My relationship

[japa]

Hello, I am new here, I am from Europe and my boyfriend from D.R. Here comes a long story... Sorry...

I lived there for a year and met him there.
We were friends at first. Not like good good friends. We just... knew each other and said hellos. I did admit to my friend that I thought that he was cute. I am going to call him, the guy, in this story.

It started with me being fed up with Dominican guys, I went to my friends house and spilled my heart out how I couldn't get to the "colmado" without being harassed/asked out on a date/called gringa/given love confession... I asked to meet a genuine guy who doesn't want me for being blond, grey-eyed European, a man who doesn't care about looks, status, color, etc.
(Btw, I lived in a VERY small town, up in the mountains).

She laughed and said:"Dream on". (She is Dominican but has a US residence and parents who have money, I felt like she was the only one who really could understand me).

So, I went to the "park" and sat down with another friend. Suddenly I noticed the guy driving past on his motor, again and again and again...
It made me laugh. What the hell is he doing? I thought. Oh, little did I know...

I chatted to a lot of good friends. There was a "dia de fiesta" and a lot of people around. (Oh, and it was night and I didn't understand THAT much Spanish) My friend jumped up from where we were sitting to talk to a guy she liked, I couldn't join in the conversation hence to the fact that I thought everyone spoke extremely fast and I didn't understand much. So, there I was alone.

Suddenly the guy parked his motor and walked towards me. Ok, play it cool, I thought. "Hola" he said. "Hola" I responded. We chatted for a long time, mostly with my simple answer of "Que? No entiendo", he just laughed and tried to talk slower and with more simple words that I did understand. He was really patient. And quite the charmer I must say. Yes, I liked him, but didn't fall for him. My friend and called him, saying that I might me interested. That little devil.

After few days we met again in the park, this time we talked more about relationships, he had broken up with his girlfriend about 3 months ago, I had broken up with mine a few days ago, from my country that is. He asked me out, and I thought, why not?
At least I knew know exactly what kinds I have to look out for, being warned a lot. And, he did seem one of them but of course no one knows for sure at such early stage. And, I did live in a small town, everybody knew each other, he got the clearing of everyone, even my teachers at school hahaha.

Within a week we called each other "a couple". We saw each other everyday, we talked about stuff, things that matter to us, our families, us, etc. everyday.

A lot of things happened to strengthen what we had.
*He got really sick, I was with him at the "clinica", about 5 times he had to be put in one.
* He was with me when I got sick. It was shortly after the hurricane Noel and my town was bad, roads, bridges and houses were ruined. Everything got dirtier therefore with my European stomach I couldn't handle it. Got stupid infections and "parasitos". He even slept in the "clinica" even though it was not allowed, the doctor was a good friend and gave a special permission.
* He tought me Spanish, I know it very well now and get compliments on how fast I learned it. All because of how patient he was and willing to teach me.
* I got robbed, hehe, stupid guys, I got an Adrenaline kick and beat one of the guys down, they were 5, 2 armed with guns, which I didn't see, just my friend that was with me. They ran away and only managed to get my phone.
I know it was stupid to attack back, but I couldn't help it, and they did run away. I was lucky. My bf warned everybody in town, if something happened to me again, hell would brake loose.
* I got treated bad by the family I stayed with. He helped me arrange with my organization to change families and I stayed with his aunt and uncle who are the greatest people on earth and I call their 3 young sons my brothers.

I know his family really well, his dad thinks about me like I am his own daughter and his mom does everything for me. She cooked, cleaned, etc. everything for me when I was sick. She did special meals cause I wasn't allowed to eat a lot of food because of my bad stomach. She forced me to eat when my appetite went down causing me to loose a lot of weight. She really saved me. I was so bad of hydration and she made me a home made juice of whatever I wanted everyday, and then forced me to drink "agua de coco", but I hated the taste. It is really good apparently when you were sick with what I had. His 2 brothers were my brothers. I am the Godmother of his older brothers baby. I have to do nothing, just give it a extra kisses and love. Of course I agreed. I know his abuelos, and a lot of his tias, tios, primas and primos.

I went home on the 24th of April, we have been together for 8 months now. (October, 21st). We are so in love.
And he doesn't fit the Sanky Panky description. (Oh, and I saw the movie, Sanky Panky, made me laugh).

