news from the girl of the Britt!

[rellosk]

Originally Posted by purefolie

One thing I did'nt like though is the fact that many foreigners who now live in DR have lost some sense of morality... Men (americans, canadians, english, whatever!) that could have been my father were always flirting with me and trying to get something from me... They probably would'nt do it in their own country, why do they allow themselves this kind of behavior in DR??!

Why is it immoral for an older man to flirt with a younger woman? I can understand you not being attracted to older men, but why would you consider it immoral?

Older men flirting with younger women does happen in the US, and most younger women appreciate the compliment.

[Small World]

If you read between the lines:

Originally Posted by purefolie

Men (americans, canadians, english, whatever!) that could have been my father

comparison of men to her father = men she never found attractive

Originally Posted by purefolie

were always flirting with me

always = probably let them know she wasn't interested, maybe told them their bahaviour made her uncomfortable but they ignored this & continued to pursue her.

Originally Posted by purefolie

and trying to get something from me...

= sex. The "flirty" men were perhaps not just paying her "innocent" compliments & were leaving her in no doubt of their intentions/desires.

I didn't percieve what was written as a condemnation of all older men who flirt with young women. I thought she was saying that men who she didn't find attractive were "pursuing" her to an extent that went beyond flattering. These men are of an age where the "experience" of life should have taught them that not everyone will find them attractive, & therefore in her eyes they should have had the maturity to treat her with more respect.

Why don't all young women find old men flirting with them as a compliment? Probably because it's a given. Assuming they don't have severe physical/mental handicap young women know that in the right place at the right time they could have almost any old man, the exceptions mostly being gays.

[Eddy]

Originally Posted by purefolie

I have already returned from Sosua more than a month ago but I didn't had the time to share my experience with you before, as I've started working again my 40 hours a week... So good to live in DR hey!?!

I went in DR in Luperon Beach Resort for a week in February and I loved the country so much I wanted to return as soon as possible. So I started to look on the net, to ask questions and read people's experience and look for a place to stay. I spoke with a friend of mine who had lived 6 months in Sosua and she told me it was the best and easiest place to start, as it is half dominican/half tourists. I arrived in Sosua on April 19th and had rented an apartment for 3 months at Bella Vista condos, on the calle Ayuntamiento next to Eddy's sports bar (salut Eddy en passant! j'ai lu que étais revenu au Québec?). The apartment was a studio with all the furniture, an inversor that worked all the time and a pool. The owner, an English man, was very helpfull and was at the airport at my arrival to pick me up.

In the first days, I started to hang out in town to get to know it better, spot the colmados, the restaurants and the beach of course. I was looking for a job as waitress and I met a guy on the beach who intruced me to Linden at the Brittania bar. I had a short "interview" with Linden and Barbara (and Chanel their dog!) and I was hired at the bar. I was really amazed to get a job only 2 days after my arrival! Lucky I guess, but speaking 3 languages also helps. Working at this bar was really fun as the owners and Mel are so nice people, they became as a second family for me during my stay. As there is a lot of residents going at the Britt, I got to know a lot of people in Sosua and that's what is so fun: you walk in the street or go into a bar and there is always someone you know. I also got to know very well the staff of the Voodoo Lounge (Christy, Pipe, Trent, Luise, Mélanie, Anna...) and became good friend with them, which was very nice because there is not that much young people (except dominicans of course) living in Sosua.

I also took the time to visit a bit Rio San Juan (Laguna Grigri), Santo Domingo and Santiago (the Calle del Sol is is really worth it in my opinion), went out in Cabarete, took the conchos and the carros publicos. I became very good in Spanish and it really helped me not to be ripped off! Of course I've been robbed one time (a DVD player) but almost everyone I know has been, I guess it is part of the "experience". Finally I had to go back at the end of June as I have to finish my studies to be a police officer (maybe as Eddy I'll come back when I'll be a retired cop!). I was really sad to leave but there is unfortunately no real carrier opportunities in DR for young people.

