know has about 10 Dominican Chica's, why can't I keep one hot guy until he asks me for money, and drop him like a bad habit? Especially when he's treating me like a queen & I pay for nothing...

Even still...if this guy is a sankie I do want to let him go, so give me your thoughts....I have mixed emotions on this one.

[rio2003]

Originally Posted by IslandPrincess

My inner voice is saying this: I know this has almost Zero potential to work out, but who cares, he's hot, we're having fun, I'm not in LOVE, and I sure as hell am not giving him a money. ........... why can't I keep one hot guy until he asks me for money, and drop him like a bad habit? Especially when he's treating me like a queen & I pay for nothing...

Welcome to DR1 IslandPrincess.

Forgive me, but I don't understand why you feel the need to ask this question? You have answered it for yourself. It is up to you whether you want a relationship (on any level) with a Dominican man.

He is obviously not a sankie "per se" but who knows if he still has the mother of his baby in his life or not. That is certainly the angle I would be worried about, but who knows?

If you like the guy - have fun, like you say, keep it simple and superficial (if you can) stick to the rules - no money and enjoy!
If it is too much hassle or too many worries and doubts, cast him loose.......
but ..... in my considerable experience (!) there aren't too many of them that will be 100% perfect and stress free.

There are plenty of them about....... enjoy!



Rio

[Rocky]

Originally Posted by IslandPrincess

....I am used to being the Gold digger in the relationship here LOL.

If everything you say is true, and you are a gold digger, then you deserve to be sankified, don't you think?
It's nothing personal, you know, but I'm just going by what you said.
What's good for the goose is good for the gander and if you're a gold digger, what's wrong with him being one too?

[Kyle]

in the red corner from sosua THE GOLDDIGGER !!
and in the blue corner from santiago, HE"S NOT A SANKIE AND HE'S HOT !!!

any bets ??

[Rocky]

Originally Posted by IslandPrincess

OK OK OK... I have read every post out there and I am parinoid now. I swore I'd never date a Dominican...But I have found a hot one, and now I am asking the "Sankie or not" question:.

Hey IslandP,
I don't know if you're for real, nor if the story you tell is true.
As we don't know you and it's your first post, you can understand why we would have doubts.
If you live in Sosua and you know where we are, and you truly have a problem, you're welcome to drop in and see me.
Mornings and evenings are best.
Just ask for me.

[jruane44]

Originally Posted by Kyle

in the red corner from sosua THE GOLDDIGGER !!
and in the blue corner from santiago, HE"S NOT A SANKIE AND HE'S HOT !!!

any bets ??

More like sock puppet in the red corner.

[Charlielyn]

Relax, have fun, enjoy the Dominican scene, but stick to your rules. There are good Dominican men out there - you might have found one. But why would you get involved with someone if you don't love him? That is my question.

[Rocky]

Originally Posted by Charlielyn

But why would you get involved with someone if you don't love him? That is my question.

Unless you believe in love at first sight, then there is no other option but to get involved with a person before "falling in love". (if there is such a thing)
One meets a person who shows the potential of being "lovable", one pursues it further until it either falls apart or develops into a good thing, but there is no getting away from involvement, if one wants to find out.

[rio2003]

Originally Posted by Rocky

Hey IslandP,
............. you're welcome to drop in and see me.
Mornings and evenings are best.
Just ask for me.

Knock three times and ask for " wise one" ........

Agony uncle at your service!

Relationship counselling a speciality of the house ....... with a side order of ribs, of course....




Rio

[Rocky]

Originally Posted by rio2003

Knock three times and ask for " wise one" ........

Agony uncle at your service!

Relationship counselling a speciality of the house ....... with a side order of ribs, of course....




Rio

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