* He has NEVER asked me for money, he didn't even want a birthday present. I gave him though. 'Cause I thought he deserved it. Works hard that man.
* He is not asking for a VISA, his grandmother who lives in Boston has already applied to get a VISA for him. So, when he moves to Boston, he will be MY VISA.
* He had no idea that my parents were loaded. My dad working as a pilot and my mom in business. In fact, no one did. I told him about 3 months into the relationship.

We are just so in love. He is going to university in Santo Domingo and I am finishing my business college in couple of years...
I am 18, he is going on 20. I know we are young, but... ay tu sabes.
We are having it long distance until I finish school, of course with him visiting me and I him. Then I would go to the R.D. until he finishes school and gets his VISA. Then we are both going to move to Boston. With me moving home until my papers are ready. (But I can legally stay in the US for 6 months with a special permit, takes short time to get it). We fully understand that this relationship might not even work out just like any other, but right now, we are sure that we want to be together.

Here are some "rules" or more like "guidelines" that I saw here:
1) He has a bank account equal to your own-in pesos, not dollars or pounds (You have 100 pounds, he has 100 pesos, that's all.). He has a Credit Card and can write a cheque.
2) He has a Visa to travel to the US, Canada or Europe
3) He is educated to the equivalent of your own level: High School, Tech School whatever.....

1) Mine has nothing. His mom and dad weren't that rich and they lost a lot of what they had in the hurricane Noel, because his dad grows fruits and vegetables. The local river took everything. So, he is classified as "poor" now. But, his grandmother got hit by a bus in Boston and the state is paying her money because of it. So she helps them a lot and also is paying for a lot for him to be able to go to university.
2) He doesn't even have a passport. He is getting one now though. And he is waiting for his VISA. But it can take years.
3) He is, but all public schools. He got good grates though!

So, in my case, none of these guidelines would work.
I know he is into ME. No Sanky Panky would how done what he did for me.
He hasn't asked for a dime from me. Oh yeah, he asked if he could get a piece of a chewing gum I owned and also asked if I would mind buying him a ice cream that cost 5 pesos. I was getting one anyway. Before they hurricane came it was HE that gave me what I wanted. I was hungry, he would go out and buy food for me etc.
I ate at his house everyday, and didn't pay a penny, even though I wanted too. They were just so happy that I was finally eating well after my sickness.

My parents and friends think I am crazy.... Actually my parents think I should brake up with him. That he is "a guy from the Dominican Republic". Like he is not worthy. But they are coming around or I hope so.

So, what do you think?
Do I have something? (IYHO)
Or am I crazy?

Personally, I think I am crazy, but in a good way.

P.s. I do admit that I did pay a lot for him. For example, we were out walking, I wanted water, I also gave him. But he never asked for a thing.

He used to work like crazy. Got a a fair amount of money to pay for university, but had to pay his medical bills with them when he got sick. He got a insurance now thank god. That boy is always sick.

[Robert]

Don't worry, one day you look back at this post and laugh.

AZB, your up baby!

[Bronxboy]

Originally Posted by Robert

Don't worry, one day you look back at this post and laugh.

AZB, your up baby!

I am laughing already!!!!

Ok, I will play nice

[AnnaC]

If you guys can't compose a well constructed post giving some decent advice I'll only delete your posts so don't bother wasting your time.

[dradventures]

Originally Posted by japa

Hello, I am new here, I am from Europe and my boyfriend from D.R. Here comes a long story... Sorry...

I lived there for a year and met him there.
We were friends at first. Not like good good friends. We just... knew each other and said hellos. I did admit to my friend that I thought that he was cute. I am going to call him, the guy, in this story.

It started with me being fed up with Dominican guys, I went to my friends house and spilled my heart out how I couldn't get to the "colmado" without being harassed/asked out on a date/called gringa/given love confession... I asked to meet a genuine guy who doesn't want me for being blond, grey-eyed European, a man who doesn't care about looks, status, color, etc.
(Btw, I lived in a VERY small town, up in the mountains).

She laughed and said:"Dream on". (She is Dominican but has a US residence and parents who have money, I felt like she was the only one who really could understand me).

So, I went to the "park" and sat down with another friend. Suddenly I noticed the guy driving past on his motor, again and again and again...
It made me laugh. What the hell is he doing? I thought. Oh, little did I know...