One thing I did'nt like though is the fact that many foreigners who now live in DR have lost some sense of morality... Men (americans, canadians, english, whatever!) that could have been my father were always flirting with me and trying to get something from me... They probably would'nt do it in their own country, why do they allow themselves this kind of behavior in DR??! However, I really had the best time of my life, met wonderful people and had so much fun. I could have stayed for much longer, as this island is a little paradise!

Hope to see you again, I miss you all
Mélissa

Hi Mélissa,
Good luck with your studies. Sorry I missed you while in Montreal. I'm back in Sosua for a few more months. "C'est dommage qu'on ne c'est pas rencontré lorsque j'était à Montréal. Le festival de Merengue était bien l'fun" BTW, I also flirted with Mélissa. Anybody in his right mind would have. My motives: She was a super barmaid I would have hired her in flash.

[purefolie]

Hey Eddy!
your kind of flirt was not what I meant in my post, this was nothing comparable!! Dommage que j'ai manqué le festival de Merengue (je travaillais à La ronde), mais il y le festival Latino Américain en ce moment aussi, et la R.D. est le 13 août.

Small World was absolutely right when talking about men much older than me for whom I showed absolutely no interest and still where trying to have sex with me... Let's get an exemple: here is an american dude of about 50 year-old (by the way I'm 20) that I met on the beach for the first time at Sharks bar. He starts speaking with me and after 5 minutes he tells me "Maybe we could go to my condo... I have a nice pool and blablabla... 'rolling his eyes'" Tell him I am not interested and still he goes on talking me about his pool... I know I am French but my English is not that bad so he understood me well and is still trying. It's like "hey men, didn't you get what I'm saying??"

This is something that absolutely don't happen to me in Canada. Maybe men older than me are looking at me, but they would never approach me in the kind of way they do in D.R. I think it is really part of the atmosphere of the country.
Happy you liked my report, don't stick on my last paragraph because I really loved DR!!!
Mélissa

[Escott]

Childish post.

[Dragonfly32837]

Escott, she just said that she is 20 years old.

[paddy]

Originally Posted by Eddy

Hi Mélissa,
Good luck with your studies. Sorry I missed you while in Montreal. I'm back in Sosua for a few more months. "C'est dommage qu'on ne c'est pas rencontré lorsque j'était à Montréal. Le festival de Merengue était bien l'fun" BTW, I also flirted with Mélissa. Anybody in his right mind would have. My motives: She was a super barmaid I would have hired her in flash.

how super could she be?? let's face it ...a super barmaid ..not only needs to be a good mixologist..fast on her feet behind that bar.. but able to handle her customers egos as well...and not be "shocked" that a much older man would hit on her..if she was super ...we all would't be wasting our time trying to explain why "boys will be boys" to someone who's still a little girl and from what i see don't belong on either side of a bar.

[AnnaC]

Originally Posted by purefolie

.. Let's get an exemple: here is an american dude of about 50 year-old (by the way I'm 20) that I met on the beach for the first time at Sharks bar. He starts speaking with me and after 5 minutes he tells me "Maybe we could go to my condo... I have a nice pool and blablabla... 'rolling his eyes'" Tell him I am not interested and still he goes on talking me about his pool... I know I am French but my English is not that bad so he understood me well and is still trying. It's like "hey men, didn't you get what I'm saying??"

Ok now I understand. That isn't what I would call flirting, that is hitting on you especially after you said no.


Next time someone does that to you, look him up and down make an ugly face and say. " yeah as if " and then do this

[Eddy]

Originally Posted by paddy

how super could she be?? let's face it ...a super barmaid ..not only needs to be a good mixologist..fast on her feet behind that bar.. but able to handle her customers egos as well...and not be "shocked" that a much older man would hit on her..if she was super ...we all would't be wasting our time trying to explain why "boys will be boys" to someone who's still a little girl and from what i see don't belong on either side of a bar.

Whatever.

[rmary]

Melissa, you sound like a smart young lady and that bodes well for your career as a police officer. My heartfelt best of luck with your career.

I enjoyed reading your report. There are so many young women who want to head down the the DR and work there who wind up getting into trouble. It is really nice to read about someone who has done it, enjoyed themselves and is happy with their experience.

Rose