The Parents

[jrf]

Well yesterday I made the mistake of saying too much and was a bit disrespectful with the parents of a girl that I was seeing.
Now there are a number of things that I had seen with the way the parents treat their children that I just don't agree with and since I was seeing their daughter after a couple of months I said something about it.
I had a few issues relating to the 'rules' of the house with my amigita and her being the oldest of their children is what I 'discussed' with the parents.

Well, her mother and I don't exactly see eye to eye on a few things but what I found out was that what my amigita was telling me wasn't exactly clear either.
So not only was I disrespectful (I can get a bit heated at times) there are things that I thought were true aren't.
Not sure what is going to happen now and not sure how to make it up to the Mother (I get along with the father better).

Any other experiences with dealing with the parents?

[badpiece33]

what excactly are we talking about here? You are not being clear as to what happened.

[Chirimoya]

I don't think 'seeing their daughter for a couple of months' qualifies you for undermining parental authority in any class or culture, but the magnitude of your gaffe depends on what the issue actually was.

[miguel]

Originally Posted by jrf

Well yesterday I made the mistake of saying too much and was a bit disrespectful with the parents of a girl that I was seeing.
Now there are a number of things that I had seen with the way the parents treat their children that I just don't agree with and since I was seeing their daughter after a couple of months I said something about it.
I had a few issues relating to the 'rules' of the house with my amigita and her being the oldest of their children is what I 'discussed' with the parents.

Well, her mother and I don't exactly see eye to eye on a few things but what I found out was that what my amigita was telling me wasn't exactly clear either.
So not only was I disrespectful (I can get a bit heated at times) there are things that I thought were true aren't.
Not sure what is going to happen now and not sure how to make it up to the Mother (I get along with the father better).

Any other experiences with dealing with the parents?

One thing you do NOT tell Dominicans is how to raise their kids.....Even if the "kid" is 100 years old....Good of bad, you just can NOT do that.....Therefore, may God have mercy on your soul!.

I do need to ask you though:

Why do you think you have to right to tell her parent ANYTHING after dating her a couple of months? (actually, for a few days).

And you are definitelly crossing the line by having "a few issues relating with the rules of the house"......Welll, unless you pay for ALLLLLL their living expenses!.

Maybe you can bribe the mom a little and if she is nice enough, she will forgive you (buy her a few things here and there, of course, AFTER saying you are sorry).

Perhaps she is NOT as "nice" as I am and will forgive you, .....Because brother, if you acted like that after only seeing her for a couple of "months", I can only imagine how you will act after seeing her for 1-3 years!!. But to each their own!.

Good luck and next time, mind your own business...They will "care" for you more when you do!.

[mountainfrog]

Originally Posted by jrf

...I had a few issues relating to the 'rules' of the house with my amigita and her being the oldest of their children is what I 'discussed' with the parents.

The rules of the houses are their rules. Basta!
I'ts certainly not done to make up their minds for them or patronize them.

An then, make things easy for yourself and do not try to do 'missionary work'.
If you are to stay with this girl she may some time see things your way.
But that will take time. Much time.

[Kyle]

and plz understand if it comes down to you versus her family, guess who wins ?

[Jumbo]

I believe JRF was told some untruths by his novia, acted on emotion and now knows he goofed. Even when i buy all the food, booze and a new tank of propane for sunday dinner if i am in someone elses house i am only a guest. I find the more i open my mouth the more it costs me.

[Hipocrito Mejia]

I would say that at this time it's a lost cause. Cut bait!

Why do I say this? Well, even if you managed to smooth this over for now, it will always be a problem looking to resurface. The relief will only be temporary because you already crossed the line, and there is no going back. If you stay with this woman, this little incident will be like the gift that keeps on giving.

[Berzin]

Originally Posted by Hipocrito Mejia

I would say that at this time it's a lost cause. Cut bait!

Why do I say this? Well, even if you managed to smooth this over for now, it will always be a problem looking to resurface. The relief will only be temporary because you already crossed the line, and there is no going back. If you stay with this woman, this little incident will be like the gift that keeps on giving.

This would be true if we knew what we were commenting on.

But we don't. We have absolutely no idea except for the fact that there is tension between the OP and his girlfriends' mother.

Caused by what exactly, we don't know.

So as far as threads go, this is one is not making a whole lot of sense.

[miguel]

Originally Posted by Berzin

This would be true if we knew what we were commenting on.

But we don't. We have absolutely no idea except for the fact that there is tension between the OP and his girlfriends' mother.

Caused by what exactly, we don't know.

So as far as threads go, this is one is not making a whole lot of sense.

It's pretty simple.....I already put myself in the mom's position.....NOW, let me put YOU in her position:

What if your daughter was seeing a foreigner for about 2 months (which translates to a few days) and this guy comes to your home, even after knowing that you don't like him that much from the get-go, and he tells you, and NOT in a nice way, that he has issues with the way YOU are ruling your house?.

Perhaps you are a better man than I but I would hang him by the balls!.

OP: cut ALLL ties, move on and lean from YOUR mistake!.