I chatted to a lot of good friends. There was a "dia de fiesta" and a lot of people around. (Oh, and it was night and I didn't understand THAT much Spanish) My friend jumped up from where we were sitting to talk to a guy she liked, I couldn't join in the conversation hence to the fact that I thought everyone spoke extremely fast and I didn't understand much. So, there I was alone.

Suddenly the guy parked his motor and walked towards me. Ok, play it cool, I thought. "Hola" he said. "Hola" I responded. We chatted for a long time, mostly with my simple answer of "Que? No entiendo", he just laughed and tried to talk slower and with more simple words that I did understand. He was really patient. And quite the charmer I must say. Yes, I liked him, but didn't fall for him. My friend and called him, saying that I might me interested. That little devil.

After few days we met again in the park, this time we talked more about relationships, he had broken up with his girlfriend about 3 months ago, I had broken up with mine a few days ago, from my country that is. He asked me out, and I thought, why not?
At least I knew know exactly what kinds I have to look out for, being warned a lot. And, he did seem one of them but of course no one knows for sure at such early stage. And, I did live in a small town, everybody knew each other, he got the clearing of everyone, even my teachers at school hahaha.

Within a week we called each other "a couple". We saw each other everyday, we talked about stuff, things that matter to us, our families, us, etc. everyday.

A lot of things happened to strengthen what we had.
*He got really sick, I was with him at the "clinica", about 5 times he had to be put in one.
* He was with me when I got sick. It was shortly after the hurricane Noel and my town was bad, roads, bridges and houses were ruined. Everything got dirtier therefore with my European stomach I couldn't handle it. Got stupid infections and "parasitos". He even slept in the "clinica" even though it was not allowed, the doctor was a good friend and gave a special permission.
* He tought me Spanish, I know it very well now and get compliments on how fast I learned it. All because of how patient he was and willing to teach me.
* I got robbed, hehe, stupid guys, I got an Adrenaline kick and beat one of the guys down, they were 5, 2 armed with guns, which I didn't see, just my friend that was with me. They ran away and only managed to get my phone.
I know it was stupid to attack back, but I couldn't help it, and they did run away. I was lucky. My bf warned everybody in town, if something happened to me again, hell would brake loose.
* I got treated bad by the family I stayed with. He helped me arrange with my organization to change families and I stayed with his aunt and uncle who are the greatest people on earth and I call their 3 young sons my brothers.

I know his family really well, his dad thinks about me like I am his own daughter and his mom does everything for me. She cooked, cleaned, etc. everything for me when I was sick. She did special meals cause I wasn't allowed to eat a lot of food because of my bad stomach. She forced me to eat when my appetite went down causing me to loose a lot of weight. She really saved me. I was so bad of hydration and she made me a home made juice of whatever I wanted everyday, and then forced me to drink "agua de coco", but I hated the taste. It is really good apparently when you were sick with what I had. His 2 brothers were my brothers. I am the Godmother of his older brothers baby. I have to do nothing, just give it a extra kisses and love. Of course I agreed. I know his abuelos, and a lot of his tias, tios, primas and primos.

I went home on the 24th of April, we have been together for 8 months now. (October, 21st). We are so in love.
And he doesn't fit the Sanky Panky description. (Oh, and I saw the movie, Sanky Panky, made me laugh).

* He has NEVER asked me for money, he didn't even want a birthday present. I gave him though. 'Cause I thought he deserved it. Works hard that man.
* He is not asking for a VISA, his grandmother who lives in Boston has already applied to get a VISA for him. So, when he moves to Boston, he will be MY VISA.
* He had no idea that my parents were loaded. My dad working as a pilot and my mom in business. In fact, no one did. I told him about 3 months into the relationship.

We are just so in love. He is going to university in Santo Domingo and I am finishing my business college in couple of years...
I am 18, he is going on 20. I know we are young, but... ay tu sabes.
We are having it long distance until I finish school, of course with him visiting me and I him. Then I would go to the R.D. until he finishes school and gets his VISA. Then we are both going to move to Boston. With me moving home until my papers are ready. (But I can legally stay in the US for 6 months with a special permit, takes short time to get it). We fully understand that this relationship might not even work out just like any other, but right now, we are sure that we want to be together.

Here are some "rules" or more like "guidelines" that I saw here:
1) He has a bank account equal to your own-in pesos, not dollars or pounds (You have 100 pounds, he has 100 pesos, that's all.). He has a Credit Card and can write a cheque.
2) He has a Visa to travel to the US, Canada or Europe
3) He is educated to the equivalent of your own level: High School, Tech School whatever.....

1) Mine has nothing. His mom and dad weren't that rich and they lost a lot of what they had in the hurricane Noel, because his dad grows fruits and vegetables. The local river took everything. So, he is classified as "poor" now. But, his grandmother got hit by a bus in Boston and the state is paying her money because of it. So she helps them a lot and also is paying for a lot for him to be able to go to university.
2) He doesn't even have a passport. He is getting one now though. And he is waiting for his VISA. But it can take years.
3) He is, but all public schools. He got good grates though!

So, in my case, none of these guidelines would work.
I know he is into ME. No Sanky Panky would how done what he did for me.
He hasn't asked for a dime from me. Oh yeah, he asked if he could get a piece of a chewing gum I owned and also asked if I would mind buying him a ice cream that cost 5 pesos. I was getting one anyway. Before they hurricane came it was HE that gave me what I wanted. I was hungry, he would go out and buy food for me etc.
I ate at his house everyday, and didn't pay a penny, even though I wanted too. They were just so happy that I was finally eating well after my sickness.

My parents and friends think I am crazy.... Actually my parents think I should brake up with him. That he is "a guy from the Dominican Republic". Like he is not worthy. But they are coming around or I hope so.

So, what do you think?
Do I have something? (IYHO)
Or am I crazy?

Personally, I think I am crazy, but in a good way.

P.s. I do admit that I did pay a lot for him. For example, we were out walking, I wanted water, I also gave him. But he never asked for a thing.

He used to work like crazy. Got a a fair amount of money to pay for university, but had to pay his medical bills with them when he got sick. He got a insurance now thank god. That boy is always sick.

You are going to take a bit of heat on this on, I'm afraid.

[SKing]

They never ASK for the money, sweetie......
That's how they work.
IMHO
SHALENA

Good Luck

[Robert]

The only reason an "adult" would post something like this on a public message board, is because they have doubts and are looking for some sort of validation. Or they are a troll that gets a kick out of this sort of stuff

I think we all know from 10 years of DR1, this relationship has maybe a 0.5% chance of lasting longer than 12 months. That's the cold hard truth, so let's not be all nice and squishy in our responses.

The bottom line is that Japa wouldn't look twice at this guy back in her home country, but she comes to the DR, get's a little Latin fever and goes nuts.
No wonder most decent Dominican guys wouldn't give most gringas the time of day.

Japa, I honestly wish you the best of luck in your relationship and I truly wish I was wrong. But based on 1000's of stories I have heard in the DR whilst living here and on DR1. You better off moving on before you suffer anymore. Jesus, you good looking and 18, go and enjoy your life!

[Chip]

#1 All poor young Dominicans want to get off of this island.

#2 Many if not most young Dominican fellows who aren't church going have more than one girlfriend.

#3 All poor Dominicans think that anybody that lives abroad is rich and why not, I doubt his total family income is more than US$200.

#4 Whether you accept it or not, 99% of his friends are telling him to string you along as possible because he got a gringa.

#5 If you want to be sure about him, have a PI track him down and take pictures, you may not like the result.

Nonetheless, best of luck

[Berzin]

Japa,

there is too much at stake for all involved for you to be seeing this with rose-colored glasses on.

You are young and in love, and my gut feeling is maybe you will not listen to any of the prevailing wisdom that may sound like negativity.

Telling him about your family's financial status was a huge mistake-I understand you feel like there is a strong bond of trust here, but read some of the other threads on this subject that all come to the same conclusion-

A gringa to poor dominicans=money.

You present many instances where money was not a factor but that doesn't mean anything. You have to believe us on this.

Its' not a factor now because he could very well be playing you for the long haul.

You are young and do not need to take drastic steps in life right now.

We all remember our first loves when we were that age-how we thought we would die without them, or that they were the only persons who understood us.

We are all alive and have moved on. Friendships and relationships mean much more to us when we are younger-and as we get older we become less trusting and maybe a little more selfish, but thats' not necessarily a bad thing.

Everyone thinks they can conquer the world or that love conquers all when they are young-that is not the case when your partner and his family have ulterior motives.

You were made to feel like part of the family but read post number 2 in this thread.

Relationships for men 101...

This post was written by someone who knows.

All we can do is direct you to certain links so that you can get some sobering accounts on the realities of dealing with poor dominicans and what role YOU will play in their lives.

You have a stake in their survival. There is doubt about it. You are a means to an end. You may not enjoy reading this, but there is no doubt that aside from the love you think exists between both of you, which in the DR may have felt wonderful, the reality of what awaits you should you carry this relationship on to marriage will be cruel and painful.

The odds are just too stacked against you on this, and the consequences will be severe, not only to your heart but also to your wallet.

[lalla]

Originally Posted by japa

Hello, I am new here, I am from Europe and my boyfriend from D.R. Here comes a long story... Sorry...

I lived there for a year and met him there.
We were friends at first. Not like good good friends. We just... knew each other and said hellos. I did admit to my friend that I thought that he was cute. I am going to call him, the guy, in this story.

It started with me being fed up with Dominican guys, I went to my friends house and spilled my heart out how I couldn't get to the "colmado" without being harassed/asked out on a date/called gringa/given love confession... I asked to meet a genuine guy who doesn't want me for being blond, grey-eyed European, a man who doesn't care about looks, status, color, etc.
(Btw, I lived in a VERY small town, up in the mountains).

She laughed and said:"Dream on". (She is Dominican but has a US residence and parents who have money, I felt like she was the only one who really could understand me).

So, I went to the "park" and sat down with another friend. Suddenly I noticed the guy driving past on his motor, again and again and again...
It made me laugh. What the hell is he doing? I thought. Oh, little did I know...

I chatted to a lot of good friends. There was a "dia de fiesta" and a lot of people around. (Oh, and it was night and I didn't understand THAT much Spanish) My friend jumped up from where we were sitting to talk to a guy she liked, I couldn't join in the conversation hence to the fact that I thought everyone spoke extremely fast and I didn't understand much. So, there I was alone.

Suddenly the guy parked his motor and walked towards me. Ok, play it cool, I thought. "Hola" he said. "Hola" I responded. We chatted for a long time, mostly with my simple answer of "Que? No entiendo", he just laughed and tried to talk slower and with more simple words that I did understand. He was really patient. And quite the charmer I must say. Yes, I liked him, but didn't fall for him. My friend and called him, saying that I might me interested. That little devil.

After few days we met again in the park, this time we talked more about relationships, he had broken up with his girlfriend about 3 months ago, I had broken up with mine a few days ago, from my country that is. He asked me out, and I thought, why not?
At least I knew know exactly what kinds I have to look out for, being warned a lot. And, he did seem one of them but of course no one knows for sure at such early stage. And, I did live in a small town, everybody knew each other, he got the clearing of everyone, even my teachers at school hahaha.

Within a week we called each other "a couple". We saw each other everyday, we talked about stuff, things that matter to us, our families, us, etc. everyday.

A lot of things happened to strengthen what we had.
*He got really sick, I was with him at the "clinica", about 5 times he had to be put in one.
* He was with me when I got sick. It was shortly after the hurricane Noel and my town was bad, roads, bridges and houses were ruined. Everything got dirtier therefore with my European stomach I couldn't handle it. Got stupid infections and "parasitos". He even slept in the "clinica" even though it was not allowed, the doctor was a good friend and gave a special permission.
* He tought me Spanish, I know it very well now and get compliments on how fast I learned it. All because of how patient he was and willing to teach me.
* I got robbed, hehe, stupid guys, I got an Adrenaline kick and beat one of the guys down, they were 5, 2 armed with guns, which I didn't see, just my friend that was with me. They ran away and only managed to get my phone.
I know it was stupid to attack back, but I couldn't help it, and they did run away. I was lucky. My bf warned everybody in town, if something happened to me again, hell would brake loose.
* I got treated bad by the family I stayed with. He helped me arrange with my organization to change families and I stayed with his aunt and uncle who are the greatest people on earth and I call their 3 young sons my brothers.

I know his family really well, his dad thinks about me like I am his own daughter and his mom does everything for me. She cooked, cleaned, etc. everything for me when I was sick. She did special meals cause I wasn't allowed to eat a lot of food because of my bad stomach. She forced me to eat when my appetite went down causing me to loose a lot of weight. She really saved me. I was so bad of hydration and she made me a home made juice of whatever I wanted everyday, and then forced me to drink "agua de coco", but I hated the taste. It is really good apparently when you were sick with what I had. His 2 brothers were my brothers. I am the Godmother of his older brothers baby. I have to do nothing, just give it a extra kisses and love. Of course I agreed. I know his abuelos, and a lot of his tias, tios, primas and primos.

I went home on the 24th of April, we have been together for 8 months now. (October, 21st). We are so in love.
And he doesn't fit the Sanky Panky description. (Oh, and I saw the movie, Sanky Panky, made me laugh).

* He has NEVER asked me for money, he didn't even want a birthday present. I gave him though. 'Cause I thought he deserved it. Works hard that man.
* He is not asking for a VISA, his grandmother who lives in Boston has already applied to get a VISA for him. So, when he moves to Boston, he will be MY VISA.
* He had no idea that my parents were loaded. My dad working as a pilot and my mom in business. In fact, no one did. I told him about 3 months into the relationship.

We are just so in love. He is going to university in Santo Domingo and I am finishing my business college in couple of years...
I am 18, he is going on 20. I know we are young, but... ay tu sabes.
We are having it long distance until I finish school, of course with him visiting me and I him. Then I would go to the R.D. until he finishes school and gets his VISA. Then we are both going to move to Boston. With me moving home until my papers are ready. (But I can legally stay in the US for 6 months with a special permit, takes short time to get it). We fully understand that this relationship might not even work out just like any other, but right now, we are sure that we want to be together.

Here are some "rules" or more like "guidelines" that I saw here:
1) He has a bank account equal to your own-in pesos, not dollars or pounds (You have 100 pounds, he has 100 pesos, that's all.). He has a Credit Card and can write a cheque.
2) He has a Visa to travel to the US, Canada or Europe
3) He is educated to the equivalent of your own level: High School, Tech School whatever.....

1) Mine has nothing. His mom and dad weren't that rich and they lost a lot of what they had in the hurricane Noel, because his dad grows fruits and vegetables. The local river took everything. So, he is classified as "poor" now. But, his grandmother got hit by a bus in Boston and the state is paying her money because of it. So she helps them a lot and also is paying for a lot for him to be able to go to university.
2) He doesn't even have a passport. He is getting one now though. And he is waiting for his VISA. But it can take years.
3) He is, but all public schools. He got good grates though!

So, in my case, none of these guidelines would work.
I know he is into ME. No Sanky Panky would how done what he did for me.
He hasn't asked for a dime from me. Oh yeah, he asked if he could get a piece of a chewing gum I owned and also asked if I would mind buying him a ice cream that cost 5 pesos. I was getting one anyway. Before they hurricane came it was HE that gave me what I wanted. I was hungry, he would go out and buy food for me etc.
I ate at his house everyday, and didn't pay a penny, even though I wanted too. They were just so happy that I was finally eating well after my sickness.

My parents and friends think I am crazy.... Actually my parents think I should brake up with him. That he is "a guy from the Dominican Republic". Like he is not worthy. But they are coming around or I hope so.

So, what do you think?
Do I have something? (IYHO)
Or am I crazy?

Personally, I think I am crazy, but in a good way.

P.s. I do admit that I did pay a lot for him. For example, we were out walking, I wanted water, I also gave him. But he never asked for a thing.

He used to work like crazy. Got a a fair amount of money to pay for university, but had to pay his medical bills with them when he got sick. He got a insurance now thank god. That boy is always sick.

This post is so long that I dont know where to start.

From a female point of view........

Go back and read your post again. REALLY read it.

And ask yourself, why would you get invovled with a person that cannot afford a 5peso ice cream for themselves? If you lived at home, would you "date" someone like him? Answer honestly. If you lived at home, would you buy things for someone like him?

I am not saying that he is less of a person then you because he is less fortunate. But you have to take into account that this person is poor and likely looking for a way out of poverty. This topic has been beaten to death, your post sounds like so many other posts on this site, do a search for "my boyfriend".

He might not be a full blown sanky, but HE IS A MAN looking for a way out and his family might love you and treat you great, but they also might be seeing you as a connection to the stateside, and just one more person to add (besides the grandma) to the list of people that can send them things. Dominican people are great people and very hospitable by nature, but they also know a good opportunity when they see one, and they are not going to pass on adding another person to that list of "mandame una caja".

Dont be a silly girl.

And the whole "he doesnt ask me for money, i just like to give him gifts"..... why do you give him gifts? because he complains so much of his lack of this or that? and then you as the good girlfried are there to "surprise" him with that leather wallet he'd been complaining about for months??

Talk to some of the guys on this site, they will enlighten you....

Hasta cuando??